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Originally Posted by Mainman  You should always have the last text if you're having a convo with a girl. Only if she ends it by saying 'ill ttyl' or 'goodnight', you should always get in the last one. |
Err, I'd say there's no way you should always get the last txt. In fact, I've read alot of material that says you should often just stop txting sometimes, regardless of whether the conversation is on a roll or starting to die. It communicates non-neediness pretty effectively. If you always try to get the last txt, you're subcommunicating that you're more invested in the interaction than she is.
Have you ever been txting a girl and after you send a carefully crafted txt that you're sure will pique her interest, she just
does not reply? It drives you
crazy! For the next few hours, you're thinking about her-- why didn't she reply? Did you say something wrong there? Did you mess up? Should you txt her again? It shouldn't be anything you can't handle, but you'll probably go through this Emotional Journey(tm) that functions as an attraction switch. Using this same weapon on a girl has had nothing but good results for me.
Here's how I do it: I usually just keep the conversation going so long as she's putting in about as much into it as I am. As soon as she starts giving responses like "lol ya youre totally right," (or maybe just before-- it's an intuition thing) I'll freeze em out... Start off fresh later, likely the next day. If a girl EVER sends me a bullshit message like "lol," it's closed. Conversation over. Freeze out for however long is appropriate and then start fresh later.
What you did though, KidRaider, was good. You managed to make her have a similar emotional rollercoaster ride but ultimately allayed her fears by replying. It's actually good to make her wait a bit. My general rule is that if a girl takes an hour to txt me back, I'll wait about an hour to txt her back. If I think she may have had a genuine excuse to not txt me back (like she was working for 3 more hours before she could get at her phone), I'll still wait, but maybe not that long. That's a good way to play it, even if you did it by accident :P
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Is it rude not ot text back? 
but whenever i do this i make an effort to get back in touch with them within the next few days to not look like a complete asshole.
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