Last night I went and saw Nero and Dillon Francis and we rented a hotel room to party in before/after and it was insane! Saw a girl there who I met a while ago and was interested in, but didn't have the confidence to escalate anything with. We hung out for a while and danced, but she was with her friends and she didn't want to leave them so we didn't hang out long. I was up until like 4 or 5 so needless to say today I've been worthless. Spent a total of around an hour or so over a small time frame on OkCupid today while at work and it's getting pretty easy to get numbers from there -- got 4 numbers in the time I put in today.
I find it really boring to actually being out and talking to women, but the conversation practice is pretty valuable to me. I'm gonna go be exhausted some more now.
Gonna try to make this a quick update from the past couple days (I feel like I always say that)
Thursday I went out with the main idea of sharing some business ideas with a couple guys I know. One of them I met at bars and he is insanely smart, borderline sociopath. So he was the first guy I wanted to talk and be involved considering that he has been high positions at a couple places. While at this bar I came up with some questions with my friend that are great to ask a girl to create more comfort and some sexual tension, which ended up working out better than I thought. It's great, because it can be used to judge how invested she might be in to you. So we ask one of the cocktail waitresses all three questions. They are: "Tell me the funniest joke you know", "Tell me the most intelligent fact you know", and "Tell me something extremely sexual" This is cool because you find out their sense of humor, intelligence, and how sexual they are. Didn't really expect it to work as well as it did, but the thing she told us about sexual is that she LOVES anal. Win.
Friday Was feeling slightly sick so I went out and played some pool with no intention of talking to people I didn't know (my voice sounded like batman with a mouthful of twinkies) Unfortunately a Bachelorette party came in to where I was and as soon as the Bachelorette walked by we made strong eye contact and I knew I had to go say something. So I chug a glass of water, walk over, and use some stuff I learned from Braddock's trigger word session at the SuperConference -- some roleplays, extreme sexualization, etc. Of course, the Bachelorette was the hottest one, but I flirted with some of her friends for a bit before I left. Ended up giving the star girl a piggy back ride around the bar though and her friends taking pictures haha
Saturday I stayed home to nurse my voice that was now almost completely gone. (I work as a bartender, so I talk all day and that doesn't help the situation)
On another note, I have a Twitter just to follow some instructors, comedians, and some motivational stuff. I was looking through my starred stuff and realized that a year ago yesterday I did my first cold approach and it's when I started taking this stuff seriously -- I saw Fader and recognized him in a bar here and he had me approach and gave me advice while he was on bootcamp. That is awesome! Anyway, looking back I've made a lot of achievements and I know there will be a lot more to come.
Also, follow me on Twitter so I have a reason to use it more. I'll make it worth it if people actually follow me, right now my sparse tweets are to basically no one. @jiGsawyouth_ is my name
Thursday Second to last day of finals, so my brain has been fried from being a hermit and studying my ass off, but my friend and I ended up going out to dinner and then shoot some pool for a little bit. That night one of the cocktail waitresses was working that is the only girl right now that I have the "that one special girl" feelings for. She always comes and hangs out when she has down time, buys me drinks, but is super flaky for hanging outside of work. Anyways, that night I used the three questions (see above post) that I used last week on her, but with one change. When she answered the second question, after about 20 minutes of working so she had time to think, she asked what the last one was and I just looked at her with a sly smile and said "You're not ready" Now to set image for it, we are really flirty with each other and people have asked if we're together when they see us, but I've always had a hard time taking things sexual with her. So I think what happened when I said you aren't ready, is that she talked to the other girl we used it on last week to find out what the third question. Within an hour or so she came back and I could tell there was something slightly different. She comes up to me and gets really close, looks me in the eyes, and is like "You look REALLY good in that shirt" I've worn that shirt there a million times and this is the first time she's said anything like that. She makes a round and she comes back and tells me that 2 people just asked if she wanted to join a threesome, and just like that things turned sexual and I found out some pretty sexy things. At the same time, I think she told me that to make me jealous (whether subliminally or not) and it worked a little bit.
Friday Saw Avengers and came my pants.
