I attended Adam Lyons’ Chicago
Bootcamp from August 8 through August 10 of 2008. I originally heard of PUA Training from Bristol Lair. There was a glowing review of PUA Training BC’s (that has since been taken down) there and this, along with the extraordinarily low price, convinced me to join. I had never been to a BC before, but I have read reviews. I have a lot of AA and I was hoping that this would give me a big boost towards that goal. I was expected a lot of coaching in the field. I have read a lot, but have been very hesitant to go out into the field. The 2
day game and 2 night game sessions were one of the main reasons why I joined the BC in the first place. However, what ensured was what I can only describe as a fiasco of unimaginable proportions.
The reporting time was at 6:45 PM on Friday. I was expecting a hotel room, and was very nervous. What I found was that it was the residence of the only HB helper, Amanda. Adam and his girlfriend Amanda were already there, along with Kyle, who was introduced to me as one of the students from Adam’s first BC in the USA who had shown the maximum improvement in the BC. This was about 5 weeks ago. They went on to say that he was very bad at talking to women, and that that he had really improved since then. That thoroughly impressed me. The fact that a student from 5 weeks ago was good enough become an instructor so quickly flabbergasted me.
The BC started, and we went through attraction, comfort, body language &
kino, social proof, opening & comfort building and # closing. Adam has a good vibe going, and led the
seminar really well. We created an opinion opener that we were going to use in the field today. I picked my Hippie opener. He said that he wasn’t going to do live demonstrations because he was in a committed relationship, which didn’t bother me as much initially because I had seen several clips on youtube. He also mentioned that there are people that create the illusion of a 20 second # close by pretending to check if their phone is working with the girl. However, I realized later that having live demonstrations can actually be a confidence builder. Another tidbit that was mentioned was that, since it was a logistical nightmare to fly a group of 10 instructors to every BC, he had arranged for 2 members of the local lair (Chicago Lair) to assist him and be approach coaches. This concerned me. But I reassured myself saying that this was Adam Lyons after all. Besides ||||||||||| website promises “at least 3 MPUA trainers” every BC. I was extremely nervous at this time though, because I didn’t have the mental boost that I had hoped for at this time. I have the tendency to be intimidated by people with a higher skill level than I, and that concerned me that I hadn’t received the confidence to go out at this stage. If anything, my anxiety had only escalated. Certainly not what I was expecting.
The first bar I hit was pretty dead. It was a sports bar, and wasn’t crowded (the cubs game had just finished and everybody had left, apparently). I opened a bunch of sets there, and none of them hooked. I committed social suicide by just standing there. I was just paralyzed with fear then. Kyle, my approach coach, wasn’t very helpful in alleviating my anxiety, or for anything else, for that matter. The other two approach coaches, Matt and Will, weren’t all that helpful either, though Matt tried his level best to help. However, the approach coaches definitely weren’t MPUAs. I was started ejecting prematurely. On top of that, Kyle asked me to approach a set with my opinion opener, and he walked up to them, and said, “My friend has a question for you guys.” Now what is the purpose of that? Isn’t the sole purpose of opening, to actually do it by yourself? This only made this more awkward for me? On top of that, it seemed like Kyle was more interested in gaming himself than in helping me and my game.
We bounced to another place, and my anxiety started to peak. I wasn’t
getting into state, and it was ridiculously difficult for me to even go into the bar. When I went in there, I started to do more approaches, but I was again killing myself with social suicide. I started to stutter with my words even. Of all my blown out approaches, I remember one in particular. Kyle pushed me to a complement approach, and when I opened, he came in with “what did he say?” to the target. He did that again a couple of times. That deflated what was left of my confidence. I don’t know what the goal of that was, maybe to see if I was speaking loud enough? If so, it would’ve helped my confidence if he had explained that to me. I thought he was trying to AMOG me. The night ended, and I took the long ride back to the hotel room. I hadn’t had such a bad night since I learned about the community. PUA training assures us of a full refund upto 5 hours into the BC. I was seriously contemplating leaving that night. But it still would’ve cost me my trip and my hotel expenses. I again kept reminding myself that this was Adam Lyons. So I decided to stay.
I was late for the
seminar because of construction on the railway tracks. 49 minutes late, to be exact. More on that below. I missed the feedback and a good portion of the 3 characters. We did some exercises on communication and keeping talking. It wasn’t anything new to me though. Nothing you can’t find elsewhere, and certainly nothing unique. There was a lot of trash talking and bragging of other programs, especially TMM. At one point, Adam was telling us about how TMM sends certain students that they can’t handle to Adam. I don’t know about that, but I am not going to question it. He also said that TMM was founded by Mystery, who is a master illusionist, and that his method works for him, in particular because he is a magician and because he is 6’6”. Adam also alluded to his belief that TMM instructors create an illusion of success with women, and that magic is primarily used to DHV. Now Adam’s wording was very clever in that he never directly accused TMM of creating illusions of success. He just alluded to it and I don’t remember the exact words. I have several problems with this. First of all, while Mystery might be a master illusionist, he is also a great chess player. He approached the game as a chess game, with contingencies upon contingency. Every move has a counter move, and every aspect of the technique is designed to progress towards the next step in the method. Mystery does not advocate magic as the only form of DHV. It’s just one among many methods to DHV. The method doesn’t just work on Mystery. It has worked on plenty of others, including
Sinn, Savoy, Cajun, Tenmagnet etc., just to name a few. When Adam said that TMM creates an illusion of success, that turned me off. I have personally seen several students get good through a TMM BC. At this point, I realized that I’d made a mistake by returning the 2nd day. So I just decided to get whatever I could out of it.
