"You are the one and only" - bullshit!

[Qtick]

Hi,

I have a bit of a problem with this girl I'm in comfort with. I know she likes me very much and I know it won't be too difficult to f-close her. However, she proved a little bit unfaithful: On one side, she always mentions shit like "I love you" and "You are all I want". On the other, she sometimes cuddles and "plays" with other men, while she's totally aware of the fact that I can see everything. The problem is that she already has a (weak) bf and - as far as I know - she's always acted like this before. She's used to flirting with other men while her bf is watching helplessly and let her go away with it.
Since she wants me but I'm not like her stupid bf, I have to break her of this "habit". I don't want to let her go away with it anymore, so I want to make sure to punish her/to prevent this from happening again.

First, I thought about some c/f. After she tells me something like this "I love you"-thing the next time, I answer something like this (very calmly and unaffected, but with a touch of smile):
"Really? Why me?! I think you and <insert name> made a really cute couple."

After that, I thought about just being serious. I'd tell her that she can go with anybody she wants but she has to be aware of the risk of losing me because I won't tolerate such behaviour.

How would you deal with this kind of girls? How would you break "this habit"?

I'm very curious to your suggestions, guys!

Best wishes,
Qtick

[ketchup]

why DO you want her to be faithful to you? that is unfair... i would fc her asap. there are lots of girl who are playful with men, but dont sleep with them. those are the girls who like to see men running after them making fool of themselves;-] just play hard to get and send mixed signals.

[Qtick]

Well, I already play hard to get and she's running after me like hell. I'm sure there will be no problem to fclose her, trust me
I just want to make sure that she will stay faithful since I plan to have a LTR with her (or she plans to have a LTR with me?!) and I know her behaviour while being in this relationship with her current bf. I just want her to know exactly that she CAN'T DO THINGS LIKE THAT while being in a relationship with me.
I don't want to wait until I had sex with her, I want her to know from the start.
How to show her my "rules"?

Lots of thanks,
Qtick

[DanJer]

tell her straight up.

You to wouldn't work cause she likes to flirt and you wouldn't want to see her doin that if she was with you.

[Heisty]

why are you planning to have a relationship with her if you havent even banged her and at the moment she messes around with you, other guys, AND her boyfriend.. sounds like the type of broad youre supposed to take home and tear it up and not call her back til you need her for the same purpose again.

[Qtick]

Hey guys,

I told her straight up. She was begging hard that I give her another chance and sweared that this will never happen again. She knows that I'm willing to leave her otherwise. Well, I'm curious

Thanks for your help!

Best wishes,
Qtick

[ketchup]

Originally Posted by Heisty

why are you planning to have a relationship with her if you havent even banged her and at the moment she messes around with you, other guys, AND her boyfriend.. sounds like the type of broad youre supposed to take home and tear it up and not call her back til you need her for the same purpose again.

fully agree.

let me get this straight. you want her to be faitful to you while you will be dating other girls too? thats cruel;-]

[miaddict]

"This girl" is NOT in an exclusive relationship. She has a bf, is chasing you and 'flirts' with other men (possibly for trigger jealousy or for fun). It looks like she has more options than you. Or has she broken up with him?

You, on the other hand, want to be exclusive with her BUT you have already "tolerated" her non-exclusivity (i.e. if she is still with her bf). She is NOT faithful to her bf (since she is chasing you). Your relationship with her, at the moment, is undefined. You have already set up your rules.

Originally Posted by Qtick

I'm sure there will be no problem to fclose her, trust me

Dont say there wont be a problem. You have not f-closed her nor have both of you decided to be exclusive. If she is still sleeping with her bf but not with you, you are on the same level as the other men she has not slept with.

You can not demand loyalty/faithfulness.

Relationship management is extensively covered in Magic Bullets. Read up if you want to know how to make her your exclusive gf.

This is the definitive work on pickup and dating theory, written by an acknowledged master of the game - a guy who’s TRAINED many of the new “gurus” on the scene!

[J3adSeed]

Dude you shouldn't be WILLING to leave her, you should leave her. You haven't even gotten w this girl, she has a boyfriend, and she flirts with other guys? And she's telling you she loves you? Think about how weak her game is. She wants attention and its obvious. She will not be with one guy and will not settle with you or anyone else. You don't need to make her feel good about herself by giving her attention. I'd be banging this chick and flirting with and hooking up with other girls in front of her and her boyfriend. That would be extra fun cuz she can't say anything when he's there. But dude don't do it to make her jealous or get her, do it for YOU. This method is likely to work well, if you don't give her attention, flipt the script and make her jealous, she will almost definitely start pursuing you harder and doing whatever it takes to get you to jump through her hoops again. Don't do it though man play her dont let her play you.

[RunMan]

I have a weird habit of doing exactly what you are doing...Getting with an unfaithful girl and trying to make her faithful.

Usually it ends up being a big waist of time...It never effects me emotionally/physically/mentally (Which is what is happening to you) because I make it into a game, or a test...you are making it into, now or never.