Saturday One thing I've been working on is sexualizing things. I feel I'm at a point where I can get attraction and beyond, but I don't do anything with it so it becomes stale pretty quickly. So being more direct with sexual intent, slower body language, strong eye contact, and closing distance between me and the girl. Yesterday my friends had a BBQ and made Sangria and had other drinks, so I went over there when I got off work. One of my friends brought her friend there and I've met her a couple times. I don't think I've ever made a real good impression on her because we hardly ever talk, and when it is it was only awkward small talk. Last night I just wanted to practice being more sexual, so when I got there, mingled a little bit, and then did some of these with her. It was the first time I actually tried to get to know her and vice-versa, and combined with the sexualization things went well. Got a couple big interest hits from her early on and after a bit she wanted to go upstairs really quick to take a shot. We go up, she pours the shots, and I get in really close, take the shot with her, look at her in the eyes and we start making out. (She is taller than me normally, and was wearing heels. Awkward) Anyway, we go back downstairs after a little bit and continue being social. On the way to the bars I gave her a piggy back ride and I could feel her rubbing her vagina on my back haha. We get to the bars, but she didn't stay long because her and another one of our friends had to work early, so no dice that night -- but I'll definitely see her again.
You guys should check out Braddock and Daxx's Push-Pull interview. It's awesome and something I've been consciously doing more of lately. Also Keychain and Vercetti's Voice and Tonality interview has been super useful too, because I have a tendency to speak pretty fast sometimes (It's a curse of bartending and being busy so I have to talk to a bunch of people quickly)
Also, follow me on twitter.
Hey all you sexy, sexy people. Tomorrow I leave for Vegas, so be sure to follow me on twitter if you want to laugh so hard you pee your pants. I'll most definitely be up for nomination in an Oscar after this trip, so make sure to be there!
Love you all.
Oh hai people. I'm alive and now I've got some rest and rejuvenated from Vegas for the most part. Had to work yesterday so I haven't been able to get on here since last week. I will write my weekend soon and hopefully you guys dig it.
For now though, I leave you with this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6HP2escR3qQ&ob=av3e
Alright, here we go! Every time I go to Vegas I think, "There's no way this time is going to be as much fun as last time."
I am completely convinced that every time you go to Vegas it's going to be INSANE. You just have to want to make it that way.
Thursday Last weekend was graduation weekend here so needless to say everyone was partying at home. I headed up to hang out with some friends for their graduation parties around 8 or 9. After being around there for a little while, my buddy and I decide to head to a show that's playing like 5 minutes away. By this point we're already a couple drinks in and to keep the momentum we continue once we get to the venue. At the show there was this half black half white girl dancing on the dance floor that surrounds us and makes eye contact with me back and forth. I dance with this girl for a while and have some minor conversation since it's so loud, mostly sexualizing things even more than they were. I've never really been in to black women (just not my thing) but I was way in to this girl. Or maybe the alcohol was -- I dunno. Anyway, my friends and I leave the show a little bit before to go to the hookah bar, but I got her number before I left. By the time we get there, it's already about 2:15 and I have to be at the airport by 7 -- looks like I'm not sleeping that night. We chill there for a while and I drive home, making it there by around 4:30. Just in time to shower, pack, and leave to pick up my friends to head to there airport.
Here's a picture from the show though: Yes, they are DJ'ing in stormtrooper helmets.
Friday I won't bore with the mundane things that took place in the morning such as flying to Vegas, lunch, etc, but just keep in mind I didn't sleep all day. And this day was especially brutal because we walked around so much and was in the sun ALL damn day. The guys I was with voted on Friday being gambling night so this combined with my extreme fatigue didn't lead to any super interesting stories, just a lot of fun with the guys. I do remember it just being one friend and myself around 2 in the morning and this cougar was on the prowl. We were at the craps tables and she comes over to me and is like "you should teach me how to play this game" I talked with her for a little while and flirted with what energy I had, but by this time I had been up for something around 40 hours and couldn't hold a endearing conversation regardless if there was a sexy woman in my face. Shortly after I crashed.
Saturday Saturday was time for vengeance. I finally had gotten some sleep and was revitalized for party mode part deux. We decided for absolutely no walking (to compensate for the insane amount of walking we did the previous day) and headed to the pool after lunch. There was one smoking hot life guard there that I wanted to go for. She was pretty hard to get to open up, but we talked for a little bit although it was nothing solid. Some dude gave me props though on the way out about it haha.
