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AngeloAngiolini · #1 07-13-2008, 07:16 AM

Two days ago, on Friday, I played day game on this HB7 on the street while she was hanging around with her dog and after like 20-25 minutes I had her suggesting the phone number exchange and so we put eachother's numbers in our cellphones and I tried to make a plan for day2 saying:
"Me: Tomorrow, Sunday & Monday I am busy so we can meet on Tuesday and take our dogs out together.
HB: Oh, I can't because I am at work from 9 am to 7 pm.
Me: Okay then, we'll speak on the phone."
She works in a shop as salesperson. Then, before we split, she gave me a hug (not a bear hug) and I don't remember well but I think also a pet on my shoulder - which as I know means "take care of yourself, cuz I don't intend to see you again." One of the routines I did on her was the C & U shaped smiles, making her a C then disqualified saying that actually she was the 3rd girl with a nice C shaped smile I had seen during the day so I called her C3.
I texted her once yesterday, Saturday afternoon, within 24 hours after we met:
Text msg: "Hey C3, Sara the salesperson!

It was nice to meet you. You and your dog seemed really in sync. - AngeloAngiolini"
I did not get any reply yet and since I am sure she read the message because the number wasn't a flake, I believe she will not reply at all. Since I told her I was free on Tuesday, maybe she will expect a message or a call from me on Tuesday so I was thinking to give her a call on Wednesday to take her on surprise. If she will not answer the phone I am thinking to next her. If she will answer the phone should I try to make plans to go out or just have some chat? Instead of calling her do you think it is better to send her another text message with something like "Hey Sara, do you speak text?" What do you think about all this situation?

AngeloAngiolini · #2 07-13-2008, 10:45 AM

Breaking news!
Today, soon after I posted I was hanging around and it happened to walk next where she works - the other day she told me of her job but didn't tell me where was the shop located - and after exiting the shop she bumped into me while I was walking relaxed thinking about the post on the forum and about her.
HB: [she opens me] Hey Angelo! [I turn my head and see her; I thought: holy shit, can't believe it, it's really her!] So good to see you. How do you do? [smiles, looking like really happy to see me again]
Me: [smile] Hey, how do you do? [try to show I am busy with other women] I've been to a girl friend that invited me for lunch at her place and now I was going home.
HB: Wow, we see so often. [gets closer, kisses me on my cheek and I kiss hers] I work in this shop, I'm in a rush now. I got your text message but I couldn't reply because I don't have money on my cellphone.
Me: Oh, you do work here, right in this shop? Because you told me about your job but you didn't tell me where the shop is located. I like your ear rings. [I touch one of them]
HB: [smiles] my boyfriend bought them.
Me: they are really awesome... you know, it's easy to meet good looking people... [trying to show I'm selective about people]
HB: [concentrates on what I am saying]
Me: what surprised me a bit when we met is that you said it was you the one who made all the plans about that trip... [she took action and planned a trip around Europe for her and her boyfriend for next month because she said her boyfriend never does anything - this was part of her qualification on Friday when I said I like adventure trips like "on the road" kind of thing and that I really appreciate in women the spirit of adventure] usually boys do it... and how you talked about painting... [her main hobby] like you put a lot of passion in it...
HB: yes, I do put passion in it; otherwise, as I see it, it would be meaningless doing it.
Me: what it really counts is a person with lots of energy, that puts passion in what she does [she says something that I don't understand and I keep talking] and with a great personality. [she stops talking] you have a great personality and you are passionate... I am curious about you.
HB: I really gotta go, I am in such a rush. [she gets closer again and gives me a good bye kiss on my cheek]
Me: you said you work from 9 am to 7 pm; when can we hang out?
HB: [smiles] well... we see so often... I really gotta go now.
Me: okay... we have the phones... [smile]
HB: bye [smiles]
Me: bye

So, making the point: now I know where and when she works, she feels comfortable in my presence, she feels a bit attracted to me and she knows we have things in common like the spirit of adventure which translates into travelling the same way, pets, and we are both creative (I wrote songs in the past and on Friday I made her listen to one I had into my cellphone and had her opinion on it); she does not have money into her cellphone.
1. Now that I know where she works do you think it is best to avoid that area so that she won't think I am chasing her?
2. What do you think would be the best move now that the situation updated?

