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    Addiction to Success

    o this blog felt like the proper place for this entry. Maybe it is, maybe it isn't. Anyway it is going here so deal with it.

    So recently I was offered a job that I really wanted to get. Which makes me happy because it is like the perfect job for me. Mainly because I will only have to leave home to get food and workout. Anyway, I have been thinking about my attitude from today and yesterday. Yesterday was my work from home day... so you know that basically means it is my free day off from my current job. Once I had received news that I was going to be offered this new job. I felt really good about myself. You know lots of confidence and all that stuff that comes when you are successful. Old fires were relight. I guess that is why I am here because I was thinking about starting up my old goals specified here. Either way I was feeling really good. Kind of like the time I went out and actually spoke to females.

    Now I look at today. I am being forced to get a decision. There are other good jobs out there. This one by any means comes with its ups... however, it is not without its downs. I also do not like having power in this regard. Because now I can kind of say Well I have a job I want so why do I need you... I mean that works great for getting women. Hell I want that power when dealing with women. However, when dealing with a job... things change. Anyway, so I noticed though while my thoughts were on what to do about this job situation. I felt really good you know I felt like things were ok, and maybe I could go out and give this whole thing another try.

    Well it took only a few hours at my current job to kill that motivation and desire. I mean yeah I am happy that I am getting a new job. However, at the same time I am depressed because I have to continue to be here. I really hate my current job. So that is a nice motivation killer. I think it would be the same way with females. Hell if you read my other blogs I had a hard enough time dealing with rejection from other companies. So if I go out and try to improve and then come home to my depressing reality... well I guess I am kind of screwed right? At the end of the day I am still the same loser right?

    Gah why couldn't this have happened on a Friday... I could have actually maybe found the motivation to go out... oh well.. just an interesting observation on how fragile my confidence is.



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    Personally I wouldn't be attempting anything with women yet, you're not in a place where you can be successful or handle not being successful. Focus on getting your work situation sorted. It will help your general life attitude a whole bunch

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    Quote Originally Posted by DecadentSin View Post
    Personally I wouldn't be attempting anything with women yet, you're not in a place where you can be successful or handle not being successful. Focus on getting your work situation sorted. It will help your general life attitude a whole bunch
    Well I took the job that I was offered. Best job I could possibly take because now I only have to leave the house when I go to the gym and get food.

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    Given everything you have said, maybe you should think about whether only leaving the house for gym/food is the best idea. Perhaps you should think about working at a cafe or the library. Just a thought.

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    @The Modern: In my defense the main gym I go to now. Is a crossfit gym. So I am much more forced to be social. Even though I try to be invisible. I have thought about occasionally renting a space in a co-working environment. However, I am having difficulty finding one. The library is out of the question because there are none around me. Even if there was, it would not do me any good. When I was in college, I unknowingly took down the email server. So the connection in my apartment was locked. So I just went to the library. I did not meet a single person during that time. Which was about 5 to 6 days a week for 2 months.

    My phone plan allows tethering so I can work anywhere I can get a data connection. However, there are so many more pleasant things at home. Why would I ever want to leave? Plus I have given up on being social and have deemed women to be a negative investment. So why be social?

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    Be social to make friends. It will be good for your mood.

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    @The Modern: Hmmm I find that people do not seem to like me. I figure it is best to not bother them.

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    if you don't have the need to be social, why do you share your thoughts on the TAF - forums ?

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    Listen, man, take baby steps to being more social. Start by chatting up the local Starbucks coffee girl. It doesn't have to be about PU. As boring as it may sound, make a comment about the weather.

    You: Man, it's a great day outside.
    Her: I know right!
    You: This is one of those great to be alive kind of days. This is perfect weather for surfing. I think I'm going to take the rest of the day off and go to the beach. (which your new job will allow you to do).
    Her: That's awesome, I wish I could go. Have fun.
    You: I will, thanks for the coffee. I'll see ya around.
    (as an alternative, if it's a shitty day, make a comment about how the weather is perfect for you to go work on your novel)

    That's a simple nonthreatening conversation that will help to build your confidence and get you comfortable with casually talking to strangers in social situations. And just build from there.

    This new job is a great opportunity for you to become more social. You can work from anywhere, use that to your advantage. You could run day game all day.

    Baby steps will turn to full strides. Good luck.
    I'm thankful for the things I have and all the things I don't. And I got dreams that will come true and I got some that won't.

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    @feudel: Hmm hard to say really. I guess it is because I have many things that I feel are best said here. Plus I like the opinions that come from here. However, it is hard to say. Maybe I shall just stop posting here. I do not have much to say. I guess I also like to know I can post a report or something if I have one. However, if this thread were to be locked. Then I would be gone.

    @Gunslinger01:I have thought about that. But I am going to take the more traditional western.. I guess approach and say that takes too long. I have thought about maybe using this to my advantage. However, I am pretty sure I will come off as one of those losers with no job. However, I digress, I am going to play the impatience card this time around. It is a convenient card for me to play.

    Then again I have thought about going out and taking up space in more social places. That would be fun. Just go out to a bar or party or something. Find a place with chairs or something. Order a drink, pull out ye old Vita or 3DS and play video games till the battery dies. You know just to keep someone who might actually want to meet people out. Then again, I have a lot of games to beat and anime to watch. Hmmm choices, do something that is hilarious to me. Or just keep doing what I am doing. I mean there are so many choices that I have to make sometimes. It is almost like when I had to make the choice to break my social regiment to stay home and play the beta to the old republic. It was a hard choice, but I figured when will I get to do the whole beta thing again? Then I decided that I was not updating my website enough. Then I decided I needed to catch up on games. Next thing you know it is 3 months later and any improvement I had is out the window.

    Hmm what to do?

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