Sounding high energy on the phone

[trifecta3]

Alright, so I got two numbers this weekend and decided to give them a call. I called the more promising of the two yesterday and things went well. The only issue was that while I was trying to be high energy and enthusiastic I was speaking too fast. She commented on how fast I was speaking so I fixed that quick and we chatted for about 15 minutes. She’s been texting me a lot and wanting to talk so I’m going to call her tomorrow and set up a Day 2 for Wednesday.

Anyway I called the second girl today and right off the bat I slowed down the pace of my talking. The problem there was that I felt dull and boring and I’m pretty sure she picked up on it as well. Just wondering if anyone has any tips for how to speak on the phone in a high-energy manner but without talking too fast?

Thanks

[spellcaster]

there's not much to say, it is always important you know and have in mind ALWAYS were you want to go with the conversation, don't ask for permitions, just lead the conversation.
regarding the voice, it is VERY important to accent important words, make pauses all necesary to make what you're saing important. anchor words.
regards
spell

[chill84]

Yell. Seriously. Yell at them. "HEYYYYYYY WHADUP HB!!!"

There's your opener. High energy, you imediately kick their energy up a notch, and it starts you out on a very high point where you can then easily move down to whatever level suits you. Whenever you want to pump yourself up try yelling in general I find that it works. It's hard to have a low energy level if you do these kinds of things. If you don't believe me, next time you are in your car, just start WOOHOO-ing and notice your energy level rising.

[smilenbseen]

Ok so I hate talking on the phone, and I feel the same as you. I normally text or talk in person. But it isn't always that easy. So if I were to recommend something I would do something like an intro "hey did you just see the two girls fighting outside?" but switch it up for the phone... I always pretend I'm in a car for my first call because I don't want to sound like I'm just sitting around and set aside time to talk to them. So make up so funny story about an accident and oriental people yelling at each other and someone with a golf club or something... be creative it will up your mood because you will get into it... I personally try to get off the phone after that then call back in like 15 minutes and keep conversations short... I lose interest quick so the more I talk to the girl the more I find wrong with her and don't want to bother talking again. Thank god a lot of girls like when you ignore them and treat them like sh it. But not all are like that so you have to figure that out right away! Good luck and I feel your phone pain...

[JaggedG]

It's hard to really explain what to do with your voice to be high-energy without sounding too nervous (i.e. talking too fast). Your best bet is to model yourself after someone who does appear high-energy but still comfortable and high-value. The best example I can think of is Mehow. Right here (YouTube - Mehow INFIELD EXPOSED - "Party Girl (narrated)" - 1/2 )a random YouTube video I found of him both in-set and out of set explaining what's going on. In both cases, his voice is high-energy. He gives off this fun kind of positive energy vibe that is very attractive. However, he also conveys focus with his voice. A very well documented and almost universally recommended way of doing this is by pausing often and for different lengths of time. It makes... everything you say... very... very... interesting. Combine effective pausing with a dynamic voice the way Mehow does, but also play to your own voice. Every mPUA employs similar combinations of elements to create a high-energy but comfortable voice tone, but I chose Mehow because I think his energy is more embellished than others. You can really see what I mean by "dynamic voice" in this video, where nothing he says is in the least bit monotone. That's what you need to sound high-energy, use pauses to make what you're saying more interesting and also to appear more comfortable. Add that with what you already know (i.e. slowing down your talking a little bit) and you'll do fine. Listen to many mPUAs speak, especially in-set. You can pick up little nuances that you can model after them to create your own style, in addition to the largely universal stuff above.