Girl help....not the norm

[Wikked]

Indeed I need some assistance. And I happen to be a girl. Here's the thing....I can flirt with the best of them. But I lack the confidence to get started. I don't want the ons. I don't want to lure them in with Bjs. Thanks, I've already had that advice. I care about my appearance, but there are times when I can't even look at a guy that I find attractive. I get completely giddy and ridiculous.

HELP ME!

^W^

[Trap Ten]

We aren't really that good at picking up guys.

One of the problems with getting too forward is guys will think you want to sleep with them. We think that anyway but this will just magnify it.

Are you looking to snag a guy to date or to get a boyfriend?

I look at it this way, there are things about a woman that I don't like.

If she's boring.
If she's got bad breath.
If she's poorly dressed/groomed.

All the basics that we start with for ourselves are true for what we seek.

I guess the best advice I can give you is this...

Be your best self.
Remember that you are the prize.
Show value
Build attraction
Qualify
Build comfort
Seduce.

Simple, right?

[Wikked]

Well if I could snag a specific guy that would be ideal. If not, just being able to remember that I am the prize would be very helpful. I certainly don't want to come across as being too forward. Which is why I'm not looking to become a female PUA.

Though here's some irony, I know I can get any girl. I'm not gay, so it does me no good what-so-ever. Someone's got a sense of humor up there huh...LOL

Thank you very much for your advice!
^W^

[DeadEyeDick]

Hi there, Wikked. The Forum's purpose is for helping guys meet and attract women. There are many women on the Forum who participate by assisting in that effort.

If you're looking for the female analog of this Forum, you might try searching Google for one.

Even when men and women want to arrive at the same place, they get there through different methods.

Good luck finding what you're looking for.

I'm sorry we can't deliver it.

[Wikked]

WOW. ok. Well I was looking for conversation on a topic that the people here knew more than I did. And since I did have the other view point, thought I could put in my two cents when something was working or not working. As I did with the guy who is learning how to dance.

But if one little thread is going to throw you off, then perhaps you're right. Which is a shame. I saw a lot of really good things going on on this site.
Ciao
^W^

[DeadEyeDick]

Don't jump to conclusions. (And you're acting just like my bratty little sister!)

Our female members have contributed more to the Forums than they've received, I'm sure.

But you aren't the first to arrive asking for help picking up guys, and we don't have experience doing that. You're shopping in the wrong store, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't stick around.

Things can still get interesting ...

[Wikked]

HAHAHA I feel sorry for your sister. JK

Well then perhaps I did get the wrong impression. I had recieved an email from TMM saying that they do offer such assistance. I thought that this forum was appart of the same thing.

Of course I'll stick around but I'll be watchin you DED. hahahaha ;o)
^W^

[_Cane_]

No offence wikked. And I can only speak for myself. But when girls open me, I hold them to a lot higher of a standard in order to keep my interest. It takes a pretty hot girl to approach me and for me to take her seriously. Purely based on the fact that I prefer to be the initiator, the attacker so to speak (not literally ). A girl who throws herself at me is not a challenge and it cheapens it for me. Since traditionally guys approach girls, any girl who approaches me automatically will be percieved at "throwing herself at me". (I don't mean it in an over board "please fuck me" sense, just meaning she shows OBVIOUS interest).

There was a thread that deadeyedick created that asks "what do you want in a girl?"...

Just like our goal is to be that which women desire, you goal should be to be that which men do. I'd read through this forum to get a sense of what it is that guys prefer, and then be that. A lot of women prefer common qualities in men, just as men commonly prefer a lot of the same qualities in a woman.

A huge one for me is congruence with your ego (the way you carry yourself and project confidence). A girl who I don't find attractive, who displays aggressive behavior, is beyond an annoyance.

Does that help?

Welcome to the men's locker room BTW

Cane

[Wikked]

Thank you SO much! That has been a HUGE help! See this is exactly why I'm here. To get guy's honest view points.

To make sure that I'm projecting confidence and can "talk" to a guy without making it seem like I'm throwing myself at him.

I think I'm going to like it here. And thank you for the welcome.
^W^

[Keldas]

Well if you see some guy and you fancy him you can always get eye contact and smile. So long as you don't make it too obvious. Seems to work a treat for many girls...