Hi!
I am 23, from Sweden, studying here but originally I am from Asia. I have been with Game for almost a year . I have been getting a lot of AA. I had a lot of bad nights (mostly) but there were some good nights as well, which inspire me not to leave game. I learned the Swedish language good enough to survive but when it’s time to Game I use English coz it’s a bit difficult to game girls in Swedish language. There’s side effect as well coz a lot of girls specially young girls don’t want to speak English (coz they are not used to it that much but they do speak English good when they speak.) Recently I don’t have AA at all. I say Hi to almost everyone I meet on my way. I have done some Kiss-Close, some # close but haven’t done any F-close yet. Even I get numbers I hardly gate a Date…..Sometimes they don’t reply. Sometimes some guys reply from the other side. I am sharing my field reports of one of the HBs I met recently. I really need your tips & comments. I have many sticking points I think.


I opened her (Joha a HB8 and a quality girl) on the street on a Sunday afternoon. Indirect opener (asking about a shop). I made a transition & later she tells that she competes for 400 meters (runner). I go like this” Really!! That’s great!” I later tell her that I go for Skydiving every weekend & I’s going to participate to a campaign for Skydivers soon. She goes like “Wow! That’s great!” We talked for a while and she giggled couple of times. Then

I : My friends are waiting for me. It’s nice to meet you.
Joha: Yes.
I: we should meet again. I pretty busy now a days but I will try to call you sometimes.
Write down your number here….I gave my mobile to her.
Joha: Yeah sure. # close.
I gave her a hi5 and she was like holding my hand J

One day later I sent her sms coz I remembered that I didn’t tell her my name.

Me (15june 20:03):
Hi! I’m pretty busy now a days…until Wednesday. Then I am going for skydiving if the weather is good. How are you doing? Have a nice evening./ Kosmo

Joha (15june 20:17):
Hi. Actually I’m kind of busy too. I feel just fine and you? Thank you, I hope you have a nice evening too.

I didn’t want to reply same night again so I replied the day after.
Me ( 16junei 10:49):
Good morning! I’m doing great. I’ve a summer job and I am working now a days. What are you up to?

Joha(16 june, 14:47):
Hello J
I’ve been working till now, and I’m sitting on the bus home . Nice weather, by the way!

Me (16 Jun 19:34):
How was your working? Fun, I hope. It’s quite fun at my work. Yeah, lovely weather. How does your schedule look like in this week?

She didn’t reply to this sms. So I called her on 21 June but she didn’t respond my call. But later I received a sms from her.

Joha (21 june, 16.21):
Hi! Sorry I have not answered…but I have had a lot to do. How are you? Have you been to skydiving much?

Me (21 june 19:02):
Hej! It’s no big deal ! Something funny happened but I can’t call you now (wanted to let her know that I’m busy). I ‘m doing great and leaving for skycamp on Thursday. I am gonna shop b4 that. What are you up to?

Joha (21 june, 19:43):
Sounds really nice J. I’ve just moved out to our summerhouse on the countryside and I am going to start working tomorrow J.


On 22 june I called her in the afternoon but she didn’t respond. So I sent her a sms.

Me (22 June, 22:31):
Hej! Today we had a lot of fun in the city when I called you. One of my best friends is going to Australia for a year. We gonna miss him. Are you nervous when you speak English ( Swedish is her native language). I do understand Swedish.

Joha (22 June, 22:57 ):
Hej! I don’t know if I am nervous but I am not used to speak English. That’s sounds fun! Ah, I know, I hate to say farewell. I really have to sleep now, good night!

Me (22june 23:08): Good night!

Me( 23 Jun. 16:48):
Hej ! I offer for an ice-cream /coffee if u help me with shopping. What are you up to? Lovely weather , by the way (as wrote me the same once).

Joha (23 june3, 16:53):
Haha, I’m sorry but I have to say no….I am still working! Yes I know it is amazing. Good luck with your shopping!

Me (23 june 16:59): You might be very tired after working. So I am not insisting you unless you want.

I am going to another city for participating Skydiving campaign on 25th June for five days.
Could you guys please give me feedback on this?

My two cents...

Dont call her again if she didnt pick up the first time... I think there was no comfort involved... best bet was to bounce right from the location you met her (the streets) and took her somewhere like coffee shop or something...

Where in sweden are you? I was just there last week for the whole week... me and my bro went out sarging, sooo much fun...

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from what i can tell it seems like your interaction with her via sms is TOO friendly and nice, not enough effort to build attraction, just all comfort, which is fine to keep her around but you have to be very careful of getting friendzoned

though I have heard before that trying too hard to build attraction through sms can easily backfire, so if you can get a d2 setup hopefully you can build enough attraction there

good luck!

Yes! You are right! I could have bounced her probably somewhere but I didn't.
I just came back from Skydiving camping. I don't have any idea how to ask her for a date. Any tips? I actually have the video of my first jump & now I have a lot of pictures from the Skydiving camping. Do you think that I can talk about it & invite her to see? Or it will sound like bragging?

I live in Linköping. Where were you in Sweden?

Hi!
Thanks for your reply! Yeah! you are right.....No attraction!! I just came back to the student dormitory from Skydiving camp. Any tips how I could ask her for a date? Should I call her again? I don't feel like to call her again. Sounds needy every time I call and she doesnt reply.....

Hey great with another Swede, or someone liveing here atleast You seem to be very patient with the sms, which by my experience can be quite devasting, there is a old saying that it's better to not say to much hopefully you haven't done so yet. I know what you mean by feeling needy to call, i'm not sure how much books you have read but i beleive this is from "double your dating" Tell her you are busy tonight and busy on tuesday but that you have a hour at 17.00 at monday (or whatever day you are doing this) And suggest something you been talking about. She seems to be interested in your skydiving and i assume you know this topic quite good so suggest something fun like. "Today i have a big skydiving training/competion so im really busy and on tuesday i have a follow up on it, i also need to fix a few things before the follow up tomorrow but i think i might have a hour free around 17.00 we should meet up and i tell you how my competion went, do you know where the bla bla coffea shop is? Meet me there at 17.00."

I usually try start my dates by this, it shows i have a life + im doing something not many people do (skydiving in your case) If she denies this she's not interested enough to be worth your time (unless she suggests 18.00 in which case you make it 18.30 so you can watch simpsons first, or anything else that makes her understand that you play by your rules). I wish you best of luck!