Does sex become less important as you get into your 30s?

[Keldas]

I should start this off with the caveat that I'm not sleeping with anyone at present. If I was sleeping with someone maybe my perspective would be different.

Having said that my general interest in sex is a lot less than it was when I was in my 20s.

When I meet girls nowadays I size them up in a different way. Of course, I am aware of their looks, but I am much more interested in their personalities.

I guess I am looking for a girl who would make a good companion, and with whom I could have sex, rather than the other way around.

Anyone else noticed this shift in thinking? I read somewhere that testosterone levels in men decline in their 30s; maybe this is a natural consequence of that.

[electric eye]

I'm 45 and sex is on my mind constantly.

That being said, I think once you pass 30 you stop thinking with your dick first. It doesn't mean you're less interested in sex as much as it means your screening process is becoming more elegant. You're learning to work smarter.

Spending time with someone that doesn't share your values and ethics, regardless of their physical beauty is doing yourself a huge disservice. I'd next a 10 that's a bird brain and choose a 7 that I can actually have an intelligent discussion with any day of the week.

[jegnaw]

I stopped thinking with my dick since fast internet access came to the home. I masturbate like a freaking maniac and I am in my early 40s. There is no hour that passes without me thinking about women and/or sex. Before the internet era at home, in my early and mid 30s I used to walk around with a hard-on I was miserable. I don't know what it is man, I may by a sex addict but its a good problem to have I am told. Thanx for new discoveries in medicine I am taking this hobby into my 80s.
Can't believe your question! past 30 sex become less important you say??!!! are you for real?

[Keldas]

I can honestly say that I don't care that much! Maybe I would care more if I was already sleeping with someone or there was a girl in the frame. I do find when I am dating someone I fancy that I get very horny, or if I meet someone that I fancy I get sexually excited, but aside from that not really. I have noticed that my general interest in sex is much lower than some of my friends so maybe I just have a low sex drive.

[Sarge in Charge]

Look, no one can or should tell you how important sex should be to you or how many times a day you should think about it/jack off. Its a matter of personal preference and/or choice.

That being said, it could become a problem within the context of an LTR or MLTR if she has a higher demand for it than you do.

Also, it is true that a males testosterone levels begin to drop after thirty but levels vary wildly between individulas. Have you had your test levels checked? Its a possibility, albeit a small one, that they are abnormally low.

Personally, I find that I'm hornier now than when I was 18. But my thinking has definitely evolved along the same lines as yours.

When I meet girls nowadays I size them up in a different way. Of course, I am aware of their looks, but I am much more interested in their personalities.

Ditto!

I'd next a 10 that's a bird brain and choose a 7 that I can actually have an intelligent discussion with any day of the week.

Exactly!

[Keldas]

There are times when I am very horny and other times when I am completely indifferent. It is hard to know what is normal and what isn't when it comes to these things.

I guess I am going through an indifferent patch at present. Maybe that is related to the fact that I am going through a bit of stress at the moment - there are a number of things preying on my mind. Perhaps that is the reason...

You're right, in an LTR this would be a problem. But I don't think that would be an issue -every time I've been involved with an attractive woman I have wanted lots of sex.

I guess it does matter at the moment because one needs the sex drive to be motivated to pursue women and ultimately have sex.

[LoneStud]

I am 49 and I stay in tip top shape so my testostrone is staying steady..I think pretty much about sex all the time and like Electric Eye said you only become smarter as you get older and when your wiser actually the women you choose the sex becomes even more satisfying because theres a brain that is mature and in concert to yours.

Everyone is different I suppose but being in your 30's and sex taking a back seat I'd seriously consider getting checked for maybe depression or some other problem thats come on you just to make sure..

LoneStud

[Keldas]

I don't think I am depressed although I have done a lot of thinking over the past few months about my attitude towards woman, my career, friends and general purpose in life. I don't think that kind of heavy duty self-analysis does any favours for one's sex drive. Its almost like I've had a mini mid life crisis or something. Thankfully I seem to be coming out of that phase...

Maybe I have also been in a state of denial. I haven't been in bed with a woman since Feb; I've been trying all kinds of things to meet women and none of it has really paid off. Perhaps I got the idea in my head that I would stick my head in the sand and pretend that sex doesn't really matter. But one can't go around denying reality or being out of touch with one's instincts.

Anyway, thanks for the contributions. I appreciate them.

[LoneStud]

Keldas your just going through a period of discovery being a deep thinker is actually healthy it puts your life in order when you feel otherwise nothing wrong with that...

March on.... hope what your searching for manifest itself this could be the spiritual side of you awakening too...

Everyone is different when it comes to sex drives some have more some have less and some who get older fall into addictions of sex and risk std's but the main thing is control and being satisfied when the desire appears for you not what others think.

I'm just a horny dog I reckon.

LoneStud

[Keldas]

Cheers man, I really appreciate your comments.

You're right the spiritual stuff I have been doing over the past couple of weeks is actually taking me out of myself and getting me more connected with my desires and instincts...

It is time to march on, put the intellect aside and have some fun!