The Definitive Guide To Social Circle Game

[dahunter]

I’m in LA right now, yet again, the time is 530 am and I can’t stop thinking right now, my mind is racing with so much information that is going through my head. This has been the most valuable information I’ve received since I took the Breakthrough comfort seminar with Sinn and Future back in Chicago.

This time however, the information was given to me by a dude that came completely under the radar after the first impression. So I walk into the seminar room, and I see Sheriff who I already knew and I see this short Asian dude who does not look like a TMM instructor at all (again, this is first impression), this dude is known as Mr. M.

I’ve been going through a lot of changes lately, I’ve been listening to Dale Carnegies “How To Win Friends And Influence Other People” because I’ve really felt the need to make more genuine connections with people in a non pickup scenario and how to really make more friends everywhere I go. This also comes from observing guys like Braddock and Bandrew (who’s new alias is now Pericles and will be helping out at the Chicago Bootcamp) who have an extraordinary ability to vibe with everyone from the old lady crossing the street to the neighbor’s dog.

My skills of pickup are amazing, but my skills when dealing with other people were being just “objective based”. What I mean by this is that I wasn’t really enjoying the process of vibing with people, I just saw these interactions as something I have to get out of the way but never as something that can be hugely beneficial to impact my life.

So I started changing the basic concepts of my everyday interactions. The first change was to actually be interested in other people (and by this I mean other people that aren’t the girls I’m trying to sleep with). I really want to understand other individuals so I can see them as they see themselves and I can learn from them by seeing what their strongest points are and modeling them, and also by being genuinely interested in someone you really can develop a solid friendship with them.

I did this because I want to be surrounded by cool people, and cool people tend to stay around you if you first offer some sort of value to their lives. Just as importantly cool people stay around you if you clearly see them as they see themselves and take the time to understand them instead of you trying to impose your ego on them trying to make everyone see how cool you are.

People are usually more invested in their own interests than whatever you are interested in, so if you focus on them, not only will people find it easier to relate to you, but you can also usually learn a thing or two from them.

This is what led me to being curious about Mr. M’s skills. Without these principles I would have just heard him talk about their promotion company in the UK and I would have dismissed it by trying to tell them how cool the nightlife in Chicago is and how awesome my game is, but instead I became curious about this and I decided to find out more. Turns out Mr. M and Sherriff are both using some very powerful principles on both their company and the way they run their social circle game.

First, let me try to explain what they are doing. They don’t run a simple club promotion company in the UK, what they basically do is they get paid to bring lots of girls to the clubs, and the girls in return get VIP treatment and free alcohol, so it involves a lot of work but it gives them huge status in these clubs as they usually roll in numbers of 40 girls and only a handful of guys, which have to be cool guys.

Because of this they automatically develop a reputation and they become like HB10’s in the clubs they go to, they have girls wanting them just because of who they are so they can skip attraction since they get it off the bat. I imagine it’s very similar to the effect I get whenever I throw a party at my apt, getting laid is so easy it’s just all about picking who your sleeping with since somebody’s gonna get fucked.

However, in order to build this company, a good social circle game was required, and after lots of conversations here with him, I’ve been able to get this information from Mr M so I know how he runs his social circle game.

- First of all, there’s a very important term he uses that I’ve never heard anyone else use. He calls certain people a “connector”. A connector as he describes it, is a person that always has lots of people with them, and has the ability to introduce you to many other people, that person is not a social “dead end” sort of speak. This is the person that you invite to a party, and you know he or she is going to show up to your party and also bring a bunch of their people so you can network with them as well.

- Any given person will have around 40 acquaintances and friends, and of those 40 people, depending on the free amount of time that person has, will have around 6-8 “main friends” that are his core social group. Out of these 6-8 main friends, since you are always going to have 6-8 of them if one of them comes into your “main friends” circle, you will naturally tend to replace them with an old friend in this circle.

- The key to build up your social circle is to make all of your 6-8 main friends connectors, he says that he is pretty brutal about this, if anyone is not a connector, then he simply does not have time to make him or her a critical part of his life.

- There’s lots of people there who aren’t positive people, one of the big points he looks for in people is that they have a positive outlook in life. Just as important is the direction you are going. You will naturally tend to gravitate to people that are going in the same direction as you, I look at this and look at my friends, and it seems that we want the same thing: To make lots of money and fuck hot girls. You will naturally feel in place if your friends want the same things as you do so it’s important to screen for direction so there’s a feel of “progression” that is more powerful if you and all of your friends are doing it.

- The key to whatever you are doing and adding social value is involving other people in your activities. If you come to a friends party, then you make sure you have several of your other cool friends with you. It’s very key that you are perceived as always having things to do so people are calling you all the time, a good strategy he mentions is grabbing a club promoter and becoming really good friends with him/her, and inviting people to their events. You’re adding value to the promoter by bringing people to his events and you also add value to your friends by showing them where the party is at.

