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my approach anxiety . At least after a ...
I think I've officially taken control of...
my approach anxiety. At least after a few beers. I'm miles ahead of where I was just a month ago. My AA is prectically non-existent after 2 Coronas. In fact, I think I could do it stone cold sober now, but I like to have a few. Conversation just flows MUCH smoother for me after a few drinks.
Friday night, I went out alone and ended up meeting a group of 9 people who invited me to an after party. I was out till 4:00am that night and had a GREAT time. Tried to make out with a chick at the party, but I COMPLETELY blew the comfort step. Still had a great time, though.
Last night, I took my Little China Girl to the Greenville bars in Dallas. She went to the bathroom. As soon as she left, I approached a 9 with a direct opener. I had this 9 eating out of the palm of my hand for about 3 minutes. When my Little China Girl returned, I immediately turned my attention away from the 9, ignored her and started pointing at My Little China Girl as she was walking back towards me. Then, as soon as she arrived, I started making out with her right in front of the 9. I fuggin' loved it. It was great. And this little US bitch, the 9...I could by her body language and reaction...it KILLED her to have that happen. She never saw it coming and I guarantee it NEVER happens to them. It was great. A real ego boost for me too. Game on baby! Right back atcha you sorry little US sluts!!!
The old me...the one festering with AA blisters and sores...would NEVER have partied with "strangers" til 4:00am and certainly wouldn't have had the stones to approach a 9 while my date went to the restroom last night. I don't even recognize myself anymore.
Anyway, I started making it a goal to open 2 sets a day, men, old women, anyone, anywhere, and try to transition into normal conversation. After a little over a month, the AA is almost completely gone now. This method worked for me. I recommend it for AA.
liquid courage is liquid courage
get rid of it
I'm getting there. You gotta start somewhere. I'm making progress.
I don't need the alcohol for the approach, but I still feel like I need it to keep good conversation going in attraction/qualification/comfort. My ability to carry conversation sober vs a little drunk is like night and day. Something just clicks in my head with a few beers and conversation just flows. Sober, I still struggle a little, but it's a million times better than it was 2 months ago.
Do you find you have better game when you are completely sober? Do most of the really good PUA's, like Mystery, do it stone cold sober? Heck, if they're not drinking at the bars, do they ever drink socially?
I'm just getting into it but from my experiences so far, I've done far better sober than drunk. When I'm drunk, my voice control/tonality goes to shit.
Well, as far as HB9's go, it probably doesn't happen much to them because they don't get approached by solid men that often. I think it was pretty mean spirited to attract her and then make out in front of her without any intent on jealousy plot line, or furthering your interaction with her. This kind of stuff erodes at your inner game, so be careful.
++++This kind of stuff erodes at your inner game, so be careful.++++
All is fair in love and war. I've had my heart ripped out of my chest and eaten right in front of me so many times, it's amazing. I even had a girl I was on a date with ADMIT that she used match.com as an ego boost. She was intentionally leading these poor AFC schmucks on for her own ego boost and she knew it all along. I guarantee those poor bastards were dying inside when she wouldn't answer their calls or when she said "I think we should just be friends". She kept going on match.com dates long after she realized that all the match.com guys were total beta male AFC's that she wasn't interested in.
So do I feel guilty for dishing the same shit back at them when I get the chance? Heck no. If I can get an ego boost at some woman's expense, I'm all over it. Besides, there's no heart break from a 3 minute encounter. It's just a little feeling of rejection for some little pedastal queen that she's not familiar with.
How would soemthing like this erode inner game?
Well, since you asked, the chick you dissed may have been an awesome human being to have in your circle of friends. So it may have been better to introduce her to your date and get a little party going, rather than attempt to make her feel bad for nothing.
Originally Posted by worldsworstcloser
I personally believe in the karma train, and you don't want that baby backing over your when you least expect it!
Finally, if you see her around again, you created bad blood for nuttin'. If she's with some HBs next time, you won't be welcome.
It's good that you're feeling like your game is on, and getting better. But revenge is a dish best served cold. And quite honestly, your reason for doing what you did sounds a little Brady Bunch. Just being honest.
I've enjoyed reading your posts, man, keep up the positive stuff and keep posting.
Last edited by DeadEyeDick; 08-20-2007 at 02:36 PM.
Reason: correct typos
I'm in the DFW area. There must be literally thousonds of bars within 40 minutes of my house. I've been hitting the bars, some of them the same bars over and over, for like 4 months now. I've NEVER recognized a chick as someone I saw in a bar before. I just don't see repeats in my market. Astronomical odds of it happening. Very lucky to be here.
Well, there are a bunch of reasons. The ones listed by the previous poster are really good practical, real world ones. I'll just touch on one of the inner game aspects.
Originally Posted by worldsworstcloser
Putting others down in order to make yourself feel better is a sign that you are not, in fact, a strong person. This should be self explanatory.
It boils down to attitude. If you judge a girl as a "little pedastal queen" after a three minute conversation with her, that screams to me of a negative attitude in general towards women (possibly based on past experiences?). Strong inner game is all about being a positive person and sharing that positive experience with others so they want to be around you.
If you have negative feeling towards women, it will show, and you will have less opportunities with women (and men).
Not to pile on, but the General is spot on. You seemed to take an extraordinary delight in creating a rejection, superficial though it was. No one who loves women and wants to be around them would do something like that.
And it doesn't matter how many bars in DFW there are ... it's the principle that being a tool creates negative energy -- I'd be surprised if your special girl didn't pick up on it.
All I'm saying is, you put this story out there, and you're getting some very good feedback about it ... take it in.