Day Game journal: Step by step
So I've decided to learn daygame, which I have been avoiding like that uncle who insists on giving me shoulder massages. My mates all have girlfriends now and just sit at home menstruating with them, so going out at night barely ever happens anymore.
This will be my learning journal as I progress towards mastering picking up chicks during the day (intimidating stuff, they are all sober!). Each one may be a bit of an epic read, so please scroll to the bottom to help with my follow up questions, if nothing else.
April 22, Sunday, Mission Bay Auckland (New Zealand)
Aim: Open + transition at least 5 sets
So today I dressed up like a rockstar and headed to the beach. I just wanted to get a sense of what it was like to open during the day, the thought of which makes me stain my briefs with approach anxiety. My body language and voice tonality are pretty good, but this was going to be the true test.
My opener: "Excuse me, this is going to sound really random... my friends told me about a great icecream place around here that I have to check out, but for the life of me I can't find it... can you help me out?"
Just a low risk situational opener (opener content doesn't matter shit anyway). Mission Bay has this overpriced pretentious Movenpick place so I was pretty confident most people could respond to this one. My real challenge was transitioning - no canned material, it had to be observational. Scary shit!! I want to one day open directly so it was important for me to practice the "Excuse, this is going to sound really random" part today, cos I'll one day be following that with "you are really gorgeous and I just had to come and say hi".
Right after parking my car I get in the way of a couple taking tourist photos of each other. I deliver my opener towards the dude but the chick responded. They weren't local so they didn't know shit, and then the guy's accent gave it away. I transitioned with "I hear an accent, are you guys Canadian or American?" They were from the States so I went into a brief story about my recent trip to Colorado. They were from utah, so I left immediately... just kidding, calm down you hicks. I was encouraged by how accepting they were of me changing the subject, they didn't even seem to notice.
Next was 2 cute girls sitting on the grass. I strode over to them and stood above them like a fuckin giant. With my plaid shirt, all I needed was an axe to be Paul Bunyon. Had the sun to my back too so they squinted up at me like pink-eye sufferers as I delivered my opener down at them. Sort of transitioned with a joke about walking right past the icecream place, then kicked myself as I walked off because the one that answered me had a European accent of some kind and I didn't capitalise on it. This is how we learn.
Ended up opening a few couples because that's all there was other than families (instinct tells me that opening sets with kids in them could lead to unwanted media coverage) but it was just practice so it wasn't a big deal. I found it easy to stop people coming towards me, probably because it was a Sunday and no-one was in a rush. I made a few girls laugh which made their boyfriends frown. Nothing like being perceived as a threat to validate your skills haha. Transitioning with a joke about how I couldn't find the place was fairly easy, but I should have tried something like "You guys seem really..." something.
So in all was pretty happy with it and didn't get nervous at all after the first one. Next time I will do better transitioning and try some attraction after that.
How do you approach a set that is sitting on the ground?
Where are some more single-girl friendly locations to practice?
What are some good day game opinion openers?