Microcalibration

[Sinn]

Some guys on the lounge wanted an explanation of microcalibration, so I figured I would post it here too.
Just a warning... It's really heavy on technical terms and fairly advanced.
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Microcalibration
First I want to start by explaining that this is an advanced technique. This is not something that a beginner should be using. I don't generally even teach this on
Bootcamps unless it's something that I think they will benefit from. It generally requires a good deal of social savvy to get it right.
This article will assume basic knowledge of the following:
In any human interaction, there are only four means of communication that take place.
IOIs indicators of interest
IODs Indicators of disinterest
DHVs Demos of high value
DLVs Demos of low value
Add in Compliance Tests (CTs) and a base line of punishment reward and you have social interaction in a formula.
This came about because last year I was finding that with some girls I had to neg a million times to get any IOIs while with others they would ask me for my name
right after I opened or tell me I was hot. If I continued DHVing they would get weirded out. However if I started qualifying them it often didn't take. So I started
putting an IOI in before my qualification attempt it went better.
Wrong
Girl: You're cute! Where are you from?
Sinn: Buy me a drink before you hit on me! IOD What do you have going for you besides your looks? Compliance test
Right
Sinn: Buy me a drink before you hit on me! IOD You are very pretty IOI.. but beauty is common what do you have going for you besides your looks? CT
The balancing of IOIs and IOD is a key element missing from the overall explanation of MM.
I think of it as a seesaw:
If I throw too may IODs that weighs down one side of the seesaw and I'm an asshole.
If I throw too many IOIs that weighs down the other side making me an AFC
But if I adjust every IOD with a potential IOI and every IOI with a potential IOD I attain balance and my sets work like magic.
Microcalibrating is simply throwing the balancing part of the equation(IOI or IOD) when needed
Now at bootcamps we teach you how to open ( which is a very small compliance test), FTC(a DHV), and Neg in every set. We also teach you how to stack forward
and start DHVing and negging in A2, then we start A3 where we use compliance tests to make her DHV so that we can give her deserved IOIs.
The reason we teach this is that it is the way that most sets go. And the MAJORITY of sets will not be attracted right away.
However sometimes you will get sets that will be attracted to you as soon as you open your mouth. Or before.
If a girl approaches you and says she likes your cowboy hat, and you respond with Jealous Girlfriend, you are going backwards in the interaction. By her opening
you, she is telling you she is already attracted to you. Therefore we can respond by saying "thanks, what's your name?" which would be an IOI in return for hers. We
can say then based on how readily she answers. If she's hesitant or doesn't immediately ask for my name or try to keep the conversation going (IODS). I will then
respond with my own IOD " buy me a drink before you hit on me". Then immediately follow up with a compliance test " and your special because?" when she
answers this I am now in A3 and can start giving her IOIs.
In this way I have now gotten through attraction in 30 seconds.
However if she refuses to answer or she IODs me when I ask her why she's special, I still have an out
Her: " I'm not special " or " why are you special?"
Me: Never mind I was just being polite( IOD) oh you have a u shaped smile... ( DHV)
See how there are contingencies of what to based on what her reactions are?
Well when you are routine stacking it would look something like this
Her: " I like your cowboy hat"
You: " Thanks I actually need a female opinion, who lies more "
Her: " opinion"
You: FTC finish opener, stock neg, First routine, next routine ..... Until you get enough IOIs that you start qualifying and it takes.
