That's a good visualization exercise. Some body language things that could complement this. Let's say you walk in a bar or social scene and you don't know very many people. You may be feeling tense, insecure, nervous. Do this:
- Walk in like you own the place
- Stand up straight, chin high
- Walk with long strides, walk on your heals (walking with small steps on toes shows weakness, do the opposite)
- Walk with purpose, like your going somewhere, even if that is to the bathroom or to the other side of the bar because you don't know anyone shouldn't just stand in one place. Don't walk slow like you don't know where you are or are going.
- Smile, this should actually be at the top of the list
- Face and pay attention to who you are talking to instead of scanning the room. Guys who own the place are not scanning the room looking for chicks.
If you do this enough, you are likely to actually feel confident and feel like you own the place, even if you don't. Did you know that if your force yourself to smile with a fake smile, it is hard to be mad or sad. The mind leads the body but the body can also lead the mind. Same goes for the above, walk and talk like you are confident and you are likely to become confident.  |