The day before I had a pretty hard time feeling any of the alcohol. Since I was going from high altitude down to Vegas, I could drink so much more and hardly felt drunk. So this day I decided that it was a good idea just to buy a bottle of Vodka and drink that....well, it worked. We met up with our two friends who flew in Saturday night and casino hopped for a bit while drinking a bunch before we went to the strip club Spearmint Rhino (cue Fader) I had bought the Stripper Game IVS a couple weeks before just for this opportunity and I must say I was pretty satisfied. The area I was hanging out a lot at was pretty useful because it was probably the most quiet area there and had a lot of traffic. I've only had a couple of strip club experiences before this and never had any real conversations with dancers until that night. In the time I was there I probably had 5-6 long conversations with dancers but was never able to seal the deal on any of them. The most memorable was when I was by the bar a dancer came over and started rubbing my chest (my shirt was unbuttoned a little bit) and I told her something like, "I don't think that's how it works. You're supposed to be putting money in there" She also grabbed my dick, which was a perfect scenario used from the IVS and said "oh that's mostly toilet paper down there. I didn't want to get embarrassed when I got here." which obviously made her laugh and then proceed to tell me that she makes more money when she stuffs her bra for work. (not really sure if she was joking or serious here since she didn't smile. How the fuck would that work?) We went somewhere away and talked for like ten minutes before she was called on stage, but she kept coming back and forth through the rest of my stay talking, but wouldn't be off until the am. My friends were originally skeptical about these plans, but told me it was probably the most fun they've ever had out. I win. Just think any stereotypical movie Las Vegas party scene.
Sunday I hit up Fremont St, did some zip lining and just chilled at the pool during the day. Night time we just casino hopped and went down the strip talking to people. We played blackjack with a professional couple that was from Jersey and all made a bunch of money that night while having so much fun. The dealers loved us, everyone at the table was positive, and the cocktail waitress came back every 2 minutes. After we decided to call it quits we were walking back and we saw this super small Asian girl starting a fight with this huge ass black guy. Literally everyone stopped to watch and saw the black guy push the asian girl away to give him time to leave and in response she got up and ran at him yelling that she was going to stab him with her stiletto. Cops ended up showing up right as we were walking away, but it was pretty crazy. I talked to these two black girls that I wasn't super attracted to, but felt in the social mood. When they asked why I was there I told them I was from China (I don't look asian AT ALL. Except my mini penis) and I was there for a math competition. They believe me and start telling me multiplication to do in my head which I make up, but they totally believe me just because my friend is saying "oh, he's right again!" without a calculator or anything. I then tell them that it's more about derivatives, logarithms, and three dimension math (I know engineers and have been in calc one) and literally watch their brains melt -- it was hilarious. About two minutes from our hotel we hear some people talking about the little girl fighting the black guy and ask if they know what happened. Unfortunately they don't (damn) but we end up talking to them for like 20 minutes and one girl is from about an hour north of where I live so I get her number and tell her that I want to hang out with her. Good ending to a good trip overall....and I'll be back for the Super Conference in October.
Picture me rollin.
Holy shit, loooong week. I've been busting my ass at work, mainly to make back some of the money I lost in Vegas, but also to buy some new music equipment and pay off some bills. Anyway, it was a pretty eventful week in my awesome world.
It's startup week in Boulder so I went to an event to meet my friend and talk business with a room full of geniuses. The company had food, beer, and wine, so you got to see a different side of some of the strictly business men which was funny and at some point kind of sad. A girl I was there with and I got bored after a bit because it seemed like the same conversations with every person -- mostly men trying to impress and stroke their own egos with power and money. Instead of continuing the mundane, we decided to start singling people out and deciding what their life stories were. Whether they were married, single, virgins, in IT, engineering, sales, CEO or whatever. Turns out when you've had enough to drink that this is a ton of fun.
This was the night for the business execs to let loose. My friends work who hosted the startup event Thursday had a unicorn themed pub crawl. Probably about 50 people all dressed as unicorns, showered in glitter, and a drunken aura around them were out on the town. I ended up bringing a girl I hadn't seen in like 6 months to paint the town red. Turns out the business women are HOT and know how to let loose. There was one in particular my buddy pointed out who had one of the most perfect bodies I've ever seen -- slender, but not a stick, huge boobs that were definitely real, long brown hair, a perfect ass, and knew how to move her body. The funny thing was to watch her flirting with all the high up bosses of the company and just watch them be enamored by her. Wanted to make a move on this one, but I ended up being too much of a pussy. Damn.
