Make Rules. Be Alpha. - The Attraction Forums

_Cane_ · #1 (**permalink**) 10-12-2007, 01:33 PM

I'm sure I'm not the first guy to do this or even the first guy to post something like this on here but oh well, here it goes.

I like to make my interaction with a girl special/memorable by having an "inside joke". One of the ones that I do a lot is to make rules and get her to comply. It accomplishes a lot of things at the same time. Its easy to get girls to play along as long as ur coming up with creative and playful rules that apply correctly to whatever current situation ur in.

Examples:

I took a girl to lunch.. after lunch after i already paid i said
PU: "if i buy you lunch you owe me a kiss. Its a rule.."

in a bar when i was sitting in a booth..
PU: "you have to put ur arms around my neck if ur gonna kiss me.. its rule #6."

once u establish the 1st rule... u have unlimited amounts of options and banter lines.. cuz if she does anything u can just make something up and tease her... "hey ur breaking rule #X..."

By following each rule, she is jumping through a hoop. Compliance shows interest, invests her more into the interaction, and gets her used to submission.

My favorite part of this is when the girl starts to try and make rules. It gives u a great opportunity to show dominance (alpha).

example:

After sex with this girl we were hugging and she said "u have to kiss me after sex.. its a rule."

I replied in a very cocky and dominant way.. "well first of all... -----I---- make the rules. But since i like ur idea.. we can just pretend like I came up with it." then she pulled me in, kissed me, acted like she wanted to fuck me again on the spot.

Use it. It works.

DeadEyeDick · #2 (**permalink**) 10-12-2007, 02:01 PM

I like the rule concept. Although I don't think it necessarily makes a person "alpha."

The value I see is that it makes things fun, it becomes an inside joke, as you mentioned, it gives you a humorous "short hand" that can break anxiety over sexual things (Rule #69, for example).

Women like codes and "sacred" language, and the rules provide that.

Not surprisingly, "The Rules" was the title of a popular piece of shit book written for women that teaches them cat-string theory.

I also think women like to tease and be teased around being "bad" and "good," (also known as the whore/Madonna complex, and no, I don't mean the Madonna who wears funnels on her tits). This plays right into that.

Very good post ... interested to see what others think and how they've used this.

Germ · #3 (**permalink**) 10-12-2007, 02:34 PM

I approve. :]

Done this before at one-on-ones. I'll see how it works out at a college-type party.

skld · #4 (**permalink**) 10-13-2007, 04:37 AM

This concept is fucking awesome.

ware_ru · #5 (**permalink**) 10-13-2007, 05:12 AM

Yep, fantastic post. I do similar. "you have to blah bla hblah blah. Don't wear black with blue on our date (credit bradp). Blah blah. I don't like it" or something similar

"You have to sit on my lap when we're at dunkin donuts. And you're not allowed to talk. I'm sorry babe, but it's the rules. I don't make them, I just follow them."

Red S · #6 (**permalink**) 10-13-2007, 05:37 AM

This is great! I never thought of this (I am a newby)
hmm well I have some future plans with a girl to 'go to a library to choose out books for eachother' (we are both interested in reading and the same type of books)
so I was thinking should I say to her "hey you said we would go! and rule #1 is if you make a promise you keep it!"....btw I just thought this now so any variations or just saying its shit would be nice ^^

ware_ru · #7 (**permalink**) 10-13-2007, 07:30 AM

that line is pretty crap, Red S. as a general guideline your rules should be playful and coming from an alpha frame, things like "do this, do that because i like it" not "oh man i want to hang with you so i have to make these 'rules' to guilt you into not flaking." Anyways, good luck on your journey man

Red S · #8 (**permalink**) 10-13-2007, 09:21 AM

haha thats what I thought
just was checking

bearclaws · #9 (**permalink**) 10-13-2007, 02:19 PM

I play the "rule" game, too, and it's always has a positive effect. The key is to keep the rules "fun".

If you keep making up the rules and don't let her play, then eventually the "fun" wears thin and your rule making can become annoying....so be careful not to overdo it.

If she wants to make a rule, then I like say: "OK. I make the rules and rule #11 says that you get to make one rule an hour....so choose wisely".

[she creates a rule]

If I like her rule, then I say "Good rule! But that's already rule #39. You obviously didn't read the whole rule book! Slacker."

If I don't like her rule, then I say: "I don't like that rule and rule #25 states that I get to veto any 3rd party rules. Rule rejected!"

You can also incorporate other people into the "game" by submitting her rule to them for review. For instance, if she submits a questionable rule you can declare: "I'm not sure about that rule. We're going to need to run it by the submission committee" and then have your friends (or strangers) ratify or veto the rule.

Lastly, when you get bored with the game then you end it with: "Rule #99: there are no rules. Game over".

_Cane_ · #10 (**permalink**) 10-15-2007, 11:57 AM

I'm going to add this:

You can make rules about almost anything. But the rules game works best when you set up some type of a reward through reverse phsycology. An example of this is my "if i buy you lunch you owe me a kiss. its a rule". I know she likes kissing me or wants to kiss me. Thats what makes this work. She is following the rule because it is rewarding her with something she wants anyways. I always involve kissing in the rule game.

Most of the rules you make (if not all) should have something to do with being physical. The rules itself serve as the inside joke which creates a connection. That connection will be amplified if there are physicalities involved. "you have a potty mouth. bad girl. your breaking rule #6. don't touch me for 10 minutes.." she will probably be defiant and do it anyways. If she jumps through a hoop and follows the rule, great. Then you can say "ok 10 minutes is up.. kiss me." or by defying you she is escalating kino anyways. either way its win win.