Out of everything I've read on these forums, or in the books, this is quite possibly the most important thing I have come across.
I've been so lost in this game since I found it, because I could never manage to really begin it, and I couldn't figure out why. I blamed AA, even before TRYING to approach... And it's all because I'm clinging to the comfort of being a victim. It's something I know, something familiar, and from my previously skewed point of view, something I was extremely good at.
I've spent so much time analyzing how to reframe others, it never occurred to me that I was the one who needed reframing before I could even really begin.
I dwell SO much on things I perceive as negative, analyzing them again and again in my head for months... years after the act - oblivious that this was causing me more harm than good.
I'm going to spend the next week reframing every negative thought that crosses my mind, and by weeks end, my old skin will be shed, and I'll have risen from the ashes myself - the old me needs to die immediately, and the only way that can happen is by turning his sad stories into happy ones... Those negative stories are my victim's life support, and they need to be switched off.
I strongly urge that this thread be the starting point for anyone who believes they are suffering from extreme AA, or just can't figure out where to get started, even though they've read every "trick" or piece of NLP to get them into state.
I honestly believe you cannot start Pick-Up as a victim and be successful, you have to destroy that part of yourself first. Maybe this is why 99% of people who start down this path of learning never make it past the first few hurdles, they're still clinging to their victim-blanket, and simply end up imagining up more sad stories for their library.
Simply brilliant post, Fader.  |