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A good night to test my innergame and direct openers! Overall a success :D
Okay so my birthday was on February 19th (Thursday). My friends came over tonight (Friday) and we pre-funked at my place down in Olympia, had dinner, drank and then went downtown.
Now these are not my normal PUA friends who know the game. In fact they all had girlfriends except for one who is under age so she didn’t come with us. All in all it was about 6 of my closest friends.
Anyway, we went downtown to drink at a few bars and celebrate my birthday and just hang out because we rarely have the chance to. They don’t know that I’m in or aware of ‘The Game’ and ‘community’ but I just took Fader’s (love systems instructor) boot camp and I had a few things to show for it!
We went to a bar and I befriended an 8-set of strangers and had fun drinking a lil bit then we went to a bar/club and I really let loose and I had no fear. I opened several sets with ‘Hi’ in which they were instantly attracted because of my physique probably (I’m a personal trainer) combined with confident body language more importantly. All sets ended on a high note. I took a 2-set of girls out to the dance floor and danced with them and then after a while I told them they needed to work on their moves a bit (in a polite way of coarse, but conveying that I am the prize, and their dancing needed a some work) and that I would give them a chance later. They agreed and had their eyes on me for a while.
Afterwards I went right up to a 3-set and opened the cutest girl directly with “Hi, you know what…… you are absolutely adorable and I would really enjoy dancing with you!” She danced with me and after a bit I locked into table and qualified her. She jumped through my small hoop and then I threw out a big hoop and she wouldn’t jump through and decided she wanted to dance with her friends instead (lesson learned… build more value before throwing out a big hoop for compliance).
I approached another 2 set and one of the girls tried pushing me away. One of them said ‘no he seems cool’ but the other girl (the cuter one) wasn’t having it (screw it, no big deal). I retained my value by jokingly saying, ‘I will let you two fight over who gets to dance with me’(again, I am the prize) as I ejected. No harm no foul…
Then I saw a girl that I knew and got her to introduce and warm approach me to one of her cute friends HB8.5 who was shocked that I so confidently asked her to dance. We joked for a minute that Lil Wayne – Lolli Pop was playing and how it’s not a real song to dance to and then we danced through to the next song. I grinded on her for a bit and then got her # before we left.
All the while through all of these sets my friends were completely shocked that I had so much confidence and a care free attitude, which I never had b4 my boot camp with Fader. I was in the zone. I did mostly direct approach tonight. I cannot stress enough how much inner game affects any and everything. Granted I did have the Emotional Progression Model in my mind, I did almost zero canned lines and everything just flowed. Outer game is overrated… Learn inner game too and it will accelerate everything else. Anyway, it was a good night!!!
I wish I could be confident like that at all times, but my game tends to go stale after two days of not sarging. I can do amazing things when I'm on, but when I suck, I suck. Glad to hear that you had a good night though.
Originally Posted by Herschie
One thing that has helped me in other areas of my life even before the game was 'emotional anchoring' - something I think I read in a Tony Robbins book some time ago
I used to be over weight. The problem with food is that it tastes so damn good sometimes and I used to over eat all of the wrong things. I wanted to get fit, however, emotionally the 'good taste' in the moment overrided my desire to make good eating decisions long-term.
Long story short, 'emotional anchoring' can help change your priorities and motives for the better. In your case, sometimes you say you are in the zone and sometimes you are not. Next time you are, try to really internalize that feeling and how natural everything flows and how good it feels to feel that way, and when you are not in the zone, you can anchor your feelings towards the state you know you want to be in when you sarge.
There are exersizes in the book that explain the steps. Hope this makes sense and helps...