- The way Mr M sees it, there is a big difference in types of clubs, there are “value clubs” and there are “meat markets”. High value clubs are usually where the 10’s hang out, and as I see it are the places pickup artists hate. The difference is that in the community there needs to be a switch of focus of “meat market” gratification, to social value building structures so we can all get laid with the hottest girls much easier. A place where a master PUA needs to be is at the top social circles in their cities.

- There’s a general attitude that you have to have which is that you can meet a connector at anytime, and you can be friends with anyone. Mr M just sarged a playboy model. Probably the most painful lesson I have ever learned as I was going to open that set and I pushed Mr M to do it instead, and it turns out to be a super intelligent and cool playboy model with the hookup for the playboy mansion. I am never the one to be jealous but in this case I was like FUCK.

I am glad he did it though as his “value display” game is really tight so when we were at her hotel room I picked up a few KEY details about how to deal with girls DHVing the shit out of themselves like how they hang out with Jay Z and shit. My point is though, a simple minded community guy would think about just fucking her, but the real art is turning her into a connector, so the attitude he has is like “I don’t just want to fuck her, I want to introduce you to her so whenever you’re here in LA you can get into the playboy mansion and hang out with her friends”. That pretty much sums up a very big shift in game, where instead of going for the quick fix, you go for the huge long term benefit of having high value people as your friends.

-Be a connector yourself.

LA is awesome btw.

I’m giving this to Mr M to read in case he wants to add something to my article:

Hi guys

I’m sitting in a hotel room that I’m sharing with Dahunter while I’m leading a bootcamp in LA. I’m consummately impressed by Dahunters game – he is one of the best I’ve seen in terms of both theory and execution.

LA has been amazing and the bootcamp - phenomenal. Through a lot of work, the students are making incredible leaps and bounds. One student hadn’t kiss closed a girl in 2 years. He has now achieved 3 make outs in 2 days. We’ve changed his life completely. THAT is the shit that makes this worthwhile to me. THAT is why I’m passionate about it.

Dahunter wanted me to briefly talk about my social circle game.

In my view, the highest levels of game are improvements to ones life – or living a seductive lifestyle. The process is roughly: (1) You improve your ability with women, (2) you improve your life as a whole which enhances your ability with women. (1) and (2) should happen simultaneously. A big part of achieving (2) is having a solid social circle. Don’t get me wrong – I love cold approach (as Dahunter said, I picked up a big name playboy playmate yesterday through a cold street approach), but the real money – the way I’ve consistently had the highest quality girls as part of my life, and more importantly, made overall improvements to my life, is through improving my social circle.

I run a form of social circle game on steroids.

There are different types of people in your life, but in generally there are ‘leechers’ and ‘connectors’. A lecher is someone who adds no value to your life and generally brings you down – usually through things like negativity, inability to progress, disinterest in evolving as a person etc. A ‘connector’ is someone who brings value into your life. The connector brings DHVs into your life. One of my connectors is an actor who is well connected in certain acting social circles – I go to see his shows regularly with other friends (and other connectors). Another is an incredible (and soon to be famous) magician who is integrated in London’s ‘Magic Circle’. They both add value to my life. They are DHVs – but not ones I have to fake.

The second (and equivalently crucial) point about connectors is that these guys are fun, interesting and positive people that bring value and forward momentum to your life. They have their own interests, but are motivated together in the common goal to improve their lives or achieve a specific goal which aligns them well with you. Hanging around these people motivates me to excel – in pick up - but more importantly as a person. It has a similar effect to having a ‘mastermind’ group that Napoleon Hill talks about in his book Think and Grow Rich.

You have room in your life for probably 8 core friends in your life. The objective should be to make them all connectors.

You invest time into developing relationships with connectors. You get along with these people (‘vibe’ as Dahunter says). They bring value to your life and you also offer some sort of value to theirs. The objective should be for you to put your connectors together and be the center of a wider network of social circles. Being in the centre opens opportunities and connections that were previously not available to you. In particular, I put the magician in touch with the actor (they are now doing a joint DVD), the promoter in touch with the TV guy (their contacts have mutual benefits to one another).

The central point is this: BRING VALUE TO PEOPLES LIVES AND THEY WILL BRING VALUE TO YOURS. If your group of 8 core friends don’t, then maybe you should seriously assess if whatever is keeping you’re time resources in the relationship is worth the opportunity cost – i.e. should you get new friends if your old friends are bringing you down? This is a tough decision and a controversial one. But often necessary if you want to develop as a person.

There is a lot more to this. I cover it all on bootcamp and Dahunter has summarized it in his post above. But the central points are to (a) have people who bring value your life (b) bring value to their lives (c) be a connector yourself and (d) help each other in accomplishing goals through the journey of life.

OK, that’s enough from me for now. I hope this has been useful to readers.

I am now going to go on a day 2 with the playboy playmate I picked up yesterday. And tonight… I get another shot at improving the lives of the 6 students in my bootcamps.

Game is good. Life is better.

Mr M

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