Should I go to her place, she to mine or new date?

[BroesBeforeHoes]

Hi.

I've been in the game for about two weeks, and I met this Asian HB 9.5 last Sunday.
After several text messages and two phone calls we decided that she was going to my town. However, she thought I lived in another town than I really do. When she heard what town I live in, she said that it would be too far and too expensive to go to my town. Our plan was that she was going to help me to buy some shoes.




As I see it I have three alternatives (someone other helped me on this one):

1) Make a plan more worth the drive / sleep over. Shopping for shoes just doesn't cut it. Maybe, shopping for shoes, then going out for drinks, and partying with the revelers, probably have her stay at a friends. I'm not sure the specifics here.

Pros: increase the FUN, time spent together, venue changes (comfort building) and give a good chance to extract to your pad anyway.

Cons: Still high investment for her - driving and making plans to sleep somewhere. Even hinges on her knowing somebody to stay with.

2) Make a plan more accommodating for her, for the same night. Say, meet her in HER city.

Pros: She wouldn't have to work hard to make it happen. Low-committal for her means she shouldn't have objection. You can arrange logistics so you pick her up / drop her off, which gives you a chance to end up there at the end of the night.

Cons: This requires you to completely abandon your plan and propose a different one, which could end up looking too eager to reschedule to accommodate her. She *could* lose attraction (these things seem to be a toss up for different girls)

3) Plan for another night.

Pros: You could get logistics 100% spot-on ahead of time, avoid this problem all together.

Cons: Might miss your "window of opportunity" if you have a hard time keeping the vibe between now and then.







This is how I view the different plans:

1) I like plan this plan. However, I think it would be difficult for her to get back the other day, because on Saturaday is a holy day in my country. Furthermore, I don't really have a party to go to this Friday night, and I she never mentioned that she knew someone in my town.

2) I like this plan too. However, I don't have a car, but I can take the bus or the train. However, as you said this might show too much interest to her. I've gone to a chicks place only one time before. This resultet in several BJs, but then she handjobbed me the night we meet.

3) I don't think this one fits my schedule. Both this Sunday and Saturday are holy days in my country, and if it isen't on Saturday or Sunday when would it be then? I honestly don't have time next weekend because that's right before I'm having my exam.






From her messages she sounds really interested. My town is around 40 minutes away from where she lives (I think). What should I do? I follow natural game by the way. The original plan was to meet up tomorrow, so it's kinda a hurry.

Thanks for answering

[SwordJunkie]

First, don't worry too much about getting any one girl. You're gonna lose hundreds if not thousands of girls on your pua journey, and you always have to focus on improving your lifestyle, inner game, and skillset as opposed to getting any single girl. Focus on developing your game, and the girls will come.

That said, I would definitely NOT go with plan 2. Going to her town without a car, setting up dates, and trying to get back to her place sounds tough if not impossible. Logistics would be totally stacked against you. Also, you interpreted her lower investment in plan 2 as a plus, but I think it could actually hurt you because if she doesn't invest, she may flake on you once you get there, decide to LJBF you, or do many other things that would not lead to sex.

Personally, I would do a modified version of plan 1. You definitely want to get her to come to your town because it gives you a huge logistical advantage, and to do that you may need to reschedule for later and do lots of solid phone game. Build lots of connection and sexual comfort over the phone, and get her to invest in the interaction by giving her small things to do for you on the phone or between calls. Then work your way up, and eventually she will want to come see you.

To bait her into it, I would not necessarily use a "We'll do X, then Y, then Z" structure because that seems a bit try-hard and would probably be seen as low value by her. Instead, talk about something really cool that is coming up (something or your friends are doing preferably), and tell her she should come along. Or you could just tell her she did something bad and has to come visit you to make it up. There are lots of things you could tell her. Hope that helps.