I haven't done a direct approach in a few days now and I could not figure out why. The AA was the same as usual but my motivation was lacking. Then I read Savoy's email today about setting goals so thought I should do that more clearly.
Resetting my goals
Goal for health:
Live a healthy lifestyle and be active, energetic and good looking physically
Work out 4x per week
Say yes to at least 2/3 invitations to activities
Go snowboarding whenever possible
Eat salads for lunch and only have fast food once per week
Goal for wealth:
Become regional manager
As per career plan (separate)
Goal for relationships:
Get a long term girlfriend who is gorgeous, playful, dedicated and interesting
Make at least 3x approaches per day, 1 of which must be direct
Always open at least 5 sets when out at night
Constantly push to move further on the emotional progression model
Never say no to sex with a hot chick
Track progress through field reports
Take the next Australia/NZ bootcamp, particularly daygame
Did my 3 approaches today at the mall on my lunch break, but they were all just situational, cos I wussed out on the first one and then didn't see any more attractive chicks after that
Interesting trend I'm noticing develop - 8s, 9s, and 10s are less rude than the minging chicks... what's that about?
At a conference I met up with a chick I used to go to university with who now works for the same company as me. I'm a different person from the guy she used to know and I laid into her with my passion for my work and my various achievements. We ended up trading emails
Date, drinks with chick from work
She then asked me out via email, and we met up for a drink today. I discovered something interesting today. now usually I am all cocky funny and have mixed results with that. Today I took a page from Soul's book and focussed on expressing my passion for my work and band. She was rapt, and kept saying things like "wow I'm so impressed" - and without sarcasm!!! I even ran a confidence building exercise on her that I use when working with staff who have low self esteem. She seemed to love it.
I then remember qualification, and for the first time possibly in my life I think I did it properly. One example was (she wants to be a journalist)
"Man I just really admire people who have the ability to quickly gain rapport with someone who you might not even like so that they give you the juicy stories. It takes real skills to be able to regularly pull that off"
She seemed really blown away by my compliments.
Only down side to the day was she has bad breath, and I think she might have some sort of issue cos I noticed that at our first meeting. Gingavitis!!!! Pity, she's quite hot.
Oh well, onwards and upwards. I met a cutie night that I'm about to expose to my text game, let's see how that goes.
great job man! love the fact that you went direct so early on. ive done a bit of day gaming myself and anything but going direct seems so pointless
keep going direct man. easiest and quickest way to get success coz then you dont have to give an excuse for getting her number coz uve already told her you like her.
i should take a leaf out of your book and day game more... ill defs follow this one
Been avoiding approaching for like a month now. Don't know what happened, just kinda lost the will, like all my AA and excuses piled back on and I simply gave up. What the fuck is that about?
Back into it
I think it was partly that my old one-itis (9.5) is back on the market (I have actually fucked her a couple of times) and I was getting obsessed again. Then we were out Sat night and she ditched me, leaving me stranded at a shit pub with no way home. That triggered a gear in my head, and I thought "how the fuck did I end up in this loser situation? I'm better than this!"
Anyway I walked into the mall on my lunch break today and opened 3 sets. All weak situational openers but I just needed to get the motor running again. Feeling good about it, ready to get on with it again
Got a tricky one I can't figure out - how do you make progress with a shop girl that you see a lot?
Scenario: I go to the same market every day to buy my lunch, and most times I get the same cute little blondie serve me at the check out. I have maybe 30-45 seconds to run game on her before I gotta move on - how do I make the most of this opportunity?
Example of our last conversation:
Me "Hey again"
Her "How's your day going?"
Me "It's pretty boring, what about you?"
Her "Blah blah blah"
Me "At least you can go out Saturday, right?"
Her "Yeah I got a party to go to"
Me "Yeah? has it gotta theme to it?"
Her "mmm... not really"
Me "Don't you just miss the days when every party was dress up? We used to rock out in togas and dress up like chicks and shit. It was awesome!"
Her - ringing up the sale now - laughs "Totally, that just never happens anymore"
Me - being handed my goods and having daggers stared into me by the person next in line - "Yeah people are weak these days. Alright trouble, I'll catch you later"
thats what its all about! congrats!
Gonna test out some new openers to see which work best in different situations. Today I wanted to try out an opinion opener about cooking for a group, that leads to a nice banter line. I went to the supermarket for lunch and just could not find a decent chick. Followed what looked like a cute girl (the back of her head was OK) but she was on such a mission that I couldn't keep up without looking weird, and I never got to see her face.
Then coming up to the frozen fish section (ideal for the opener) I saw the side profile of a cute-ish Indian chick so I went up next to her. Pretended to check out some fish fingers for a second then casually opened her. She gave me some advice and seemed OK, then I dropped the banter line "Now all I need is a cook... what are you up to tonight?". She didn't get it, and told me about some festival that she is preparing for. Ended up just having a normal small talk conversation then I bailed