Getting in to isolation with the girl is a crucial waypoint in every set. It’s vital for the interaction that you do, but still I see guys in
bootcamps and 1-on-1’s
not pushing for the isolation which makes the sarge way, way harder than it needs to be. This post will shed light on why, when and how to isolate.
Why to isolate
The purpose of every set you do with a target that you are interested in, is to build an emotional connection with her. It’s not about building sick amounts of attraction or making her go “Wow you are the most different person I’ve ever met!”. It’s all about building that connection so she wants to see you again or feel comfortable enough to go home with you the same night. Now since we approach groups within The Mystery Method, building that emotional connection is tough when she is in a group of friends. Why is that? Well here are some reasons:
- She probably acts differently around her friends than when she is alone
- She doesn’t want to seem too in to you and make her look easy in front of her friends
- Her attention will be divided when in a group of friends as she will almost always try to ping what her friends think of the situation
- You can’t really open yourself up in the same way and say the same things as you could when you guys are alone to establish that real connection
The above mentioned reasons should be enough for you to always isolate, but there’s also another very important thing that isolation accomplishes: it’s a waypoint into qualification and comfort. When you get the girl in to isolation with you, you know that she is attracted and you can now start running qualification and build comfort.
When to isolate
As soon as possible. However, be aware that the earlier you isolate (or more correctly; the less you’ve befriended her peer group) the more interrupts you will have in your isolation. If you are good at handling interrupts, then try to isolate as soon as possible. If you want to play it a bit safer, make sure that you get “green lights” from everyone in the group and then go for the isolation. The most important thing here is that you actually pull the trigger and try to get her alone. In the emotional progression model, I would say that the optimal situation to isolate is when you’ve built a fair amount of attraction and also qualified her a bit with smallish hoops (you want to save the big hoops for isolation). However, remember that there’s not such thing as “the optimal sarge” and you don’t get an Oscar for doing the best pick-up, just get the job done. As an example, I isolated an ex of mine the first time I met her after 30 seconds of conversation, and it was from a girl-girl two set without a wing. I figured I had enough attraction from the approach and sub-communications, and thought I could get away with it so I went for it. Like most of the things in pick-up,
if you believe the isolation attempt will work, it most likely will. If you don’t think it will, then you are right.
How to isolate
There are two different types of isolation, the mini-isolation and the full isolation. The first one doesn’t require as much compliance as the second, but can be very useful in set.
Mini-isolation
The mini isolation is when you still stay in the group with your target (alternatively take a few steps towards the bar or anywhere near the group, but with the group still within an earshot of you two). So you guys have your private little “bubble” within the group. This is most easily created if you have a wing that can occupy the obstacles while you are chatting away with the target. If you don’t have a wing and it’s a 3-set or more, you can always engage the target in a discussion and usually the other members of the group will start talking amongst themselves. The problem with mini-isolation is that the girl might still not completely open up to you as she might think the other girls can see or hear her, and it’s also very easy for the other girls to interrupt you two in the middle of something important. What you want to do is to turn the girl so her back is facing the rest of the group (so she can’t see her friends). If you have a wing, make him turn the obstacles too so their backs face your targets back. What this accomplishes is that the girls can no longer girl-code each other and they will pay more attention to you instead of trying to look over your shoulder to see if her friends are trying to say something to her.
I use mini-isolation mainly to amp up the last attraction I need, start making her qualify herself and also to amp up the
kino.
Full isolation
This is what you are looking for. Full isolation is when you two guys are alone away from the group, preferably in a quiet area where you really can connect. It’s actually easier than you think to get full isolation, and if you are not always trying for this you are lacking a very important piece of your game. The way I isolate is that I say something along the lines of:
“Hey I’m going to show you something really cool, but we have to be seated. There are some sofas over there, let’s go”. I then grab her hand and lead her over. Again, don’t hesitate. Other isolation pieces that I use are:
“Oh my god the craziest thing happened yesterday. I’ll tell you all about it, but it’s too loud here. Let’s go somewhere less noisy” ”I need a drink, keep me company in the bar” ”I want to dance but I’m not sure you are such a good dancer… are you? Well let’s go then” I then dance a bit, amp up the
kino and then move her to the bar / sofas etc.
What I do as the first thing in isolation is to tell them a story, play a game or start running comfort. I recommend you to have a piece to kick off the isolation with, but it’s really no big deal… and if you get a complete brain-freeze just run a qualification piece.
Isolation is also the place to start doing some serious
kino escalation. Do some push/pull
kino and you will be kissing her in no time…
-R
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