Boyfriend destroyer? or what I did?

[Don gato]

First of all,this is my first post and I'm not sure if this has to be here, so if it belongs to other place sorry I really didn't know where to put it and thanks to get some time to read this.

Well this is the fact, I have been running this girl since a week ago, all went the good way until this has to happened.

I send her a message saying that if she could go with me X day if not, it'll be until the other week. I asked her this cuz she had already told me that her computer didn't work and I know how to fix it ( a casuality? I don't think so )

So I never got the answer instead of that I get a call from a guy who sounds a little sad. I didn't hear too much cuz it was so noisy in fact I just hear or remember something, he told me that I just forgot to told her happy san valentine's day ( in fact I did )

Here is the point, why do you think that girl told him about that message? or much better why do you think she gives my number to him? Do you think all of this was for good or for bad ?Just to add more information I send them some messages explaining everything ( in fact I let her know why he didn't trust her) on this did I move right?

I think it was a kind of boyfriend destroyer but I'm too new on this so what do you say?

Recently I apreciate your opinions and advices about this , and I would like to know what so bad is the situation or what so good it is, to fix mistakes or what should I have done? and sorry for the grammar I would try to be better on it.

[firemedictj]

At least you recognize your grammar issue as this post is really hard to read. Ok so number one dont ask her tell her, ex: " hey im gonna come fix your computer on x day but for this you owe me dinner."
Next, the person who called you may or may not be anybody in her life, what you need to realize is that jealous, cheating, or low self esteem boyfriends go through their girlfriends cell phones, and text is usually the first thing they go for. It shows up with your name, and its not that hard to find your name in her phone book.
The question is did he call you from her phone? If he did then there is your answer.
What she did or in the probable case didn't do is niether good or bad, it just is.
Why would you volunteer information about your relationship, especially to her phone, I'm pretty sure she is aware. If he doesn't trust her then she probably knows so. Was that good? Probably not so much. But that would mean that she is more than likely looking for something new. Thus;

Recomendations: Give her a little space, her computer can wait. Talk to her in person and don't bring it up, unless she does. Run game starting from A1 or A2 and build from there.

[Don gato]

Thank you, for your adivices and let me know what you think about it.
I'm using some of them.

I called her in the morning to knew who was that guy, and she told me that she didn't have a boyfriend and that she didn't know who could be ( I had my doubts, I mean who knows if she was telling me the truth). The fact that really matters is that since this kind of confusion happened, our relationship is exactly as I want it, so I think it works for good.

After this,i was thinking about how everything happend and I think this could be use with girls in general, let me explain you, I hope it isn't so confusing.

When I text her about the other guy (I let her knew that some guy called me like if he was her boyfriend, no explications to her)

She was a little confused , so when i called her in the morning, to knew why called me his boyfriend, she told me if she was with somebody and the amazing part is that we get conect it in the way I want it.

So, I was wondering if this ( about text her or called her, that some guy called you, it doesn't care if it is true or not) could be use with some others girls, to know if they are with someone and on this way we know how the situation is and we get the information without sounds desesperate or something like that.

I don't know, it could be like a kind of routine to be sure or aware how dificult will be, how to move and you'll have her just where you want her.

At least it works on me that is the reason i am saying this, so what do you think about it? Also advices and suggestions are welcome to make it better because i think is not so bad just it needs to be polish.

[BornAssassin]

Yeah, I guess you did good =)

I think this would be better for next time:

If a guy calls you like that sitaution again, just tell the girl, "Hi, your boyfriend called my yesterday and asked me ......"

If she likes you.. she'd say.. "Oh, no, he's not my boyfriend." If she likes you BUT she DOES have a boyfriend, she'll say "Oh.. yeah.." If she does NOT like you, she'll say "Oh, yeah.. and then continue talking about her boyfriend."

Then again, it is hard to distinguish.. Just remember.. I don't understand your game very well, you may be an awesome pua.. but you mentioned her computer.. Just don't be a tool and fix her computer... I would NOT fix her computer until i've had sex with her...

jason ^^

[Don gato]

Thanks!
I was thinking the same about her computer........i mean i was like offering me as a tool and not as her man ( I hope never do it again), anyway i colud fix that mistake

I apreciate your advices and trust me when i said that invent a fake boyfriend's call ( in my case it wasn't fake ), give you a lot of information, as you said you'll know in some way if she likes you or not.

I think this have to be use only when you don't know if she is with someone, cuz i've been in the situation that appears her boyfriend and is a little bit uncomfortable and at least with this, you'll be aware.

Thanks again for your opinions and advices.

[thedjholla]

This sounds like an awesome plot line for a porno...

<man arrives to fix computer>

"Im having a problem with my box.."
"Let me just get my wrench out"

A little off topic, but hey

Vanity