Thee Double Flake Reversal

[BradP]

Here's one I've been using a while for fucking girls who've flaked on me. You can hear more about using it in the FR i just posted about the video vixen.

When the girl flakes in some way, you basically flake in the same way, or at least make it seem like you did. Mirror the flake out. The apologize profusely and promise to hang out soon.

This can work on anything from same day flaking with a polite phone call all the way to getting stood up.

A key point is you can't get mad about the flakeage. Dont get mad, get laid. you can quote me on that. Getting mad will do nothing for you. it's essential to get past the anger if you're going to succeed.

Here's an example of the Double Flake Reversal-
HB: leaves you a message she can't make it to whatever you had planned tonight.
You: immediately send a text that says "Hey really sorry but I can't make it tonight."

then next time you talk talk-
you: "I'm so sorry I bailed on you a few days ago. I know you were SO looking forward to hanging out with me. I PROMISE we'll hang out this week and this time I won't ditch you. For reals I wont."

The reason this works better is because you are not in a position of accepting her flakiness and forgiving it. You are the flaker, which is a higher value position than the flak-ee. Hence, you are able to maintain a relationship where you both have approx the same value, perhaps yours is slightly higher. Accepting the flaking puts you in a bad spot, and this can avoid that.

Also, girls feel guilty when they flake. And GUILT is an ATTRACTION KILLER. It's a powerful emotion and it distracts from the attraction she was feeling before. The double flake reversal absolves the girl from all guilty feelings.

I know it sounds like it's hard to work because the girl knows she flaked first. You just have to set the frame and she will accept your frame. She likes your frame better anyway, so there's no reason for her to cling to hers. Just insist that you're really sorry you flaked on her.


Brad P.