Lansing · #3 07-13-2008, 12:12 PM

OK, you didn't mention she had a BF in the first message. WHy bother if she has a BF? What not focus on single girls until you improve you skills (if you REALLY want to be the type that pursues girls with BFs).

You should never ask "when are we going to hang out"... My personal view.... You should be in control of it. Sometimes better to not even bring up the "day 2" during a conversation and skip one conversation and mention it the following time.

AngeloAngiolini · #4 07-14-2008, 03:21 AM

The fact that she already has a boyfriend it is absolutely not relevant to me. Yeah, thinking about the line "when are we going to hang out?" as a matter of fact it is giving the control to her, which is not good since I always am the one who must lead. You did not answer to any of my two questions - 1 & 2. If you are able, don't spare your words. I was thinking to send her another text message tomorrow with a qualification and disqualifier line in order to make more clearly that I am the prize and to put her more into chasing mode. Thinking about her reactions, globally, I have reasons to believe she already understood I have more value than her actual boyfriend. And then, since we share things and hobbies for real, she has the potential to turn into a great friend and I'll be able to make her life better (remember one of our principles "leave a woman better than when you found her"?) - which as I see it is more important than having sex. From my point of view, it's good to have sex with women that do not actually share hobbies and have things in common with you but that only make it seem to have them (pure qualification) to have you in their bed.

Lansing · #5 07-14-2008, 09:30 AM

OK, more specifically... if you want to try for this one girl....

Why would you avoid the area she works in? I wouldn't GO to that area just in case you might run into her but if you enjoy the area or if you like the stores there or whatever you should never STOP doing something for someone else or in case you are worried about someone else's impression of you. You shouldn't care if she thinks you are stalking her, if you have reason to be there.

2. It is tricky that she has a BF. If you are calling her and her BF is around, than that is tricky. She already said she doesn't have money on her phone (not sure how it works in Europe) so if that is true she won't be texting you back. But, from what I understand, if you call her, the cost of the call is yours in Europe and not hers so she could answer the phone. So, if you have the correct frame and feel teh confidence you are better to call her.

AngeloAngiolini · #6 07-14-2008, 09:41 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lansing

2. It is tricky that she has a BF. If you are calling her and her BF is around, than that is tricky. She already said she doesn't have money on her phone (not sure how it works in Europe) so if that is true she won't be texting you back.

Why is it tricky that she has a BF of if he is around when I call? Can you explain, cuz I don't get what you really mean?
Concerning credit on cellphones, I had a friend from US and in Europe is the same as in US - no money no calling/texting, but in some countries, and Italy is one of them, it is also the possibility to make the call (not texting, only call) even if you do not have any more money on your cellphone and to have it paid by the person you are calling if that person has money on its cellphone.

Lansing · #7 07-14-2008, 09:54 AM

If she has a Boyfriend, and by chance she is interested in you, she won't want to talk to you in front of her boyfriend....

Just call her, don't play text games at this point since she didn't respond last time to your text. If she hasn't added money on her phone then I guess you won't be talking to her.

_big_pimpin_ · #8 07-14-2008, 10:21 AM

i think you should calm the |||| down homie your too into her like " when are we going to hangout next" that should never come out of your mouth ever. and dont text her. personally i think youve been ljbfd based on your convo like your talking and shes like" uhhh i gotta go" and like kissing on the cheek is just freindly in europe and it means nothing.

silverghost · #9 07-14-2008, 10:56 AM

There are 1000s of girls that you can hook up with that dont have bfs and they are more receptive. I am not in any way qualified to talk about day game since its too slow for me but unless she makes plans and invites you or you make plans with other girls and invite her dont bother. At least thats what i would do.

AngeloAngiolini · #10 07-15-2008, 06:06 AM

Thank you Lansing, _Big_Pimpin_ & Silverghost. The point is that you all agree on not pursuing an already engaged woman because it may not worth the effort but you all seem to have different opinions about her state and about what is the best move if I still want to pursue her. More opinions are welcome, also of other people.