I have to say, this is a quality thread. The question of what an IOI is has always been one of my biggest questions, and I think this thread should ultimately become required reading/sticky at some point. The OAP has a helpful list, but it's much too short. First, before I list a couple of (probable, marked as ?) IOI's I've experienced recently, I'd like to try to explain, for self clarification, what the underlying principle or core idea behind an IOI is. If my definition is not quite on the mark, please correct me. Also, feel free to let me know if I've properly identified the behaviors I've noted below as IOI's or not.
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I. Working Definition of an IOI:
The underlying premise or assumption of the IOI is that a girl is using her body or words in order to get closer to you (or to invite you to get closer to her). Whether it's by physical (body language) or mental (verbal cues) means, the girl is taking a risk, that is she is risking rejection and/or putting out subtle feelers to increase intimacy between herself and the male of her choice.
That's my best stab at a definition at midnight, when I should be out sarging but am in KJ mode instead.
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II. List of Probable/Possible IOI's
If I am mistaken, correct me. I absolutely will not take it personally. If I've correctly identified IOI's let me know also. Constructive feedback is the only way to learn.
Case 1:
These IOI's are from a conversation with a blonde6; I wrote up the details in my FR on the main board.
IOI 1: applying lipstick in front of me. This is after asking me if my students swoon over me (IOI 2?). (Underlying assumption: she needs to make herself more attractive to me).
IOI 3?: Near the end of our conversation, the blonde asks me what I'm going to be doing after I leave the martini lounge. She answers her own question by saying she thinks I'll have 'fun.' ('fun' being a euphemism for 'sex'?) (Underlying assumption: I'm a player).
IOI 4?: The blonde asks me what I do for work. I tell her I teach at a college. "Wow, that's VERY impressive," she says. (Underlying principle: DHV).
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These subtle (possible) IOI's are from the HB8.5 brunette/HB8 blonde two set I spoke immediately after number close on the blonde6.
Case 2:
IOI 1?: The brunette opens me with "are you the LA guy?" as I'm speaking/standing with my buds in front of her. (Underlying principle: she wants to initiate contact with me).
IOI 2?: I ask the blonde (HB8) about her recent trip to Boston. The blonde then tells me a story about how she got hit on/asked out for a date by a guy while she was at the subway station. She says it made her feel really good that day when she got hit on. This is the blonde who AI'ed me at least four times before I sent my bud in to open the set. (She is qualifying herself to me; she is also telling me that it would make her feel good if *I* hit on her right then and there).
IOI 3?: I tell the two girls I teach at a college. The blonde then asks me what college I teach at. I tell her. Then the blonde asks me which ROOM I teach in. I feel like this second question is too invasive and personal and I bust her on it: "Why do you want to know?" I ask, with a great deal of suspicion. "Are you planning on showing up--'hello', remember me from Saturday night?!" The blonde lowers her head and smiles but does not deny it.
(Underlying assumption: I'm going to stalk this guy lol).
Come to think of it, maybe I shoulda gamed the 8 more heavily than the 8.5. Sigh. Anyway, let me know if I'm on track or off base. Thanks in advance, and I hope I helped.
Edit/Update:
IOI 4?: This is from the brunette when I called her a couple of days later. During our brief chat, she asks me what I did after I left the martini lounge in the morning. This strikes me as being similar to the question asked by the blonde 6 in-set.
IOI 5: Brunette asks me my name in set.
Edit/Update Case 1:
IOI 5: blonde asks me my name.
IOI 6: blonde asks me my nationality.
IOI7: blonde asks me my age.
IOI 8: blonde asks me if I am leaving when I put on my gloves inside the lounge.
Peace,
Adamm
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