Sinn on inner game and becoming your best self

[Sinn]

Inner game in my mind is the complete absence of insecurities.
IME the best way to help your inner game is to get in field as much as possible and make a list of your insecurities.
Break them down into categories like physical, dealing with women, dealing with friends etc..
Insecurities are just negative beliefs, they are things we take as truth. Read The Matrix Model By L. Michael Hall to learn about frames and the way we construct meanings/reality.
So the next step to making your inner game motherfuckin tizight is to look at all the insecuruities you have written down and then next to them write down what you would like to be in the best case scenario.
For ex:
Insecurity :
I don't always ask for what I want.
Goal:
I always ask for and receive whatever I want
Next write down some scenarios where your insecurities come up and how you react to these situations.
When was the last time that you felt insecure?
What were the triggers?
How did you react?
How would a guy who was more successful than you react to the exact same situation?
As anyone who has taken my bootcamp knows, I really focus on knowing what you want.
I think this is important for a number of reasons
1. You have a goal that you can move towards in small chunks
2. You can focus on appealing to the specific type of girls you want
3. You will become more attractive to other women by the virtue of having standards and a type that you are looking for
4. You can save time by not pursuing one night stands if it's not your cup of tea or having a GF if you enjoy being single.
Well as important as it is to know what type of girls you want, it is as if not more important to think about what kind of man you will have to become to attract the women you want.
What would your best self look like ?
What would he wear?
Where would he hang out?
Who would he hang out with?
What hobbies would you have?
What would your ideal week look like?
And finally my big thought for the day
What can you do besides learning more about game that can help you with women today?
This really is about more than just PU.
The more complete of a person you become, the more success with women you will see.

Who wants to change their abilities with women and dating FOREVER?

[Finch]

Just curious, but what if our insecurities include things that are out of our control (ex. height)?
I've found your post really helpful, in the sense that, answering some of the questions you listed, that I'm very comfortable with who I am already, which seems to have been a good step in my progress.
Is it bad to have too much of a preference in what you're looking for, though? I'm an asian, who only has a preference for asian girls--is that considered of having too much of a standard or a closed-mind?
Thanks again for a helpful post, Sinn.

[Top Gun]

Amen
With this post you awser 60% of all the question of the forum!!!
Self improvement isn't a weekend vacancy or a little blind date with happiness. This is a hard process and you have to deal with problem like all of us. The Game is more than PU. Stop to be some crying baby and be a man. Just blame yourself if you don't suceed ( Malibu: blame yourself tread)
Prepare yourself or GFY

[6stringfreak]

Very good post Sinn…. My only argument would be that insecurities and doubts are inevitable. Fear is often a protective mechanism that has been programmed into us. Sometimes we can de program ourselves but until we can do that, I believe it’s about ignoring your fears and not letting them rule you…psyching your self up to replace the fear with confidence even if the confidence isn’t grounded in reality….you do whatever it takes to move forward and get the job done.
Learning how to ignore them (fears, doubts and insecurities) and overcoming them lightning quick is what the 3 second rule is all about isn't it?
You can't tell me that most soldiers aren't afraid to die, but yet they know they must ignore their fears and march into battle. That's the way of an alpha male!
Even Mystery says that approach anxiety is never completely gone for many masters, just well dealt with by the masterPUA.

[DjSuperstaR]

thank you for the tips sinn
i added this to my notes

[Iceman]

Insecurity is like fear. Ever-present, & always fighting to dominate your mind.
Confidence is the nemesis of insecurity, just as courage is the nemesis of fear, & the two are always pushing, constantly pushing against one another.
If your confidence falls, your insecurity will grow, just as if your courage fails, your fear will rise up out of you.
You must always have confidence & courage in order to conquer your insecurity & fear.

[Malibu]

Originally Posted by Iceman

Insecurity is like fear

not like fear...IS fear.....one of many....just like approach anxiety is a fear....
IMO all negative reactions are all caused by fear.....technically I wouldnt kknow how to describe fear....but for me...
fear is the body's natural emotional and hardwired urge to protect itself
as Mystery told style in The Game....dont trust your emotions...they are only there to fuck you up.

[Harlequin]

Embrace fear. Fear gives you adrenaline in threatening encounters. It's cowardice that we want to avoid & it takes real courage to look within yourself & declare that a part of your reality is holding you back & should be changed. It's an admission that many people have not made, taking their stagnant frame to their grave.
Self worth is not the creation of your past, it is the creator of your future.
Inner your game is inner game. What is holding back your self worth from propelling you forward? ask yourself. The answers are above you & in you.
This method from Sinn is an excellent way to renew yourself.
There is no such thing as negative energy, only negative thought.
One of the best posts I've seen, er... since I read something about Microcalibration.
Five stars just doesn't cut it.
Applying advice in threads like this are the fast-track to mastery. Thank you for this post.

[Sovereign]

Originally Posted by Sinn

This really is about more than just PU.
The more complete of a person you become, the more success with women you will see.

Here is the real gem in your post Sinn. My thoughts are these, fuck inner game, go with inner love and with that you will get inner game.
Think about all the times you or someone you know tried to improve themselves, perhaps through a diet, working out, etc. How often have you see it last for a little while and then the person reverts back to the way they were? There is a reason for this and that is people don't address the causes of their problems. If you are out of shape for example, sit on your couch all day watching tv, playing video games and eating crap. This type of behavior shows a certain disdain for yourself. Chances are you wouldn't treat other people as badly as you treat your own body (keep in mind this comes from one of the most self-destructive people in this community.)
Learn to love yourself! Many of us sit around waiting to BE LOVED, waiting for someone to be their for us, and to give us worth. We begin to become dependent on that validation, whether it is from friends or a loved one, we need it. When it is absent we begin to doubt ourselves, we begin to wonder if we have any real value.
We all say I AM THE PRIZE. But I wonder, how many of you really believe it? How many of you really act this way?
Love yourself enough to improve yourself, learn new skills, explore new adventures in life and gain experience. Become a more balanced person. Always wanted to learn how to play an instrument?? Well, is the allure of your couch really that strong? Go learn! Take a cooking class. Read more books. Take that money you are wasting and buy nicer clothers. Excel at school and your job.
People don't really suck at PU, they suck at life. Show me a guy who is well dressed, takes care of himself, knowledgable and likable. Show me that person who everyone loves to be around, and who is just infectious in his enthusiasm for life. And try and find someone like this who is also bad at PU. They really don't exist.
Master life and you will master PU. Love yourself and you will have inner game.