New studies on mimicry/mirroring

[zipgun]

The New York Times today has an article covering recent studies of mimicry/mirroring.

There's not too much here that's not already covered in the basic seduction community writings. One new thing: clinical proof that waiting 2-4 seconds before copying the other person's change of body language, strengthens mirroring's positive effects. (Then again it's pretty clear that you don't want to IMMEDIATELY mirror the person as that's too obvious.)

Here's the article:
http://www.nytimes.com/2008/02/12/he...pc&oref=slogin

PS- As I write this, the article is free.. But if you're reading this after today it asks for a password; you can get a nyt password here:
http://www.bugmenot.com/view/www.nytimes.com

[agold7964]

yep! i've been using this a lot. the girl i gamed today i sat like her (the way her legs were crossed and the way her arms bent.) and i changed the speed and tonality i talk at to match her thru the lengh of the conversation. (i started out more alpha, talking louder and slower, with open body language, no "uncouncious" touches of the nose, face, hair, and, thru the conversation, started to purposely mimmick her body language. (even slighly rubbed the back of my head ocasionally like her) (i want to get realy good at this!)

[secretasianman1]

Thanks Zipgun. Very interesting article. I've been reading books on NLP, and they discuss mirroring/mimicking too. I'm going to make a more concious effort to mirror and record the results.

[Aesthetikz]

i've noticed rapport (mimicry) works bets when you push and pull with it. and it comes off as needy if you do it immediately (obviously, its a comfort only technique), and sometimes if you do it too much it's bad as well. however, i often used it very harshly (no waiting). it doesn't always just automatically make people like you though, i've noticed a lot of people i'm not crazy about doing it to me... you need other things to back it up.

i often jokingly copy people, and most people enjoy it... not like mock them or anything of course. but like if somebody is like HELL YEAH i copy their HELL YEAH with a smile, or if they make a crazy hand motion i'll copy it (with a smile probably). it's a natural impulse that comes when i'm having fun in an interaction, it's not something i read, but i see other people do it too.

p.s. it's a really fucking powerful tool. you can tell it's working because people just won't shut up :-P

[Kryptonian]

Originally Posted by agold7964

yep! i've been using this a lot. the girl i gamed today i sat like her (the way her legs were crossed and the way her arms bent.) and i changed the speed and tonality i talk at to match her thru the lengh of the conversation. (i started out more alpha, talking louder and slower, with open body language, no "uncouncious" touches of the nose, face, hair, and, thru the conversation, started to purposely mimmick her body language. (even slighly rubbed the back of my head ocasionally like her) (i want to get realy good at this!)

It is generally considered a very bad idea if you mimmick/mirror their negative body language.

Also, it is considered a bad idea in a group of girls to mirror the alpha's body language. They claim that women have mystical powers;they can tell who's the leader right away.