breaking through "good girl" front

[src053]

Hello All,
I've been reading the forum for months but have yet to post. I've finally hit a challenge that I think the community could really help me out with.
My current scenario is this, 1LTR of many years, 1LTR of the past year and a few prospects that definatley want to play, but I don't always have the time/energy to work on the relationship.

One of the prospects (we'll call target A) has been exhibiting some very interesting behaviors. We IM each other a dozen times a week and we do lunch together a few times a month, and hang with a common group of friends from time to time. When we hang I get IOI's by the basket full, so I know that she wants to play.

Now I've have to honestly say I have been keeping her in a state of friend zone for some time just because I didn't know if I wanted to commit to the mess that could potentialy come from having 3 LTRs. But recently I have been thinking why not just add her as a third and see what happens (or at least get a f close and be done with it).

Here is the sticking point that has really got me curious. She will flirt mercilessly, giggle and blush at every compliment, push me when being teased, but if I make any comment slightly sexually she kinda goes cold.
I never go overboard with tasteless sex comments, but I do make light jokes about sex from time to time (remind the ladies I'm a man).
She always throws the "TMI" or "ew thats so innapropriate" type comment after I make those jokes. She is acting really put off and goes all good girl really quick.

I have a few thoughts and wanted your opinions.

1) target A is very close friends with my LTR1 and maybe she feels any enjoyment outside "friend zone" with me is betrayal of her friendship with my LTR1.

2) Target A is very idealistic, she is in her early 30's and I think she is still waiting for her knight in shining armor. Maybe she feels any kind of fun with me wouldn't fit her "ideal" paradigm.

3)Maybe target A really is a prude... how could any childless women in her early 30's biologically be a prude, she's probably crawling up the wall for sex but maybe she isn't being honest with her feelings.

just a few of my theories.
By no means am I super into this chic, she has passed some of my qaul tests but at this point I just want to crack this nut if for no other reason that to crack it
let me know what you guys think.
thanks in advance

[True Pimp]

Some women have too much emotional/psychological baggage (strict upbringing, their uncle molested them etc.), so sometimes you just have to let her be and find a different one :-(

But it is very possible that she's just acting as a "good girl" because she REALLY does not want to come off as being slutty at all costs, but unless you get to know her better, you might never find out what's up with her...

just my 2 cents

[LittlbigD]

She might just be really shy too.

Wine works wonders with women. The 5 'W's' of life.

[Recluse]

I have the exact same situation. Except the LTR1 is now my ex-LTR1. She's a strict Christian, so she almost never drinks, is a virgin, but definitely responds well to IOIs. I think it's impossible.

[Colin]

It's in there, man. you just have to bring it out. That's where your framing and qualifying come in. Qualification builds compliance and is pretty much the gateway to rapport. It's also huge in dictating where you go next.

Also, when you're joking around sexually, play around with using 'take-aways'. Part of holding your frame is being able to lead and manage her state. I'm sure she knows you're joking around, so she's just trying to challenge your frame.

[sdnightfly]

Just because a woman isn't open to talking about sex doesn't mean she won't have sex. You might have to build it a little more in a romantic way and go from there.

Childless doesn't mean prude, she might not even be into sex, but you may be right about having high ideals and expectations. She might take some work but doesn't sound like she'd be an mLTR type.

[src053]

Originally Posted by sdnightfly

She might take some work but doesn't sound like she'd be an mLTR type.

I tend to agree with your assesment. I think that is why I'm not pursuing to strong... which may also be part of the problem.

Thanks for the feedback guys!