[Clawn]

When you walk in any unfamiliar environment, do you feel at ease? Or do you try to just blend in as much as possible?

What you need to do is adopt an inner state of comfort, familiarity and overall confidence. It’s a pretty easy trick, but first you’ve got to understand how it works. Feel the difference between the following situations:

-Imagine that you’re on your first day at your new job. There are a lot of people around you. Everything is new and you don’t really know exactly what to do. How do you feel?

-Now imagine that you’re having a great party at your place. There are a lot of people around you. You talk to strangers as if you’re “the man”. How do you feel?

In the first situation, you probably feel some degree of discomfort(depending on the exact situation). You’re not really sure of yourself and that causes you to give off a nervous, insecure vibe. Even when you’re consciously trying to look confident or “cool”.

In the second situation, you feel a sense of comfort, familiarity, confidence and overall VALUE. It’s YOUR place, YOU decide what’s going to happen. Everything revolves (directly or indirectly) around YOU. It’s as if you automatically feel that you have more value, which is sub-communicated in the way you move, talk etc.

Apply this feeling in normal life. -Walk around as if you own the place-. Adopt that mentality of comfort and confidence. It’s YOUR life, YOUR world, everyone else is just part of it. It gives off a subtle vibe of natural confidence which people pick up on, consciously or subconsciously. Men feel you have power, women feel attraction towards you.

This doesn’t mean that you’re better then everyone else, it’s just your world and therefore you have the right to live it the way you want it to. All other people live in their own worlds, they have the same right. When you talk to a girl, it’s not two people talking but rather two worlds meeting. That creates an interesting view doesn’t it.

This has helped me a lot personally. It really gives you that natural confidence glow around you. And best of all, it makes you feel better in general in any situation.

Every time that you go somewhere, remember that it’s you who decides how you feel.

Any insights are always welcome.