Question to settle a difference

[jsaligeri]

Ok Guys,

A friend of mine received a package via UPS, totally unexpected from a girl he has been courting. She is an HB8. The package contained a wine bottle from one of his favorite vineyards. A moderately priced bottle of wine in the range of $100+. The note from her was something to the extent of, this is for you to celebrate your promotion, as my friend just got promoted at work.

This totally caught him off guard. He has been courting her for almost a month, and he has never given her any "gifts". No flowers, no cards, nothing, he has asked her out to dinner three times, and it almost always turn into she wanting to pay, but he says I pay dinner, you pay dessert!!!!

This is clearly a big IOI from her part. No question about that. She is into him, and it can't be any more lucid than that. HUGE IOI.

But here is where you guys can help, he is a natural flirt and a natural PUA. I hang with him, and once or twice I have been his wingman and he is good. No doubt about that. Speaking last night over drinks, he tells some of us what happened. Couple of the guys (other PUA's) say, dude, you need to send her something, a card, flowers, something to say thank you... He says, NO!

The consensus among the three of us was, he needs to "hang up the PUA" and do something, otherwise, she will feel like shit and besides, forget that, this is romance at is best, and women are romanticist. He is against sending her anything other than a courtesy call to say thanks.

--- OK me and my other PUAS understand the not paying or giving gifts, flowers, or cards at RANDOM, because that is a sign of DLV.

BUT COME ON --- She sent him a $100+ bottle of his favorite wine, which clearly states she is into him because she *knew* what bottle to send, not any random cheap ass bottle, this is a very nice pick.

Our vote was that he should recognize it and send her a thank you something a thank you card, flowers, a plant, something.

Your thoughts?

Remember, this is to settle a difference - What to do - not analyze him (clearly, if he is not interested in her, then great, this is mute, but am posting because he has been courting her for almost a month and has been good at dating her and he is interested in her because he cared to talk about the gift and the surprise of getting the package like a kid that just got a x-mas present, and trust me, everyone who was there and know him, knows that he is into her...).

Maybe the question is, what would you do if a woman sends you a nice $100+ bottle of wine you are courting -- send her Flowers, etc... or ignore... but you are clearly interested in her

Roberto.

[batfastard]

My first thought would be to invite her around to share it...

[FemmeFatale]

He should reward good behavior.
She DID it because shes expecting it to achieve something.. at least a very nice reaction.. i mean, imagine you don't normally do very romantic things for your girlfriend and the ONE time you decide to do something extremely romantic and you put thought into it, she snobs it and just says "Thanks".. no reaction, nothing big, no rewards... how will you feel and will you do it again?

[moveup]

Originally Posted by batfastard

My first thought would be to invite her around to share it...

/agree

[jsaligeri]

Update ::

He sent flowers with a dinner invitation card to his place. He is a good cook.

They have another date setup for later in the week. He is not saying much.

Roberto.

[Dropit]

Originally Posted by FemmeFatale

He should reward good behavior.

This is wisdom.

[TrueStory]

Originally Posted by jsaligeri

Update ::

............. He is not saying much.

Let the man play his own game and stop interfering.

He seems like he knows what he's doing. Leave him alone and worry about your own game.

[silversixone]

Reward good behavior by inviting her around to share. I keep a little box of G. Lalo notecards and envelopes - very expensive yet very plain - for this kind of thing.


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