Here's the last FR from my SF experience.
I went out with my target the following night without his friend. We went for dinner first. I tried some
kino and some compliance tests which apparently she passed. We then talked about some mutual friends we have in Italy, built some commonalities. Then I worked on eliciting values and made her qualify. She gave herself a 10! Then I did some reverse psychology and said we didn't make a good couple. She asked why? Which I took it as an IOI. i said: "we are too similar, too self confident and too career oriented". I then kinoed more (palm reading) and ran the cube on her. Her cube was a small Rubick’s cube by the way. Then I paid for dinner because I wanted to reward good behavior (I've been staying at her place in the guest room) but maybe I shouldn't have because she wasn't expecting it… I don’t know. Maybe I DLVed myself. Then we went to a local pub where we joined some of her friends (one was playing in a band). I befriended all of them. I then opened an adjacent set (2 HB 6) to warm up. I used an opinion opener. The set opened but I felt there was something wrong. I transitioned with the best friends test. One said they were friends. The other specified girlfriends. I started a routine but then realized it was a gay couple and they probably realized I was trying to pick them up despite my FTC. So I ejected politely. My target was still impressed by the fact that I was initiating conversation in such a friendly way with strangers. During the following 2 sets I tried to frame her by saying we were a couple and other people to rate ourselves from 0-10. Just the way we looked. It's a compliance test I often use. It's also good to create a comfort frame. But she always denied immediately we were together. I then understood it was a LJBF situation with no way-out. And in the pub there were only 5s and 6s. So I opened another 2 set (mixed) just to keep gaming people. It comes up that this couple (an average looking guy from LA and a chick from Canada HB8.5) had met through Facebook. I talk for a while with the guy about LA and local women there. And then this guy starts telling me about his theory on the importance of showing that you are a provider and a protector of loved ones when it actually comes to pick up women. Then, it starts being very specific about the prehistoric times. Sort of Mystery talks about hard wired mechanisms, evolutionism, cavebears, cavemen etc. I asked him what he had been reading. He said stuff...I didn't openly asked but I think he must have been a former PUA. His girlfriend confirmed he used to be a “player”…I facebook closed both him and his HBCanada. I will ask him directly when I'm in LA....
Despite all my failed attempts to build comfort with my target I still tried with some
kino in the car but it didn't work. At home the beach boy friend showed up again. I sat in the middle and tried some more
kino. But I that point it was pointless. She was going to be sexually aroused and I was working in favor of my obstacle. So, unless I wanted to do a
threesome with another guy all efforts were a waste of time. So I just left. That was it and so I accepted the LJBF situation.
In the following days I stayed in a hostel. I opened all the sets I could open. Tested routines and stories on girls in their early 20s. The funniest moment was when in isolation with HBNorway I started with the cube. As soon as I mentioned the desert she says: are you going to do that thing with the box, right? I was shocked. I was gaming a girl who had already been cubed! I then improvised something with the clouds in the sky. In the end I just email closed her. I realized it was time to invent some new material for isolation.
In the next few days I spent most of my time downtown in the mall and in the shopping area. I spent a lot of time opening sets always out of my comfort zone. Mall game/street game on my own is extremely difficult for me because it seems socially incongruent. But I guess it's just a problem of
inner game.
One thing about the quality of women in SF: my theory is that you can actually have a good overall opinion about the quality of the women in city by looking at the clerks working in the fashion shops. San Francisco, from what I saw, it's not a good place for sarging. Or at least from the perspective of a European who lived in Montreal for a while. The percentage of Asian women is extremely high and you don't get to see 8+s easily. So that's another aspect to consider. In the end I still ran sets, opened strangers, interacted with women and tried to be out of the comfort zone as much as possible. But I couldn't sarge consistently as I wanted because I didn't have any wing and this means at times my AFC took over and/or couldn’t keep the energy level high . In the end the only women I numberclosed were 6s and 7s and I closed them just to practice full sets.
Gay Pick-up
During my 10 days in SF they tried to pick me up twice (in the mall area!). One was probably a former PUA in his 50s and one an AFC clerk from a big store. In both situations I actually kept some ambiguity for a few minutes just for the sake of analyzing the PU process. One was a tipical needy AFC... I now understand how girls feel when they are approached by needy gusys... On the contrary, the 50 year old guy went indirect and initiated conversation while I was looking at some polo shirts. He actually built the perfect frame (for at least 5 minutes I thought he was working in the store). He started describing all the small differences between polo shirts made in Turkey and made in Rumania and other countries. He DHVed himself, saying he was into fashion and he made me qualify and jump through hoops when he knew I was from Italy. He spoke some Italian and again DVHed himself by talking about his travel stories across the world. Then a compliance test: when he knew I had been living in Montreal he said that a friend of his, living there, said that the most good looking women (and also MEN, he specified) in the world were from Montreal… Obviously, I said that I dated very beautiful women there and I could confirm his theory… After 3-5 minutes he ejected politely…
Being a PUA is like to see the MATRIX of seduction… It really feels like you have superpowers at times…
Next city is San Diego. Supposedly one of the places for sarging in the world….