You know I went through the exact samething for I was always self concious about myself and what others thought about me, especially in field and even to the extent of my friends too. And for me it was infact an insecurity with not the people around me, but actually just one person I wanted to understand me, that person was my mother. In essence my mother was once the root of my insecurities because I felt that she never understood me, causing me to be stuck in an illusion that forced me to feel like nobody understood me and I was really alone.
I find this to be true with a lot of people not only guys but girls too. Sometimes our insecurities come from one source and our emotions sometimes confuse us. Usually the problem is actually right next to us, we just don't seem to notice it at first. One thing I learned and realized in the end was was this.
Attraction is nothing more than a test. A good example would be like the college SATS if any of you remember taking them lol. Its not personal, just simply a test in how well you can attract women. For attracting women is more of a skill, yes it can be a personality trait but everybody is built differently. If you decide to take the attraction phase personally, you've just made the job over 9000 times more difficult for yourself, who by the way is your biggest obstacle. Its never about your real self in attraction, so don't it seriously its all an act. Once you and a women are able to open up your real personalities of who you both are (usually on a day two), thats when you know you passed the test of attraction.
Great post man, you nailed it good.  | 
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