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Old 08-27-2008, 08:16 AM
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Default Is it stupid to act AFC to end a relationship?

thought abot this lately...if you were in a relationship but didnt want to be the one to end it, you could start acting all needy, text and email her all the time then do it even more asking why she hasnt replied n stuff, then she would prob do the dirty deed for you.

or is that stupid?
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Old 08-27-2008, 12:58 PM
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This is an interesting post. After all, this is probably how a LOT relationships end, anyway. There might be some other event that culminates in the relationship ending (i.e. her going completely cold on you or cheating on you, etc.), but THIS is the root cause of a lot of relationships ending.

I find this is pretty fascinating idea. I wouldn't really want to try it or think of it as being an "honorable" way to go about ending the relationship, but if you really want her to get over you and have a clean break, it's not like doing this will "hurt" her or anything. She'll just think of you as a total low value chump after it's over.

And I would also be curious to know what the follow-up would be. Would it be "congruent" to be AFC until the relationship ends and then never contact her, reach out to her, etc. after that?

If she loses attraction for you because you intentionally go AFC, does that then introduce a risk that she'll become re-attracted when you stop putting on the AFC act after it's over?

It's an interesting though experiment, at least. Kind of like a mythbusters-esque drill to approach a common issue from its absolute logical extremes.

I almost think sometimes when girls want to end relationships, but don't want to do the "dirty work," they will do their own version of this for you. They'll go cold on you, ask for space, etc. which will be win-win for them either way: they're hoping you either comply with their request, and lose feelings for them, OR shoot yourself in the foot and get needy and AFC, which gives a pretty much automatic way to end the relationship. ....or some chain of events that has a mixture of the two scenarios.

Basically, I think the "honorable" thing to do is to be honest and considerate. But I think your idea has some merit, at least intellectually. It's something that I think is worth debating and pondering within this community, which is not necessarily to endorse the idea of someone actually trying it.
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Old 08-28-2008, 05:59 AM
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If you are truly selfish and don't want to be the bad person, use those famous BS lines

'It's not you, it's me'
'you deserve a better person'
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Old 08-28-2008, 06:23 AM
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those lines are the most patronising ive ever heard
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If you don't wanna be in it, then just man up and end it. Period.
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Old 08-28-2008, 07:57 AM
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Being a man also means not wasting your time or someone else's, so if you're not into it just tell her. "This doesn't feel like a fit anymore to me" doesn't place blame and sounds like it's true in your case.
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If you don't wanna be in it, then just man up and end it. Period.
yup. that's all there is to it.
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Old 08-29-2008, 11:19 PM
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I'm sure going the needy crybaby route might work but it's usually the coward's way out. It was mentioned that girls don't want to do the dirty work when it comes to breaking up...some guys want the girls to dump them, but she'll make you into a huge chump if she dumps you.

They'll also go "remember...YOU broke up with ME..I wanted to work it out", even though she cheated and whatever else she did to get you to be the one to say it's over.

I've asked women about breakups... they all had different answers but they all said texting and email is bad. Phone calls seemed to be the general concensus. In person I've been told can be harder because they can play on your emotions and manipulate you if you're alone with her, or cause a scene.

Or you could just say you lost your job, and have to move in with your parents, and see what she does.
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