How to tell a girl YOU like something that is socially ||||ed up?

[theagx]

Hi,

This is ||||ed up and a long story involving all kinds of things from confusion to OCD panic attacks over sexuality. One day I might go into it. Anyway, cut to the chase:

Kinda Graphic:

While masturbating, I rub just behind my testicles for extra feeling (all external stuff). Since I started, masturbating this way, "normal" masturbation seems to lack feeling. Trust me, I had to get over a lot of disgust. I used a tissue coz I think its unhygenic.

I know girls can get guys to go down on them without them being perceived as abnormal or having lesbian tendencies, but it doesn't seem to work the other way, especially in the era of the alpha male.

So how would you go about mentioning this to a girl? By using a tissue, do I DLV (you know, besides the whole topic itself)?

When replying, I wonder if you could refer to the approach on this subject (how you tell a girl; how often guys tell girls about stuff) rather than telling me more about this freaky side of sex, since I get panic attacks about me hearing something to convince me try something even freakier, until I end up on the other side of the fence. So, please don't add "extra" info that isn't common knowledge, etc.

I hope I haven't freaked anyone out with this post, and that I still have the kind of mutual comaraderie that we see around here. Thanks.

[Mr Jack]

i don't understand, do u use a tissue in the hand thats rubbing or thats doing the masturbating?

[neonlite]

Youd be surprised at how socially NOT ||||ed up it is...is not super common, but is not definetly not too rare.

In the era of the alpha male a lot of those cliches are out the window. Alpha male is more about attitude rather than tastes in sex. The key to the matter is to make sure that is something that she does in order to give you more pleasure and kinda relate that pleasure back unto her. kinda like an adventure that you both want, not what defines you.

Further explanation: Have you ever gone down on a girl and just seeing her face makes you wanna bang her brains out, works the same way with everything in sex, EVEN including the stuff you are refering to.

From personal experience, I went out with a girl whose only sex experience was traumatic and at a young age....However, by the end of our relationship we were so comfortable with each other that sex acts including anilingus and stuff where normal.

The key is the envisionment of any sex act. What is important is to be classy about it, or at least make her feel comfortable. Portrait not as an aberration but as another sexual adventure, exploring deeper the comfort zone with each other. And make sure you both enjoy it....oh yeah and be CLEAN! about it.

How to get it done? well, first of all talk about it...dont just jump into it...for me even some porn videos helped.... She has to be comfortable with it, now what it is, and see that it is something she may be curious about. Second, be PATIENT, not everygirl is gonna do everything you want them to do, and if they dont feel like it...well they wont and is your loss. Third, be willing to take a step foward BUT WATCH OUT...If you push too much you are gonna get a shit reaction and possibly a really really hurt woman....so be invitational rather than empowering.. Fourth, be comfortable during sex (by your description it May seem you are ashamed of what you are doing...however it is part of you that you enjoy, and what else can you do)

Hope this helped....

[Hellcrypt]

What? Am I the only one who does not understand what's going on?

[Ice Pill]

I'd say take it a step at a time.

During sex when she's highest in her emotions, say "Aww yea touch blah blah blah [im not exactly sure where you're talking about, but it just sounds like your balls]" and when she does do that, just keep pointing her in the right direction to the point where it doesnt sound like:

You: "Do this this and that."

But like this:

You: "Yea try that"
" and that"
"and this"

And it'll end up looking like you just found a new method of sex with her.

Or you could tell her? What you're saying doesnt sound like anything unusual that you cant see in a blowjob porno.

But if it is, yea like stated already, be hygenic about it.

[Phateless]

ask her what she likes, have a conversation about it. ask her if there's anything she's kinda shy to try that she would like to. make it sound like you're willing to try something for her that may have been too shy to ask someone else.

[JumpingFromPlanes]

Some of the best sex comes from a good conversation. Why guess at what each other likes.

[theagx]

OK thanks guys. I was kinda talking about external prostate stimulation, but now Im even wondering about a girl doing internal. Or is that too unalpha? Its freaky to the Nth degree, I know. Don't get it twisted, I would have prefered the prostate to be anywhere but THERE (google it at your peril). On my neck even. What a cruel joke it is doing there.

[smilenbseen]

Ah finally understood what was happening on the last post. There's girls that like to do that dude, I won't say it's common but I would put a 1 in 20 number on it. I had a girl try to finger me once and I was so close to decking her, I don't know how you can stand it but whatever works for you. There's even girls that like to toss your salad, which I'm assuming you would be ok with. I wouldn't worry about it, it's not that weird, I find foot fetishes way more weird.

[mich20]

rubbing the spot behind your testicles by your girl while she's giving you a bj isn't something that is socially unacceptable. my girl did it without me asking for it and she said that she read in cosmo that she should do it this way () ... doing it in internal way? hmm way too freaky and weird for most girls probably...