Being Aggressive in bed... - The Attraction Forums

Xadus · #1 08-20-2008, 08:50 PM

MY current girlfriend tells me she wants me to be more aggressive in bed...but I honestly do not know how to do that. She likes to be told what to do...moved into the position i want her in...those things but I can't do it. Don't know why,
I just know that i cant do it.

Advice would be great...just let me know.

X

smilenbseen · #2 08-20-2008, 09:41 PM

Yeah surprisingly girls love that, thank god I like it too. I hadn't realized that until about the last 2 years, before that I thought they all wanted to "make love". ha ha. I have choked like 4-5 different girls to the point they passed out. They all said afterward it was the best sex they had ever had. Choking is my fav but all girls are different, supposedly that clenches there pussy muscles or something. There's lots of other things but in my experience girls like getting choked the most. I'd do it doggy style you have more control and won't go too hard when it was missionary was when the girls would pass out. Although they did like it I don't want to end up with a involunatry manslaughter on my record one day.

iWitness · #3 08-20-2008, 09:45 PM

Dude Autoerotic Asphyxiation is BAD NEWS dont choke girls. Lots of people are seriously injured and have died from this. Girls like it no doubt, but it's all about doing it right or 'pretend' doing it and they still get off on the fantasy aspect. You have to understand, which i'm sure you do since you are a pua, that women live in the minds and construct elaborate fantasies and such. Sex is all in the mind for women, which is why dirty talk is like magic

Seriously though do not choke women till they pass out. I do like a few seconds just enough to cut off their air supply for a split second or 2 and that shoots them through the roof. I think it is more effective as it makes it seem like they are in danger never knowing when you are going to do it.

2c

-iWitness

smilenbseen · #4 08-20-2008, 09:50 PM

That's the fun of it I guess!!! living on the edge. ha ha, you're going to scare the guy into not trying it and he's going to lose his girl to a guy like me. Dude just do it once and see how it goes. I think you have the perfect problem, it could be the other way around and have a girl who is just blah.

Xadus · #5 08-20-2008, 11:19 PM

I need to know how to be aggressive...not how to choke a bitch. i can do that. lol
i need to be aggressive...im not naturally an aggressive person. help!

X

*Voytech* · #6 08-21-2008, 05:47 AM

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Originally Posted by iWitness

Dude Autoerotic Asphyxiation is BAD NEWS dont choke girls. Lots of people are seriously injured and have died from this. Girls like it no doubt, but it's all about doing it right or 'pretend' doing it and they still get off on the fantasy aspect. You have to understand, which i'm sure you do since you are a pua, that women live in the minds and construct elaborate fantasies and such. Sex is all in the mind for women, which is why dirty talk is like magic

Seriously though do not choke women till they pass out. I do like a few seconds just enough to cut off their air supply for a split second or 2 and that shoots them through the roof. I think it is more effective as it makes it seem like they are in danger never knowing when you are going to do it.

2c

-iWitness

Autoerotic Asphyxiation refers to a person cutting oxygen off to themselves for arousal, hence the word auto. It usually occurs because whatever device the person used failed to disengage when one lost consciousness. It is quite unlikely(but possible) a person would die from choking unless the hold was maintained for few minutes. But if I recall, choking to a point of losing consciousness can cause other injuries.

smilenbseen · #7 08-21-2008, 06:33 AM

choking a bitch is being aggressive. You can't learn to be aggressive you are or you aren't. Take some steroids or something, throw her around slap her, pound her hard. If you know what it is then just do it, there is no trick to it.

iWitness · #8 08-21-2008, 03:21 PM

Being aggressive in bed is like being Alpha I guess. It's a frame... Just |||| shit up and treat her like a rag doll. Compliance tests = smacking her in the face. If she ||||s you harder, she passes the compliance test :P

-iWitness

p.s Erotic Asphyxiation just doesn't sound as fun lol

kicknitinkc · #9 08-21-2008, 03:54 PM

No smacking bitches, or choking em out. Sometimes they beg for me to choke them so I do for a few seconds and thats it. The main thing that ALL women love, is getting their hair pulled during sex. But you have to do it right. Slide your hand up the back of her neck to the back of her head, make a fist with your hand until you have an ok grip on her hair, and then slowly pull it back until their head goes back a little, hold that position for a few seconds, and then release. Be a little rougher and more dominant in bed, I think thats what she's trying to say to you.

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I can't do it. Don't know why,
I just know that i cant do it.

This is negative thinking. Delete: can't, won't, never, will not, not good enough, etc; from your vocabulary. I used to be the same way as you are. I grew up watching movies and crap where the sex scenes were all "romantic" and slow and it made me think that's how all women want it. Some do, but most like it rough IMO. Read some sex ebooks and learn some shit.

Xadus · #10 08-21-2008, 09:32 PM

I need to be aggressive...i cant choke her and just a side note She has been Raped by 5 different guys...so i need to be aggressive without slapping her or choking her. So please advise further on that...she likes to be told what to do...