Girl cancels a meeting, but wants to plan something the next day...

[fear420]

Hey, I'm new to this gaming thing. After reading Mystery's Method, I learned a great deal about the ins and outs, but still have a ways to go in the field. Please excuse me if I'm posting in the wrong area, but based on my research, this seemed like the right according to my situation.

So my situation is: I knew this girl back in college for about 2 years. We were casual friends. I can feel a bit of attraction there, that both of us, or rather I never picked up. (at the time I didn't pay much attention to any IOIs, etc) Long story short, she's now moved to Atlanta and wants to meet up this weekend. I felt this would be part of the qualifications stage as we had some prior background.

Here is the quick conversation in text form as we were both working during the week:

Me: Saturday, 12pm, you pick the activities.
Her: That day works, lets have lunch, sushi.
Me: Great, have a good weekend.
Her: U2!

This was scheduled about 1 1/2 weeks in advance. Considering labor day weekend was around the corner. Now she calls up saying she overbooked and wants to meet up ANYTIME on Sunday (she stressed anytime based on her voicemail).

My question now is, is she throwing me a hoop to jump into? Testing me if I'd be cool with her flaking on the Saturday meeting? In which case I'm not cool with. I have a prior thing to do on Sunday and I'm not sure if meeting up with her Sunday night would ruin my chances. How would I play this situation smoothly?

Thanks for reading, and helping a noob learning the ropes in this situation.

[Fader]

You are overthinking man. She is not testing, she probably is over booked and still wants to see you.

meet up with her!

[mysterio]

It all depends.

If she tells you she can see you anytime Sunday, I would'nt be worried.

If she postpones you a second time, ask yourself questions.

As long as she does'nt make a habit about it it's should'nt be a problem.

SHE wanted to hook up with you, anyways lol

[DeadEyeDick]

A lot happens in that week and a half lag, and the schedule getting re-arranged doesn't sound like a problem -- offering you another day and asking you to pick the time is fine -- she's showing interest.

She didn't "cancel" as your thread title says, she's asking to reschedule.

As Fader says, don't overthink it. Also, relax a bit so you don't come off as pissed when you reschedule with her. It's a meet, you're not launching the space shuttle.

Good luck!

[fear420]

Thanks for the words of encouragement.

[Squigs]

This was scheduled about 1 1/2 weeks in advance. Considering labor day weekend was around the corner. Now she calls up saying she overbooked and wants to meet up ANYTIME on Sunday (she stressed anytime based on her voicemail).

When a girl likes you and wants to see you, she'll make it easy. Telling you when she is available is an IOI.

Me: Saturday, 12pm, you pick the activities.
Her: That day works, lets have lunch, sushi.
Me: Great, have a good weekend.
Her: U2!

Reminds me of the movie Just Friends where Ryan Renolds' character is talking about avoiding the "day date" at all costs because it's the express lane to the friend zone....

[fear420]

Haha, I never saw it. I'll keep it mind.

In all matters to my OP. I wanted to keep it short.

The girl and I had a meeting before about a year ago. When we met up, she expressed her commitment to a 6 year relationship that I absolutely forgot about. I totally respected that. After a few days went by, I decided I didn't want to be in the friend zone at the time.

Low and behold, from her Facebook profile, she broke up with him like a month later. For some odd reason, it made me laugh. And we continued our own lives for awhile.

So months went by and I decided to contact her randomly as I've done in the past. She knew I grew up in a military family, and it's rather difficult to step further into an relationship, as it hurts when you move to a different part of the world. I never had that luxury of growing up with childhood friends. Long story short. Contacted her, if we can be friends, and now she persuaded me into not rescheduling to next Saturday for lunch (something you would do with friends) to a somewhat fancy fondue place Sunday night...So that's planned now. In my eyes, finishing my work and then dinner would throw me off my normal self. To my understanding, the whole female-to-male interest would heavily benefit from a more energetic person whose on top of the game to DHV rather than half-assing it through the evening.

I know it takes a lot of mental energy to keep the game tight. What would be some tips during work or right after that most of you use to pysch you up? Any suggestion is much appreciated.