"Do you love me?"

[MalkasGambit]

Here in China, I hear this about 75% of the time I try hooking up with a girl and I seem to always respond incorrectly. The general consensus, more so outside of Shanghai, is that girls traditionally feel this need to establish something permanent (they will mention bf/gf or love after kissing [or less]) before moving forward in a relationship. Us Westerners generally like to get to know each other first - here it is the opposite.

So when I say I respond incorrectly, it means I don't really know how to push the question away without ruining the mood. Say for example you've just met at a bar, chatted for a bit and are now kissing heavily + having a strong connection. As you're making out, she abruptly breaks away and asks if you love her.

What's a good response that keeps both parties happy? I want to be honest, but don't really know how to bluntify my truthfulness.

[mindquicken]

the girls i've met in china don't seem much different from western girls, but you're right they want a long-term relationship. obviously say "no, but with time it's possible" assuming their question was serious. i've gotten bad results using C&F lines when the girl is serious, so answer serious questions with serious answers.

[MalkasGambit]

The ones you meet at a bar in Shanghai are probably the only one's you'll meet that seem normal to us.

Everywhere else, especially online, the girls eventually ALWAYS ask that question, or some variation off it.

I suppose temporarily ruining the mood to answer seriously is better than dealing with the mess that would arise if we lied to her!

[ZeroFear]

wow I didn't know people in China ran game. I thought game over there was a taboo.