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[lucaluca]

hey guys my girlfriend who I've been with on and off for 9months has been sending my best friend iois. We all just started double dating and he's super alpha very tall very well at speaking and very intuitive. He's also kind of goofy but I fear his high energy and his goofyness maybe coming off as extreme confidence. She sent a few iois the biggest one was asking his girlfriend how big his dick is because he's like 6'5. Not sure if that even is an ioi. Anyway how can I keel my girlfriend strongly attracted to me and not let her slide.

[BigDuke6]

When a chick is asking about your buddy's dick, you either have to confront and tell her you won't tolerate it, or dump her.

[sampanye]

You need to be tolerant... to an extent. If she's asking him questions, keen to find out what he's into etc, she's probably trying to be a good girlfriend and get along with your mates. Be careful what you deem to be an IOI. Some people can get involved in the community, read about IOIs and become totally paranoid, trying to fit everything into neat little slots as the PU literature says.

That being said, she shouldn't be asking about your buddy's dick. IOI or not, it's not appropriate conversation for her to be making with his girlfriend.

Don't get jealous as that will just make you seem weak and not confident. Unless your girlfriend and your best friend are both scumbags (which I'm pretty sure they're not otherwise why would you have them in your life) don't think anything of this. Your mate's not going to run off with your girl. Focus on building up HER attraction FOR YOU. Whatever you did to attract her to you in the first place, just do that and see whether her behaviour continues.

[Colin]

Well...at that moment in time she was thinking about your buddy's dick (That's a huge IOI, toward him, btw)

You have every right to be a little concerned. But that's just it, jealousy is a normal biological response. As men, we know a girl will take interest in a more dominate or suitable male, we do the same shit with women.

I think you may wanna start playing the field a little more and rediscover your masculinity/dominance with women. Maybe pick up some of that mojo your buddy seems to embody. Maybe lay off the BF/GF shit for a while.

[jscore]

That's pretty interesting because as I started reading about community I started seeing things very differently: IOIs that my gf may be giving to other guys, etc. I just didn't notice stuff like that before.

I think you have to be careful about reading this kinda stuff, but in your situation, if it was me, and my gf was commenting about some guy's dick, I would definately see it as an issue. Don't do anything just yet, but see what happens.

[lucaluca]

yeah I see it as a issue as you all do too, though he is tall and she said exactly " just out of curiosity how big is ******* dick... He's so tall". Prior to this we were all talking about sex because my friends girlfriend wanted to know when she should fuck my friend. Am I just making excuses here?

How can I build attraction with my girlfriend?

[sampanye]

Originally Posted by lucaluca

yeah I see it as a issue as you all do too, though he is tall and she said exactly " just out of curiosity how big is ******* dick... He's so tall". Prior to this we were all talking about sex because my friends girlfriend wanted to know when she should fuck my friend. Am I just making excuses here?

If you boys knew what us girls talk about when we're not around you, you'd probably lose some sleep. We know you perve on other girls and we don't really care, we just don't want it flaunted in our faces. Same deal here.

In an ideal (monogamous) world, we would only ever have eyes for one person. We would all become blind to other members of the opposite sex once we were in a relationship. Here's the reality: girls are not immune from sexual curiosity. My issue is not exactly that she's thought about some other guy's dick, I just don't think it was appropriate for her to express this particular thought out loud.