To me, this is one of the most depressing post to write. To anxious males looking for advice, they may find it. And for interested females who want a glimpse into another world,... they may find it also. But for me this accumulative knowledge and understanding of a rather unorthodox subject is also a blessing and a curse. The negative part about it is I no longer have "rose colored glass" which I can see situations threw. Instead I have a tainted look at females which some people may say has had a "negative effect" on any "extra ordinary" relationship. So readers beware once Pandora’s Box is opened you may soon be finding you self wanting to close it.
I came up with the term stripper mentality being around lots of scandalous woman, strippers, bartenders, or “
hired guns”. After studying lots of concepts, studies and theories. First on pheromones, primal instincts, courtship psychology, body language, nuro linguistics, etc. Then naturally I started to have my own opinions on social situations and the information I had digested as a collective.
WHOS REALLY IN CONTROL:
It first started off with a term I called "hunters" among my friends. That word was used for a woman that had more fun and enjoyment out of perusing and capturing a male she desired, rather then being perused buy a male. These were girl that at a public place would operate much like a guy. Visually spotting there target, over time closing proximity, and then fire. The entire time making the guy feel like he was "just so cool" that the girl was drawn to him. This whole process might take them anywhere from 5 mins to 3 hours. But she was in control the whole time. Maybe operating on an impulse. But she knows what she’s up to. She knows what time it is, and what’s really up. The term "stripper mentality" came about when I was explaining to naive males about what had just happened to them. Why the female they were interested in was acting a specific way. When the guys couldn’t make sense of the movements. It was a term that kind of just encompassed everything and was self explanatory.
CAN YOU HANDLE HER?
There was a movie a long time ago, and in the movie one of the older Don Juans said something like " A female player wants to be played, and has to be played, and needs to be played". This makes complete sense when you look at human nature. Because buy nature humans want a mate that is interesting, can understand them, but yet is a challenge. The last thing I mentioned, challenge. That’s a very interesting one that some people reading this might disagree about. But let me tell you right now. No woman wants a man that she can walk all over. And if you ask her and she says "yes". Then some part of here is being unfulfilled. The truth is no woman wants a man that she can walk all over, because if she can walk all over him, how can he protect her? So in a way saying that a female player wants to "be played" is like saying she wants someone that can play, and beat her at her own game. I bet it’s been a really long time for her since the rolls have been reversed and she has felt like she was the one out of control. Especially if she is a very attractive woman that works in a field that is required for her to be attractive. Like a barmaid, some clothing stores, dancer, etc.
This ties in to my next point I want to touch on relating to this subject,... the next lever of "stripper mentality" would naturally be prostitution. Some people wonder why woman would want to be "Call girls" or high class escorts? The evolution is quite obvious. For some, their first "love" in control. Second is their "love" for the money, and third is their "love" of being desired. In regards to the first love, a lot of woman in these situations are under the impression that they are under control. The underlying logic is they don’t get attached, and are in control of them self’s. So they can handle being in control of men, therefore are in control of the guy, and therefore are in control of the situation. Perhaps they really are in control. I mean, sometimes when I watch my neighbors walk their dogs down the street and I watch them picking up the dogg poop in a plastic bag, I wonder who really is in control? The owner picking up the poop, or the dog with the lease around its neck? Who is to say who's really has the power. That’s what the first and second love (desire) really comes down to. Power. Desire is a lot of willing and urging. Which are not bad things, but in some situations the can be used against a person. A few illustrations come to mind The good old carrot in front of the donkey illustration. Or when Lucy used to hold the football in front of Charlie Brown telling him that he was able to kick it, and then she would always pull it away at the last second. Over and over again. It’s that desire to get something that is out of reach that these women make livings off of... When someone desires you, and they are perusing you. That makes you with the power over them doesn’t it?
Now to finish up the last "stripper love". The money that makes the world go round. No one actually wants the little pieces of paper, but we all want what we think money will do for us, and give us. Money can upgrade your standard of living, and once you get used to that standard of living it can be addictive. It’s very easy to get assumed to things and the comforting feeling of having money in your pocket. The truth is, in life, if we are not doing some real
soul searching on a regular basis it’s very easy to get caught up with "things we have". They may even being to take over. All the things you get used to because of money can actually be controlling. I’ve learnt that sometimes when you have more, you actually have less. Less of what matters. Stripping and prostitution are not jobs, they are lifestyles. Some working girls might say " yeah, ya know my family and health are important to me". I would buy that, and yeah, it might be true. But money is MORE important to you. It’s a more REAL type of important.
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