ELIMINATE ONE-ITIS - the FAQ

[legonz]

v1.3
Q- What is one-itis?
A- One-itis is defined as an infatuation with another individual who does not return those same feelings. One-itis victims can usually be seen pining over a single individual, constantly overanalyzing every situation, and asking his friends what he can do "to get this girl". One-itis is generally seen a malady because the "relationship" in question does not produce similar feelings from all individuals involved.
Q- How do I get over my one-itis?
A- Women tend to get over a guy when she's away from him. Men, on the other hand, have intensified feelings about a girl when she's around. You know what this means, right? Do the girl ritual.
Step 1- Delete her number and name from her cell phone. If she calls, tell her you "have to do ---. I'll talk to you later."
Step 2- Rid yourself of any pictures of her. Throw them in a deep closet. You're only defeating yourself by keeping them around.
Step 3- Delete your e-mail transactions and her messager screenname, in addition to any online connections that you may reach her at. Don't block her. You don't hate her; you just don't care anymore. She is not a special vagina.
Step 4- Avoid places that she frequents for a period of time. If you work with her, that's your fault for getting involved with your ||||ing coworker.
Step 5-You're not angry at her; you're just moving on to bigger and better.
Step 6- Surround yourself with friends. Sarge immediately. NOW you position yourself to GFTOW.
Q- But she's special; she's different; she's perfect for me.
A- As of the last census, there are 6.5 billion people in the world. As the rough percentage of women is 53% of the total population, there are almost 3.5 billion women out there. Are you telling me that you just coincidentally tripped and fell into "the one"? There's a statistically higher chance of being struck by lightning three times than that being your "one special girl".
Q- Then why is she "perfect" for me?
A- Because males tend to rosetint and accentuate positive characteristics of women they feel they have a chance with. Try being critical of her one day. Notice how she doesn't shave her arms, or how she sports lovehandles, or has no common sense.
Q- Why do I feel that I have a chance?
A- She was either nice to you once or is still nice to you, but won't have sex with you because she likes feeling wanted. Thus, she likes having you around so that she can feel sexy, but she's not going to have sex with you. I've seen it work ONCE. ONE TIME. That's a single instance out of hundreds. Don't take the risk. Don't feed her ego and kick yourself in the balls day in and day out. Her bowel movements don't smell like lilacs. She's not special. You, on the other hand, are special, because when you realize that you can get ANY girl, one single girl means nothing to you.
Q- Why is one-itis bad?
A- Because a normal, healthy relationship consists of two (or more) individuals fulfilling each other and strengthening each individual. One-itis is one individual improving their confidence at the expense of another person. You can do better.
Q- How can I make sure I never get one-itis again?
A- Unlike what you would normally do in most situations (stop talking to women altogether), the goal here is to remain in contact with as many women as possible. This allows you to keep a "there's always more fish in the sea" perspective. Experience a lot of women, have sex with them if you choose, and attempt to hold a MLTR (multiple long term relationship). Try and balance two or three girls at the same time.
Q- So if I forget about her and move on, then I'll get her?
A- Get that out of your mind. Time and time again, I've seen buddies who only go after girls in hopes that the girl he's "forgotten" about will get jealous and chase him. Not gonna happen.
...and if it does happen, once you come around, she'll drop you again in seconds. Accept the inevitability that she has to be tossed aside.

[legonz]

This is going to be a community project. I want everyone to help me build an FAQ on getting over one-itis that extends farther than GFTOW (go |||| ten other women). Feel free to find anything that Mystery or another guru said to add to the FAQ or write your own material and reply here with it.

[Hysteria]

Originally Posted by Gonz

Q- But she's special; she's different; she's perfect for me.
A- As of the last census, there are 6.5 million people in the world.

Gonz, that should read there are 6.5 BILLION. Other than that, great topic. Delete my post here, as it will be completely redundant after the correction is made.

[T-Man]

Yea, this is great stuff, I believe in this case, Admitting is really the first step. Time is a cure of one-itis, and you definitly need to use it to your advantage. Now, there may come a time when you may want to settle down, so that is also to be kept in mind. (Not to deter anyone who seriously has a one-itis syndrome.)
-- T-Man

[Crazy_Daisy]

So you're saying that Style should've deleted Lisa's number from hsi cell and never talked to her again?
hmm....

[legonz]

Originally Posted by Crazy_Daisy

So you're saying that Style should've deleted Lisa's number from hsi cell and never talked to her again?
hmm....

Style was going out every night and hooking up with tons of women WHILE he talked to Lisa. That's not one-itis; that's having a favorite. I think it's patently absurd to compare the two.

[Scooby]

Gonz, is there a way to force people to read the onitis thread BEFORE their FIRST post. By this i mean when a newbie wants to make their very first post they are automatically taken to the onitis screen before they are able to post...maybe a disclaimer screen where the user has to answer the question "I have fully read and understood the onitis thread"
cheers

[JayTea]

Get a life... This may have a tough love tone to it, but Get a life!!! if 1 girl can turn your world upside down than you obviously do not have enough other positive and fulfilling poeple ard interests in your life. The confident, secure man should be able to enjoy friends, family, career, and multiple hobbies. A woman should be an addition to this lifestyle. You can have an amazing relationship with her, but that is suppose to be a positive part of your life. The feelings you get with one-itis are nothing but negative. When you're eagerly sitting by with your life on hold waiting for just a phone call from a woman for example, you are way to dependent on her approval for your own self-esteem. This is extremely unhealthy and will ultimately lead to much greater problems down the road.
In addition to the other contributions to this FAQ one-itis thread, in order to get rid of one-itis for the LONG TERM, don't let yourself fall into it in the first place. The other suggestions are helpful once you have one-itis, but wouldn't it be better if you never got it from the start? This is achieved by having a well rounded Life full of many wonderful experiences.

[pacificsurf619]

I think this thread is very important, and ALOT of people will find it very useful.
I really dont think the art of PUA always has to be used to sarge as many chicks as possible, it is also a very deep insight into sociological and psychological responses of the human interraction.
These techniques dont just have to be applied for picking up loads of girls, its also for the One-itis, understanding the game when someone tries to scam on your girl, protecting your interests, and just being able to look at the world with a better understanding of the underlining principles of what is taking place.

[Ignite]

Those steps are definitly true.
Just thinking about the part where you are supposed to think about her bad quailites should be enough for all you guys. I think of my ex's bad qualities and they keep coming out, and for 3 years i thought she was ||||ing perfect. Everyone has bad qualities, if you want to get over a girl, expose them and realize that there are so many other girls to be met.