TWINS,
You certainly have the dedication and will to become a master of your study and it certainly was a pleasure sarging with you last week here in LA. I look forward to your next visit.
Field Report
I finally met TWINS around 10:00PM that night in Sunset and we got to know each other a bit before we went out to sarge. It was very interesting to see how committed he is to mastering the game and how he embraces the idea that the game is meant to enhance one's life, not define it. His friend TOXIC later joined and we headed to the venue GOA where we were to meet some female friends of TWINS.
When we meet the girls, we introduced each other and made our way to line line to get into the GOA club. I did not want to run much game on these girls because I would most likely be spending much of the night with them and a transition would've been likely to fail making an uncomfortable night. Fortunately, TWINS was able to keep a conversation going with in our group. TWINS asked me to open a set behind me, but I took too long thinking of an opener and TOXIC was took the set. After waiting in line for a while with our group being gamed by TWINS, we made it into the club.
Once inside the club, TWINS pointed out his target of interest in our group and I offered to sarge her friend who may have be an obstacle. I decided to ask a few simple questions that would lead to a neg. A few moments after talking to the obstacle, she asked me my age. I replied and then asked her for her age. She replied. I told her she looked much younger; young enough to be my little sister (a neg and to disqualify her as a mate). Her response was, "Um, that would be incest." My thought at the time was, "WTF?" I must have unknowingly showed her signs of interest if she thought I had sex with her in mind. I ended up naturally giving her a cold shoulder and told her that's not what I had in mind. From there, I began looking for sets to open.
I had extraordinary difficulty opening sets even if a HB7or8 would show me IOIs right away so I asked TWINS to just pick a set for me. He chose a set right behind me and I made my approach. As usual, my mind went blank when I needed an opener. My opening was AFC material, but I was able to transition to a DHV story.
At the beginning of my story with my target, a reasonably good-looking muscle-guy
attempted to AMOG me. This muscle-guy walked into my set and placed his arm around my target. I responded naturally. I simply smiled, talked very briefly with the set, and asked my target, "So, you came here with your boyfriend?" as I directed to the muscle-guy's direction. She responded, "Oh god, no." From here, he released his iron-grip on my target and I was able to successfully finish my DHV story routine. I was surprised on how easy it was to suppress this guy.
Everything was going well with this first set, but I just didn't stay in the game. After my DHV story routine and a few minutes of conversation with my target, I made an excuse to leave and I told her I may come back to see her again. Unfortunately, this was as far as I got into the game for the night.
Contemplating on how I was going to open the next set got me walking back and forth in the venue which caught the attention of a bouncer who befriended me. He asked me why I wasn't getting any girls since I was dressed so well and I told him not to worry as I will be getting a lot better in time. We kept running into each other in the club, making new conversations, and he introduced me to sets (which I failed to properly open
). It wouldn't be a bad idea to visit this venue again as he can help me with DHV. He told me to keep him updated and I told him I will.
After the club, one of the girls in our group treated us to a nice meal in a restaurant and I had an idea for bouncing to another setting afterwards. I shared some of my ideas with TWINS and TOXIC of visiting a new setting after the meal so the girls would build a sense of familiarity with us so TWINS can proceed to the next phase. It was 3:00AM when we were eating and I asked the girls if they're usually up this late. One of the girls responded with a yes and I told her how my friends and I would build a bonfire at the beach around this time for a relaxed setting. Unfortunately, I wasn't able to make this idea interesting enough for the girls to say anything about it.
After the meal, we went outside, talked a bit, and said our good-nights.
Feedback- I need to open much more often! OPEN OPEN OPEN.
- It's recommended that I don't ask my target if she has a boyfriend. In my
AMOG situation, my question implied if the muscle-guy was her boyfriend. I
didn't use any textbook material(that I know of) to disarm the AMOG, so I'm not yet sure how this would work out in most AMOG situations. - I must not forget to talk to the set, not just my target.
- I need to start working on my attraction and isolation routines.
- TWINS was definitely the life of the group as he was able to keep interesting conversations going with the girls the entire night.
- TWINS and I agreed that he stayed in attraction phase too long. Better preparation for the transition of attraction to comfort/isolation is recommended.
- Maybe some peacock items for TWINS? It can help although it doesn't seem like he needed them the night this field report refers to.
So what can I do about my mind going blank in A-1 before the approach? Besides practicing, I will try a mnemonic system (mnemonic is a memory aid). The system I will use is known as Mnemonic Peg System. The way it works is that a set of items can be easily memorized simply by attaching each item to an already memorized set of sequence. Explaining how I can use it to remember openers when my memory betrays me can run quite lengthy. If this system is successful in helping me remember openers under anxiety, I will definitely post the details and I'll use it to help out with other phases.
I'd appreciate any feedback or comments from the community. See you guys around.