Their place or mine? - The Attraction Forums

GABBO · #1 (**permalink**) 04-30-2008, 10:09 PM

Recently just finished listening to Future and ajax, Timebridging & day2's cd, and a little bit that i'm wondering is, I know that when you invite a girl to come to ur place and she does come over and you need to build that comfort up etc, i know how to do this. But what do you do if you go to their place instead of yours? Can you just make your self at home as if it were your place?

you know just do the normal things, take off your shoes, make ur self a drink etc etc or would this come across as rude? as with me once i know someone i tend to feel really comfertable with that person, and if i do go back to their place weather its a chick for a Male friends of mine, i just act like it's my place already.

Is this such a good idea when it comes to going to their place, as i believe it would help them be more comfertable having you in there place, but not really sure if it does or not, as not many people say anything to you about it.

Hopefully this makes sense.

Proxy_UK · #2 (**permalink**) 05-01-2008, 09:31 AM

You should already have comfort when you're at their/your house. If things are awkward then leave again... walk down the road and buy a drink and continue building comfort. Even if you're at her house you can still request to do this.

You house is always better though.

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GABBO · #3 (**permalink**) 05-01-2008, 07:18 PM

yeh that's true and i do sometimes have enough comfort, but still a lot of people are worried/nerves about having some one new in there place, weather they are comfortable or not with that person.

But i guess i'll just keep doing what i'm doing until it backfires.

sdnightfly · #4 (**permalink**) 05-11-2008, 08:54 PM

I think everyone has a different opinion on this, but if it's her place she's going to be more comfortable. Also has to do with her preferring to sleep in her own bed.

I also prefer going to her place because I can figure her out pretty quickly, there's a lot of unsaid things in her place. Women who have more books tend to be more experimental. Taste in music... does she have shelves full or 20 CDs.

Plus how settled in she is, if she has clutter, organized or disorganized, and what's in the fridge (more stuff, she cooks, less stuff, she's out a lot). Photos and stuff on the wall (paintings, framed vs unframed posters).