What Can I Do?

[Mr Jack]

So I kind of have a problem...

my new gf doesn't like me going down on her, nothing wrong with me, she just doesn't like it,

isn't a big fan of fingering, but will let me do it n does get pleasure out but isn't the biggest fan

so how can i make sex better for her? she likes me kissing her neck n ear n like me kissing her back n massage but any other tips wud be gud!

[BigDuke6]

How old is she? If she's 18-22, she might not yet be wired up to enjoy sex.

[folieadeux]

Not all girls find oral sex to be as wildly pleasing as its made out to be. It could also be a comfort thing in that she's not comfortable enough to let you down there.

Also, I've noticed that men tend to jump too fast into oral or fingering. Take your time and tease her body so she gets hot and actually wants you there. Foreplay, oh my

[Mr Jack]

i suggested like her giving me a BJ while i oraled her thing n she was like, 'i don't like guys going down on me...' hmmm

n yeah she's 18 but like its her who like turns the heat up in bed n me calming her down so its not she doens't want it, when ever i ask what she likes she just replies with, 'i'm more bothered if ur enjoying it' n its like... erm quiet obv yes! but i wanna know she's getting something out of it as well!

[TakeMyBreathAway]

This fix is easy. I think its just that she is not comfortable with her own body(Sexually). Do a lot more foreplay, except to me foreplay means:

Foreplay: The stimulation of senses and nerves to teasing levels; putting mental images in one's head either verbally or physically; this does not have to be done right before sex, but during a few days leading up to the actualy sex.

The whole idea behind my notion of foreplay is that when the time is right, she'll just rip your clothes off and the sex will feel, wild, passionate, and even spontaneous, all the while getting her wet(Days in advance). I like to em' to beg for it.

The best part about this, is that if you tease her in a fun sense, and enjoy, she'll become very used to it and being stimulated(Wet) all the time. Whenever my girlfriend is in my presence or hears my voice on the phone; hell if I even look at hear and make a devilish smile, she'll bit her lips and grab onto my arm.

Bottom line, be sensuate about your movements. If you hug her, barely graze your fingers across her back, if your standing next to her put your right hand on her left hip and be soft, linger a little, if you walk away act as if its sluggish, and a little slower than the rest of your body and graze a little. Every part of the human(In this case female) body can be stimulated, it's just that you have to know how and when to do it.

Oh, and do tell her you want her, like when she is REALLY wet and horny, that will be a big turn on for her. Like nibble on her ear, have your arms wrapped around her, embracing her firmly, whisper you want her and exhale a breath of hot air on her neck.

The whole point of this is to relax her state of mind, make sex seem like just another thing, tease her, make her want it three days in advance, start doing what she wouldn't let you before. But, then there's teasing when your fingering and eating out. It's never ending . Well, for the teasing during sex and next steps, maybe next time . It's all about the state of mind. Just have fun with whatever you do.

[LittlbigD]

What Folie said.

[retired_young]

At the risk of being TOO graphic...but this is the <b>sex</b> forum...this is very chick specific. Some girls taste/smell awesome. Some girls got more funk. Some girls lube hot and drippy while others lube more creamy and viscous (words escape me).

The mild tasting/smelling and liquid-lubing ones are generally more into fingering and oral (giddyup!) than the the funk/creamy ones who are more self conscious and want to keep your face up to theirs and trust that your dick can't smell.

The good news is that when you recall the finger from the front lines for a whiff test, you'll know whether you want to go down there or not anyway.

[Eigerman]

Well, going down in not fingering. I personnally never met a girl saying she did not like to receive oral sex. I guess your GF is not different. However, I wonder why you care. If she says she does not like it, do something else.

[Colin]

How long have you guys been together?

I agree it's probably a 'comfort' thing, but the dynamics in the relationship can be an issue as well.

It's kinda funny how some girls will do all sorts of wild shit with a guy that they are seeking value from or qualifying themselves to vs. some every-day kinda guy.

[DanJer]

How is this a problem?

She'll suck you and you don't have to return the favor?

when ever i ask what she likes she just replies with, 'i'm more bothered if ur enjoying it'

Maybe you missed what you actually said.

She's not bothered. You shouldn't be.

Your worried your not satisfying her? She doesn't want you to do it. Satisfy that. Don't do it or attempt it. She knows you want to. One day she might get drunk and want to try it out.


Hang on.
New thought. Hows your oral hygiene? Do you brush your teeth and have good breath? The thought of your ashtray tongue in her pussy could disgust her.