Help with LMR and Re-framing

[_dice_]

Ok I met this girl not too long ago. She is married which I do not much care about. I have been gaming this girl for a while now and she is GOOD.

Normally I have no trouble controlling the frames but this girl actually plays the game though she probably doesn’t even know it. This is an example of a conversation by txt message that we had the other day.

Me: Hey I’m going to the mall to pick up a new pair of pants if you wanna come with
HB: Yeah sure what time
Me: I’m going at 12
HB: K see you then

Then she txts me back about 12 with this.

HB: Sorry LOL can’t make it, I can go later today though so ill think of something and let you know in a little while ok.

Me: Alright. I’ll let you get away with that one. For now

Now she how she gained control of the frame. At this point I thought about saying that I couldn’t go but didn’t know. So the response sent was like frustration lol.

So anyways we go ahead and hang out that day then the next. The next day she comes over to my place and we are like making out. Her ASD starts kicking in so she’s like I can’t do this. I’m like I know, I know, I know, while we are still going.
anyways we get to her top coming off when she moves away, puts it back on and says let’s talk.

HB: y is we doing this, I mean I’m married, I don’t know what I’m doing.
HB: and y would you want me, I’m married, what can this possibly lead to that could not possibly end bad, and what are you wanting.

HOW DO I ANSWER A QUESTION LIKE THAT? This is the first married chick that I have been with and I’m on unfamiliar ground. I know she's willing to cheat on him I just have to somehow convince her that it will be worth it and I don’t know how to do that.

Also I would like some help and advice for better handling my frames, and how to reframe in my favor under pressure.

Thanks everyone

~dice~

[Beaudacious]

That's an interesting one there dice, I'm kind of coming back into the game after a bit of a sabbatical, so don't take any of this as define word...

If she's asking why she's doing it, she's just doubting herself, which lets you know she might not be gaming as hard as you think. She knows that you've got high value and she's assuming you have the answers. You obviously have something the man she's married to doesn't.

The good news is that she's just told you that she is at the point of LMR and ASD. I'd tell her you want to talk with her...give her a set date, and time, and tell her you're going to make it simple and to the point. Just get it out there. You find something very intriguing about who she is and she's worth some of your time.

Depending on how ballsy you feel like going, and if this fits her personality/the situation, you could go for something like this.

Tell her to put on a little bit of a disguise and meet you out one night where she could be legitimately away, sit down and talk about it. Have her meet at the hotel, so you can use the David DeAngelo intro to a room (let her see the room, bring her in, then leave quickly, to help build her familiarity with the place) Then head to dinner. Once you get it to the point where she knows why you're there, and she knows why she's there you you can escalate and use freeze outs up in the room. Make sure she knows she can trust you though, it'll help prevent buyers remorse/guilt.

Again, these are just best thoughts and what I've read from the big books and other field/lay reports.

Best wishes bud

[_dice_]

Thanx man

I love the disguise routine. Lol it will be sorta like roll playing in a way and I think that she will appreciate the excitement of the situation.

The LMR stuff is good, but honestly what can I tell her as to y I want to see her though. Because I know that she is not going to respond well to me sayin that I want to get it on lol. She says that we have a strong connection that she cannot explain so for right now I am just echoing her and saying that I cannot explain y I am attracted to her but that I feel deep down that we connect on a very powerful level.

Though after she left the other night she had like reverse buyer’s remorse cause she called and said that she wished she would have let me continue.

So where do I go from here lol. I’m having trouble getting her out anywhere. Even though she has met me twice but she is simply terrified that her husband will find out. Like I said she admits a HUGE connection but what’s the next move lol.

Thanx

~dice~