While at the last bar my buddy and I were playing pool with a guy and a girl and I start flirting with the girl. At one point I have my arm around her and she is rubbing my chest while we are talking about whatever. It comes to be my turn and I shoot and then look back over and see the guy with very defensive body language kissing the girl. Guess it was his girlfriend -- woops! I ended up leaving after to stop by a birthday party for this girl. Dominated the beer pong table for a while, but left around 3 because of work in the AM.
I just joined an APA pool league, so I've been shooting a lot more to practice because I'm going to be playing with some intense competition. I gave my buddy a call and we went to a bar close to home just to chill and grab a bite. They had a live band playing that night with a female singer who was pretty hot. In all honesty, she was probably an average or maybe slightly above average looking girl, but she had an amazing voice that was a super turn on. The whole time I kept making eye contact with her and saw her look over a couple times during her set and I thought it was on, but I ended up missing when she left because I was talking to these girls that had just come from a wedding.
Damn! I wanted to open with "Will you sign my tits?!" Even if it didn't work.
Three girls and 2 guys came from a wedding and came up to tell me I look like Dave Grohl (I get it on a near daily basis) It's nice for situations like this because I don't even have to open haha -- high five for being a lazy ass sometimes! Anyway, the blonde is super cute and I end up talking with her for a bit and take some pictures with her because she loves Dave Grohl apparently. They buy us all a round of shots and while we're by the bar one of the bartenders is like "Hey you work at blah blah, right?" Woo social proof and I talk to her for a few before she gets in trouble because I guess she was in training. When I go back my friend is talking to the blonde earlier, and even though it's a little fucked up (so we were by this point), I take the grenade and talk to her horribly masculine friend from Bosnia. Usually European girls are super sexy and have an accent that turns me on like no other, but this was not one of them. Think Borat with boobs. Anyway, I can charm the SHIT out of any European girl because I have stories from when I was there and am pretty knowledgeable on travel, the culture, etc. After like 20 minutes the girls go back to hang with their guy friends they were with and as last call comes I tell the blonde girl to come over and say bye and number close. I win.
Also I've been trying to eat healthier and doing some light exercise (I don't want to be ripped, but like David Beckham in shape. No homo), so if you guys have any resources for me to use it'd be appreciated! Follow my twitter if you like women: @jiGawyouth_
I'm sure you all have read this somewhere, but I can't stress how important it is to take risks -- not only in dating and your love life, but in life in general! Try new things, do something even if you feel uneasy about it, and try to rationalize whether you'll have more fun doing thing A or thing B. Whenever I'm too tired or I don't feel like going out, I always think to myself, "Well, I could stay at home and sleep all night, which would be fun, but I could go out and have possibly the time or my life!" Now I don't think you can always be "on" all the time. So don't live and die by this all the time, because of course you need time to re-energize, replenish, or sometimes just be a lazy fuck, but I've found that it's better to set a certain time of the week (such as monday-wednesday) to have these moments.
But the main thing I wanted to say here is don't be afraid of what you're saying when talking to women -- it really is all about how you say it and if you're confident saying it and if it's congruent with who you are. Now me a year or so ago would be a wake up call compared to how I am now. I could not get away with half of the shit I say then and wouldn't even dream of saying it. The main thing is to make sure the girl knows you're teasing her, joking, or that you're doing some sort of push/pull.
This has just been on my mind recently, so I didn't really know where I was going to go with it, but I just started writing. If anyone has questions, feedback, opinions, wants to call me out (fuck off -- just kidding) or anything else leave a comment!
Some recent things I can think of saying to girls:
I'm playing pool and girl comes up that I haven't seen in a while and we start talking about something awesome I'm sure. We drink the same drinks and she can't finish the one she has which is full:
her: "here, drink this, I just got it and won't finish it"
me: "sorry, I don't want your herpes!" *pulls her in close*
*girl I just met sits on my lap*
me: "Shit! I just got a boner."
I don't remember the context of this one -- obviously in a play fighting role
me: "I haven't punched a girl in like a week....don't make me ruin my streak" (Credit: Braddock)
me: do you guys have AIDS?
(pause -- they smile and look at me)
me: just kidding, I thought you guys were really cute so I had to come talk to you. (Credit: Simple Pickup)