By not pausing and looking at reactions you are assuming that what you are doing is working. Which it may not be.
By being able to read IOIs we can move into A3 Faster and ultimately into comfort faster and beyond.
Also by knowing that we are getting an IOD or an IOI we can calibrate any routine mid stream to either IOI or IOD
Take for example the "may I touch your eyes" Line
Sinn: "You have beautiful eyes" IOI
Girl: while rolling her eyes and thinking another loser " Thanks" IOD
Sinn: May I touch them? IOD
I change the routine based on the reaction she gives me.
However if the same interaction takes place but goes like this:
Sinn: You have beautiful eyes. IOI
Girl: "Thank you so much no one ever says that to me." IOI
Now I have a sincere response so there is no need for me to throw the second part of the routine.
We want to be able to compliment girls and give them IOIs, however most girls will not yet be comfortable with that until later.
Microcalibrating is simply the act of watching responses and then tailoring the next action toward the response we just got
a simplified version would state that we respond to IOIs with IOIs, IODs with IODs and we constantly test for compliance.
Through microcalibrating based on reactions while following the M3 model we can greatly increase our ability to get results.
Microcalibrating also has a place in kino escalation.
If I make out with a girl on day 1 and then see her again the next day I will want to test to see where her willingness to kiss me again is, so I microcalibrate.
I move in as I hug her and I pause. I now watch to see if she looks nervous or uncomfortable. If she doesn't I go for it. If she looks uncomfortable then I push her off
and increase personal space so that the next time I get close she's more comfortable and I can go for it.
Same thing once we are holding hands I will slide my finger tips away from hers to see if she follows them. Is she does I will pull her closer to me, if she doesn't I
throw her hand off.
A key to microcalibrating is remembering that IODs are not always negs. It would be weird if when a girl refused to qualify herself I told her she was a little shit.
instead they are simply ways of showing that we are not interested, they can be removal of kino, backturns, pauses in the conversation, eye rolls, as well as negs and
disqualifiers.
A few other keys to micro calibrating by watching the reactions you're causing you can either soften or harden a routine
EX:
Sinn: You and I are never going to get along"(IOD)
Girl: why not I think we'd get along fine (IOI)
Sinn: we're too similar IOI But I think our differences will be complimentary IOI
Sinn: You and I are never going to get along"(IOD)
Girl: You're right we wouldn't
Sinn: Yeah we would fight all the time, and I'd always win (IOD)
If a target at any time gives me an IOD i will respond in kind.
This is the punishment part of our punishment reward sub routine
However if we are already in comfort the punishment will no longer be negs, instead it will be take aways, and freeze outs.
If at any time she gives me an IOI even if it's as passive as holding my drink, I will reward her until she becomes uncomfortable and gives an IOD then we respond
with another IOD, wait for an IOI and if it doesn't come we compliance test to actively look for IOIs.
We can also do this by balancing the amount of value we demonstrate onto a set. Not every set needs to hear a million routines before they will be willing to talk to
you. If have run more than 2 routines in a set and you are not attempting to move on to qualification (A3) you are hurting your game.
You want to make sure that you are constanly testing to see where you are. And then trying to advance at the same time.
Micro calibrating makes it easy by throwing little adjusters depending on the responses you are getting.
It's not at all reactive to apologize when you over-neg. You will lose a lot more sets by continuing to neg once you've offended then by apologizing and qualifying
her for standing up for herself.
Microcalibration is the art of adjusting what you're saying in real time to the reactions you are getting.

