I dont want to make my social circle awkward...

[NumbaOneDesi]

I met a really cute girl at a party, she was really into me. Her friend and her kept trying to get me to hang out with em. These girls are good friends of my friend N though.

I hung out with the girl from the party like twice after, and it didnt work out.

My friend N is throwing another party. Me and him are pretty cool with each other, and have no problems(and share a common close friend)... But he told my friend to tell me not to hit on any of the girls at the party, or it will make things awkward for him if I show up again to a social event.



It sucks, because I do want to meet chicks but I dont want to make it awkward for all of us(and thus not being invited to stuff). Im out of college, and my coworkers are pretty much too old for me to chill with(im 20 cant even go to bars with em) so I like having college parties to hit up.



I know Im not a creepy or sleazy guy, since these women are obviously attracted to me(but I suppose the chemistry just isnt there sometimes in the end).

So what should I do? Go to parties and not try to hook up with the chicks there?

[silversixone]

It seems odd that N needs to talk to you through a mutual friend instead of directly. It also seems like we're missing a piece of the puzzle. I think you can solve both problems by talking with him one on one. Genuinely try to understand his position, and try to help him understand yours.


Silver

[NumbaOneDesi]

Originally Posted by silversixone

It seems odd that N needs to talk to you through a mutual friend instead of directly. It also seems like we're missing a piece of the puzzle. I think you can solve both problems by talking with him one on one. Genuinely try to understand his position, and try to help him understand yours.


Silver

There's honestly no puzzle piece missing. I was pretty good to her when we hung out. I opened the door for her, bought her ice cream, and when I tried to peck her on the lips and she declined I backed off.

The night we met, she tried to isolate me twice(worked once, I was drunk as |||| and my game was getting progressively more sloppy haha), and it was no effort at all getting her number. Her best friend, who was fully sober, approved of me.


But, I've also been meeting a lot of people through social circles and I dont want to make anything awkward... Oh well..


Good idea.

[SwordJunkie]

If your friend asked you not to hit on girls at the party, it is likely that some girl(s) you hit on (maybe, maybe not the one you took out for ice cream) were uncomfortable with the interest you were showing and told your friend.

I don't know where you are at in terms of game, but I can speak from experience and say that your social is a bad place to practice game. You're gonnna wreck (and I do mean WRECK) a lot of sets to improve, and if you practice on people you know, it can be awkward all around.

In terms of the party, I would suggest just making friends with the girls and social circling them. They may know of other parties or venues you can go to, and they may have hot friends that you can get with.

In terms of places to practice, if you are under 21 you can hit up other college parties (don't know your campus but ours usually has several every weekend), under 21 clubs if there are any around, or day game venues (coffee shops, malls sometimes, parks, grocery stores). The big key is to practice your game on girls who are socially expendable and then come back to your social circle when are getting good. You can clean up that way.

Best of luck, number one!

Learn more on your day game

[Braddock]

I would go to a few of this guys parties and make sure to tone down my game. Once he was comfortable wth me again I would offer him some value when he least expeted it.

I.E. "Hey man, my friend Sara thinks you're hot. I'll try to get her over here next time."

Do you think you got drunk and were gaming to hard or is it possible that one of the girls that became attracted to you is a girl that he likes/wants to |||| whatever? Number one rule when playing in another man's castle? Don't outshine the master. This may not be it. Not trying to create paranoia. Maybe you just got a little drunk and were over gamey. Whatever.

Either way, if he is at the top of that social circle, you must play by his rules.

I WOULD NOT ask him about it because that opens the door for him to lay all kinds of guidlines for you in the future. |||| that! Just be observant of this new rule for the time being. Try and figure out what his true motives are and adjust accordingly. Then bring him value of some kind and make him a powerful allie.

[NumbaOneDesi]

I wasn't really 'gamey' that's the thing.I was more interested in talking to my male friends. But apparently I was hilarious/good looking enough where people came up and just began talking to me,I was making girls laugh,lots of kino, and one girl especially aggressively pursued ME. Hell, she went out of her way twice to isolate me from my friends!

But now that we dont talk,and she's his good friend,he doesnt want it to happen again.

Im over it. Im going this week,and I just plan t o have fun with my friends, but surely I cant be blamed if girls are approaching and hitting on me lol




I didnt even know they were good friends. I know I wasnt being creepy or weird, or else I wouldnt have had people/girls approaching ME! Haha.


Also, I didnt realize this before, but apparently last time I was flirting with a lot of girlfriends of guys in his frat(where were they?and nobodyforced these girls to approach and talk to me) I think these guys will be here/they remember me which is why he said not to hit on a lot of the chicks t here.. makes sense now haha

[skystream92]

Originally Posted by Braddock

I would go to a few of this guys parties and make sure to tone down my game. Once he was comfortable wth me again I would offer him some value when he least expeted it.

I.E. "Hey man, my friend Sara thinks you're hot. I'll try to get her over here next time."

Do you think you got drunk and were gaming to hard or is it possible that one of the girls that became attracted to you is a girl that he likes/wants to |||| whatever? Number one rule when playing in another man's castle? Don't outshine the master. This may not be it. Not trying to create paranoia. Maybe you just got a little drunk and were over gamey. Whatever.

Either way, if he is at the top of that social circle, you must play by his rules.

I WOULD NOT ask him about it because that opens the door for him to lay all kinds of guidlines for you in the future. |||| that! Just be observant of this new rule for the time being. Try and figure out what his true motives are and adjust accordingly. Then bring him value of some kind and make him a powerful allie.

I totally agree with not outshining the master. However, the problem I ran into is most women in the circle are only interested in the "master." How do you game them without outshining him?

[NumbaOneDesi]

Update if you care:

My friend, the host of the party, said "|||| those bitches, Im sick of their bullshit and drama. you're a much better friend and person than them you're welcome here anytime"

Haha, and he's in charge of a fraternity and we both agreed we're going to sarge(we didnt use this word haha) all the time, together.

Just that one party and morning after, I met so many guys and girls.. I am social proofed plenty at this college now! Haha.

[Braddock]

haha....Nice