The
seminar progressed through the day. There was nothing revolutionary that I learned from it, that I hadn’t seen before. As I mentioned before, I was looking for more hands-on in-field training. While the PUA training website announces that there would be 2 day-game sessions, the logistics showed that one of the sessions would be solo gaming, one of my major
sticking points. I was told to ask for 5 numbers from girls. However, I only talked to 3 girls and asked only 1 girl for her number. We went to the club, and after paying the $40 cover, we got in. As I was standing in the line, I tried to get into a talkative mood by using Style’s guy opener. However, one of the other students thought I was accusing the target of stealing my shirt, and laughed at me thereby blowing me out. It didn’t bother me as much because at this point, I was pretty much trying to get as much out of this as possible at that time.
I opened a few sets. Kyle actually winged me in one of them and that was pretty cool. Matt was trying his best. He would sit with me and push me on occasion. However, I still had a lot of AA and the negative experiences over the past couple of days seemed to take their toll on my mental state. Adam did push me as well initially but he was there with his girlfriend and wasn’t any feedback sessions in the field as I had originally wanted.
The 3rd day
seminars were the same. At this point, things had just become a blur for me. We started day-gaming and I asked for a number and got blown out. At the end of the
day game session, I was sitting with Amanda, and she said that we had to motivate ourselves at this point, and that they weren’t going to “hold hands.” This threw me off because there wasn’t much of walking through by the instructors in the field in the BC.
The planning was pretty bad. I was told that I would receive an email on the Monday (4th of August) prior to the BC. Moreover, August 4th passed, and I had no location. I had to contact the website to find out where the physical location was. By the evening of Tuesday, around 4PM, I got an email with the logistics and the schedule. This inconvenienced me tremendously because I was driving from Columbia, Missouri. I wanted to find a hotel close to the location. I wasn’t able to do that. All the hotels close to the location were reserved for the weekend, and I had to find a place near the airport, which is a good 1.5-2 hours away from Amanda’s house. First, I had to take a shuttle from my hotel to the train, catch the blue line to the transfer point, then catch the green line to another station, and then walk a mile to her place. Also, since there was construction on the tracks, I had to get off at Jefferson Park, catch a shuttle to the next station and take another train to O’Hara every time I traveled by train. This added an additional 1 hour of travel either way. This was particularly gruesome during the nights, when the trains weren’t that frequent. I didn’t reach the hotel until 4AM on Saturday and Sunday mornings. Consequently, it took me 2:45 minutes to get to Amanda’s place on Saturday, which made me miss close to 1 hour on Day 2. You know what, I shouldn’t blame anybody else for not starting earlier, but it still makes me wonder if it would’ve happened had I known the location earlier. I have been to the Stylelife WCC, and the location was advertised months before the actual event. I was consequently able to find a hotel within walking distance and it was cheap too. Which brings me to another point. We paid the initial $150 up front at the time of registration. I (and all the other students as well) was under the mistaken impression that we would be charged for the rest before the BC, at least that’s what the website said. Adam had to remind us during the BC. I contacted the website on the Monday after the BC, and I didn’t get a response until Thursday, when they eventually charged me. Weird.
I did my homework before I joined this BC. Adam’s BCs have received good reviews throughout. I am not one to believe everything I read, but I do believe that if there are converging reports saying that his BCs are very productive, it probably is productive. So imagine my surprise when, on Sunday, Adam mentioned that he was going to eventually stop doing BCs because he wants people to learn from his book and that would be sufficient. I interpreted that as him being in a stage where he’s in a committed relationship and he didn’t want to approach anybody at this time. I understand that, but my question is, if that is his situation, why offer BCs at all, that too one that seems cobbled together without properly experienced MPUAs or in-depth field training?
I read the following in another review of Adam’s BC: From an instructor’s perspective,
bootcamps are always hard work. If you care for your clients/students, you make sure they are learning and improving under your watch but you also want to make sure they are having a good time. Sometimes, you have to sacrifice your own fun to make sure the student/client is doing ok. Sometimes, you have enough good instructors with you that you can afford to get a little enjoyment yourself while on the job. The full review is at
Weekend Bootcamp With Adam Lyons | Kiss N' Tale. This was written by one of the instructors themselves. Most of the instructors weren’t making sure that the students were learning or improving. Kyle’s tactics actually made me want to approach less and less. At the end of the BC, my self esteem was so low that I had to go out with my friend and just hang out in the club environment in Columbia just to get back into my previous state. How is this an effective BC?
Adam mentioned that he was freelancing with PUA training, and that he was not constrained to do what they prescribed. The website advertises “paid guests to train in special areas of expertise from palm reading to fashion” (wasn’t there), live demonstrations (Adam didn’t do live demonstrations) with “expert guidance and exposure to a variety of different styles” (little or no feedback sessions in field), “palm-reading, hypnosis” (Adam didn’t mention palm-reading and said that he didn’t believe in hypnosis), “at least 3 MPUA Trainers” (was only one, Adam), “2
Day game sessions with frequent mini-feedback sessions” (one was solo, and the other had one feedback initially: Good, keep going. Then we had to go off and approach on our own) and “2 Night game sessions in bars and clubs with frequent feedback sessions” (there was, maybe some initial feedback, though I didn’t find it helpful much, and then I was mostly alone). Considering these inadequacies, why would PUA training advertise these on their website? I wouldn’t be writing such a negative review if just one or two of these issues arose during the BC. However, the fact that all these happened simultaneously made the entire endeavor completely wasteful.
I was debating whether to post this or not. I was also debating whether to show Adam and Amanda this review and ask them for their input. Then I realized that this is not going to change one thing. So here it is.
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