Who wants to change their abilities with women and dating FOREVER?

[Sheek]

Thanks for the post, Sinn!
Let's get this in the best of!

[Vapor]

Holy crap. Very, very helpful. Thanks for the post.

[Cedar]

Originally Posted by Sinn

First I want to start by explaining that this is an advanced technique. This is not something that a begginner should be using. I don't generally even teach this on Bootcamps unless it's something that I think they will benefit from. It generally requires a good deal of social savvy to get it right.

I'd like to re-iterate the Advanced Technique label. You are adjusting your response to the set. This can only occur on an instinctual level. If you are consciously looking for IOIs, you are not at the level of field experience and social IQ necessary to pull this off.
ie, If you have to ask yourself if she just gave you an IOI or an IOD, you're not ready. Stick to forward stack and routine stacks.
P.S. Love the article Sinn. Thanks.

[Face]

Right on, Sinn.
Some Thoughts, IMO:
First of all, a basic principle is to give an IOI, get one in return, and NOT neg. Now, as an admitted over-negger, I have to interject. Exchanging pleasantries is nice for family weddings and college reunions--but for a PU, I think BANTER is essential. Unless it is a "movie moment", I think a PUA should always toss in a light neg or at least a challange up until deep Comfort or actual Seduction stages.
ex: Face: You've got a great look about you.
HB: Thanks, you too.
Face: Do you have a younger sister?
This lets her know I am interested and that I am playful..and single..and it transitions to family questions, etc...
Secondly, she shows IOD, you return an IOD--> agreed... BUT, why not challenge also? One way to get a girl interested in you, who is not enamored with your looks right off the bat, is to DHV with intelligence or wit. After you throw an IOD, IMMEDIATELY challenge her.
ex: HB brunette: I don't date customers.
Face: We have so mch in common! I don't date brunettes...what makes you so cool? Let me guess-the fake eyelashes and 16 inch heels empower you, huh?
She should qualify out of PRIDE, if nothing else. It may not be an IOI, but it buys you another few sentences. Anytime a girl answers a question, spends a moment acknowledging my existence, I know I have a shot. She's mine to lose, even if it is an uphill battle.
Thirdly, if you are doing 2 or ore routines withOUT qulifying, you are doing something wrong. AGREED!!!!! Too often I read FRs where I guy goes from this to that to palm reading to juggling bowling pins, etc. STOP! Check in for some feedback. Make her step up to the plate.
Lastly, as far as aplogozing goes--as much as I don't actaully do it, apologizing and re-qualifying is the better option--rather than keep negging and turning off the entire set (forever, mind you). BUT, again, anytime I am letting the guard down, they have to earn it. Re-challenge them. This, too, takes a LOT of field work b/c they will shit test you bigtime! You better have some very quick comebacks ready!!! Any apology either comes out half-assed or comes with some banter.
ex Face: I love the blond hair, brown root contrast. It really works for you.
HB: You're an arrogant asshole.
Face: I'm sorry. I was just kidding :
[choose from] You didn't seem intimidated by me at first.
I figure you are mature enough to handle it.
I sized you up as the funny one of the bunch.
I figure you are secure enough to handle a joke.
She may roll her eyes and walk away. OR she stays and qualifies. Either way, you're better off than just apologizing like a dipshit, IMO.

[Xtreeme]

GREAT thread!
I Figure mastering the whole A section is one thing, learning microcalibration is mastering the master.
Point is, you have to first of all be able on a hard wired level be able to go through the whole A section before you can really apply to this. So newbies (and myself) don't get to stucked up with this! Learn by doing and doind and doing and doing. This is the touch that will get you laid on a daily basic!
Peace!

[Sovereign]

Sinn,
This is quite possibly one of the best posts I have read here. Stunningly dead on!
You have hit upon what (after AA) is probably the number one issue among up coming PUA's out there. The ability to micro-calibrate. Now while this is a skill that improves with experience, my only point of disagreement here is that I believe beginners SHOULD be working on this aspect of their game NOW.
Your manipulation of sequence for IOI's, IOD's and CT are spot on, and allows for one to take the situation and the response into account. The responses of the target must be noticed and adjusted for.
Brilliant Sinn, excellent job. Five stars, Best of Nomination.

[Vincent Chase]

Sinn, May I have sex with you? lol

[Sy]

Originally Posted by Cedar

I'd like to re-iterate the Advanced Technique label. You are adjusting your response to the set. This can only occur on an instinctual level. If you are consciously looking for IOIs, you are not at the level of field experience and social IQ necessary to pull this off.
ie, If you have to ask yourself if she just gave you an IOI or an IOD, you're not ready. Stick to forward stack and routine stacks.
P.S. Love the article Sinn. Thanks.

I agree, I've been trying to articulate the sensation of "feeling" your way through a set. It's like knowing how to drive stick in a car, you become naturally reactive after a while, its like muscle memory. The reactions you've worked to look for don't register conciously but you know something is up and how to respond (ie. with the IOI or IOD). Social calibration, or micro calibration is something many of us have within our social circles or pre-existing relationships with women we're friends with... Yet around hot women we don't know we throw away what is successful out of fear.
Sinn has broken down HOW to microcalibrate wonderfully here, great post, and a must read for anyone struggling with non textbook social situaitons.

[Hypnovibe]

This is the kind of information I need to improve my game. Thanks Sinn. I just want to make sure I have the correct understanding here because this is what I am taking from it:
Return IOI's with an IOI and then test for A3 immediately....if it's an IOD then IOD back, and then challenge her. Follow up by running value and then testing A3 again. This is a simplified version but seems organized in my head.