Soul's Day Game Q&A

[Keldas]

What are your tips for meeting girls in cafes? Should you try to move the girl out of the cafe or build as much comfort as you can and arrange a time bridge?

PS does your upcoming seminar have an in-field portion?

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[londonsoul]

Originally Posted by sys

hey soul, my question is focused in kino
1. my main sticking point in day game is kino escalation. what is your thought about kino escalation in day game?

2. what if the girl feel uncomfortable with your kino progression, do you stop or wait and do it again?

3. how to kino escalate when she is with her friend? is it okay to do it in front of her friend or do i just escalate both of them??

Hey buddy,

1. Don't worry too much about kino escalation in the daytime. If you can get some kino as you open (I normally touch girls VERY lightly on the arm as I open them) and shake their hand that's enough. Don't kino her like you would in a night club.

However, once you get into instant date territory, then obviously it's a date, so you can generally kino as you normally would on dates. But bear in mind, she is less likely to kiss you when it is still daylight out. Ideally, you want to keep moving her (e.g. café, bar, another bar, your place) until it starts to get dark outside, at which point you can ramp up the kino to kiss closing and more. Girls have this thing where they associate the evening with sex.

2. Dude if any girl, daytime or not, is uncomfortable with your kino escalation, then yes, stop but be emotionally unreactive to the fact that she didn't respond well (don't treat it like a big deal and don't apologise!). Keep talking/gaming her, and then try again in a few mins.

3. Don't kino escalate her in front of her friends. You need to isolate her before you start to seriously physically escalate.

Soul

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[londonsoul]

Originally Posted by newbiepua

When you're going direct gaming, do you think being good-looking is a requirement, is it more important than in indirect game ? etc.

Direct or Indirect mate, looks do help. However, so do a lot of other things: humour, intelligence, social intuition for example.

There are hundreds of different attraction switches and my personal belief is that good looks are one of them. However, girls don't tend to fall for guys that hit only one attraction switch, they like guys that can hit a lot of them. It doesn't really matter if it's looks, humour and intelligence, or social intuition, charm and honesty - if you're hitting a lot of switches she will get attracted to you.

That said, why would you not try to hit as many as possible? You can totally make the most out of your looks by good grooming and hitting the gym.

I'm not the best looking guy in the world but I make an effort to do these things. Here are some pics of me (showing a bad pic and then what some sprucing up can do!) and a few of some of the girls I've picked up through direct and day game. I probably shouldn't post these but I want you guys to see what is possible even when you're not amazing looking!











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[londonsoul]

Originally Posted by Keldas

What are your tips for meeting girls in cafes? Should you try to move the girl out of the cafe or build as much comfort as you can and arrange a time bridge?

Spend time with her in the café first of all and then start establishing a plan by asking her logistical questions, e.g. what she is doing there?

Standard day game rules apply: if you can spend as much time with her upon first meeting, then do it. E.g. she is doing her work there but doesn't have much to do today. Solution: spend time with her in the café, then suggest going for a walk, then suggest a drink at a bar, another bar, another walk, your place is just around the corner etc...

But if she seems like she will be busy later, then spend a bit of time with her at the café, and be socially calibrated by saying, "well I know you've got stuff to do, but it was great talking with you and I'll give you a call about doing that thing we discussed" etc.

So really, it all depends on her situation. The important thing is not force her out of the café unless a) the interaction is going well, and b) she doesn't seem to be too busy the rest of her afternoon.

PS does your upcoming seminar have an in-field portion?

There's no in-field portion, but I cram as many practical exercises for things like opening, attraction building, qualification and comfort into it as I can. I've learnt from doing seminars that these practical exercises REALLY help students. It's one thing for me to explain how I build attraction, and another thing to demonstrate on a student (who is very secure in their sexuality, haha) how I do it.

I think in-field demos are GREAT for breaking someone's reality and showing them what's possible, but with a practical exercise in a controlled room (with one of you acting as the girl) you can actually break down the interaction into it's components, show them body language, the right words to use etc.

My homoerotic kino demonstrations are legendary, I think they are mentioned in a couple of reviews

Soul

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[canyoudoabackflip]

What is your general approach/structure to hired guns (Working in stores/mall) during the day, especially if it is a time-constrained situation?

[TomFoolery]

how did you begin day game (from scratch, like the very first thing you did) and how did you progress to where you are now?
(was it any different than the stuff you wrote in your other thread?)

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[Paladin]

Originally Posted by londonsoul

I'm not the best looking guy in the world......

Dude don't discount yourself! You are a handsome devil!

[Stormboy]

Hey Soul,

Nice post and very informative!
My question is when you approach and open what should you be doing with your hands? Should you touch, open and let them hang on the side? This for me is my challenge. Any body language tips you can give in general?

Thanks
SB

[Slack]

Hey man, Thanks for doing a Q&A..

1)What's the best way to STOP a set?whether solo or group..

2)Whats the BEST way to stop a set that has PASSED You? I notice i have to go in from behind,giving them a chance to keep going,then i become the weird chaser guy

3) Is it a good idea to have a Day game structure?? Thanks

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[619joe]

Whats your success rate like now (just getting the number?

Do you still run into times where you just get absolutely no where with the girl and therefore get nothing out of it?Or have you gotten good enough to maintain stability for every single interaction?