Humans are born with no inherent inhibitions. This is why everyone loves babies. They have massive personality, because they act how they want, with no apparent regard for the judgment of others (Maxwell Maltz).
In a way, this is the definition of the natural. If you don’t fear failure or being judged by others then you can be free and creative in doing whatever the fuck you want.
All inhibitions are learned. Life in today’s society ingrains us with these. Whilst some are appropriate, the effect of others can cause a massive negative effect.
In his book, Maxwell Maltz refers to this as the “excessive negative feedback effect”.
Communication is necessarily a 2-way process, whereby one person speaks/acts and, based on feedback he/she receives, alters the flow/content of the interaction.
Here, feedback is a good thing. However, putting too much emphasis on negative feedback (e.g. past bad reactions from chicks) can really act to stifle and creativity and flair (ie PERSONALITY). Therefore, when someone says “hes got no personality”, what this actually means is that “his personality is massively inhibited to the point where the fear of failure stifles any would-be-attempts to be creative/funny/daring etc”.
So.. the aim is to lose these inhibitions. Stop giving so much of a shit about what other people think of you. THIS STIFLES CREATIVITY MASSIVELY. You think actors could do what they do if they were self-conscious? Top actors are archetypal alphas (Heath Ledger in Dark Knight was an awesome recent example,RIP).
If you’ve had bad reactions in the past, this will always be playing on your mind when trying to chat up girls, which is even more unhelpful. A useful parallel is people with stutters and stammers. When they had headphones on, blasting white noise so they can’t hear themselves, their speech improves MASSIVELY as they can’t focus on their stammer (from Maltz). The key is to break the thought cycle.
The route to stop giving a shit about what people think of you (ps not in a lame “fuck the system” sort of way, this is very sad and attention seeking, a massive DLV) is to get rid of your insecurities.
All negative/unattractive behaviour is the result of insecurities..
>Anger (perceived not to be taken seriously enough)
>Taking remarks personally than necessary (self-doubt)
>Being affected (caring too much about what others say/do = insecure)
>Inability to vibe/feel good about others = jealousy = insecurity (WHY GUYS NOT GETTING LAID CAN NEVER BE YOUR TRUE MATES …THINK ABOUT IT!!)
>Defensive body language (feel unable to open up to somebody for whatever unattractive reason)
>stuff from TDs 25 points e.g. pecking,snapping,clinging (too eager to seek rapport = desperate = unhappy with self = insecure)
For guys, insecurities boil down to insecurity in their MASCULINITY. This is the reason why you find AFCs continuously trying to prove themselves to mates by doing ‘MACHO’ things (e.g. downing pints, hating students, ordering expensive steak, talking insulting GF).
You think if they could get laid all the time they’d bother/feel the need to want to do this stuff? No. Because they’d have NOTHING TO PROVE and they could act in a way they wanted because, in a way, they wouldn’t really give a fuck if their mates took the piss out of them for anything, because they’d be guaranteed not to lose their respect as they were getting laid all the time.
Note, I’m not a cunt who doesn’t like lads nights out, I’m just trying to make a point from one extreme (AFC culture, where all they ever to is go out and are too chickenshit to approach until they’ve had their 6 stella).
The first step is to get the excessive negative feedback thing sorted out. This is done by experimenting with canned attraction material, which gets girls going, gives you a bit of a confidence boost … (positive upward cycle). As you start losing inhibitions, you notice yourself being able to act more spontaneously. This can only ever be a good thing (reliance on canned stuff is massively rAFC, but a necessary step nonetheless).
The more spontaneous you are, the more genuine you appear (genuine-ness is a major oversight in the literature of PU IMO) and the more success you get. The more success = fewer insecurities/more confidence = less inhibitions = greater ability to show personality = FUCKING ATTRACTIVE.
Ride the upward cycle and soon you’ll be thinking ‘bollocks to routines’ and the sort of stuff mPUAs post about (grab ‘em off the street fucks) start passing through your mind when you see people out and about.
It makes a massive impact on your body language (this simply cannot be understated) and you start beginning to understand why it is that some people can walk with a sexual swagger all the time.
You undergo a complete personality transformation and the way you think/act/react/behave is necessarily consistent with this, so any unconscious (namely spontaneous) actions start to become like those of a ‘natural’. C+F becomes second nature. All of a sudden, the game becomes a fuckload easier and ‘
getting into state’ is a thing of the past.
PS there’ll probably be come cunt who says “omg, what a profound fucking insight!!” or some shit like this. Like a lot of the stuff out there, some of it IS obvious, its just that we have become so conditioned to believing ‘the norm’ through our lives in society to date, we become completely blind to the actual truths. Do you think anyone is born with no personality? I don’t fucking think so.
Hope this helps some people out there (sort of the point in the community). Anyone unable to appreciate this point, is BY DEFINITION, an insecure cunt (if you were secure in yourself, why would you feel a need to unnecessarily take a pop at someone else’s attempt to help others out?). ps don’t take this as being defensive, I’m just trying to make a point of trolls.
PS thankyou
Braddock – your
inner game post changed my life
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