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    Ok tonight i'm planning to sarge again, and again open at least 10 sets. I'm posting here so i don't chicken out. Again i am drinking a bit of alcohol to get myself in state but it's less than last time, i keep decreasing it.
    I also made the realisation that I need approaching to become a habit. I'm starting off really easy and something i can keep up with, and as i grow used to it, i will increase difficulty and intensity. I made the commitment to atleast open/approach one girl every day in my everyday life. Starting today, when i got home from work when walking out of the train station i opened a moving HB8 with "Hey, do you know what time it is?" I paced myself so i would be walking slightly ahead of her and opened over the shoulder. She giggled and looked at her watch and told me the time. I said: "ok thx". The mission this week will be just that and just to open. When i grow fully comfortable with that, i will add transition and/or increase intensity to two sets per day. Daygame is somehow much more intimidating to me than night game so i will ease into it very slowly.

    In order for this daygame mission to succeed, I made a list with all the places i usually go to during the day and prepare a suitable opener for every one of those places.

    For tonight, i looked at a list of parties in town and didn't really find something i like unlike the past two weeks. I fear it will be very loud there. Nevertheless i will do my best. If i want to get good i have to be able to operate in pretty much every environment, that's also why i'm including day game into my life.

    Cheers!
    Last edited by retoke; 03-02-2010 at 12:35 PM. Reason: typo's


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    Sarge night 3

    I planned to write this field report the next day but since i'm back earlier than expected i might as well write it now. I did my 10 sets (+ warm up sets with coat guy, bartender, drinks chip guys ..) but the reason i'm earlier is that most sets went awful. I mean, no one was really rude or anything but they didn't stick. However there are also some positive things. I will first give an objective review of the field night and then add what i think was positive and negative.

    The first place i went to i totally wrecked the room, one set went semi decent, i managed to lock in (but not fully cause i was still on the side of the group, not in the middle, though i was leaning against the wall). Target seemed hooked at one point though i didn't adress the whole group at the time, but i still had targets attention so i said to introduce me to her friends.
    And she did, and i shook hands with them. However, other guys and girls kept engaging her and i lost the set.

    There was one other set that didn't go totally bad. I engaged the whole group and the guys first. They were interested in my opener and they gave alot of feedback on it. My transitioning went bad, I did the best friend routine on my target and the other girl (obstacle) also listening to me. Turns out they weren't that good friends. My target suddenly went away and joined another group. Turns out she was just briefly into that group and doesn't know those people very well herself. At that point i realised i lost the set, but the guys were still talking to me. So i said to myself "why the hell not? Worst case scenario this gets me instate and generates social proof". I talked to them for about 5 more minutes untill one of the guys asked if i had any coke on me. I said "no, do i look like a drug dealer?" and ejected not much later

    At that point i had done about 8 sets in that place and i was getting trouble finding new sets not on the dancefloor and not too close to the loud music. Place was giving me a bad vibe at that point anyway so i decided to change venue.

    The 9th set (the first set in the new venue) was actually one of the best of this night. This was also the first time i used another opener than the "make-up" opener (more on that later) I aksed them if they thought i looked gay, and then went off into a story of a gay guy hitting on me. This always opens pretty good for me. I guess it's disarming, interesting and a bit out there. After the opener i did the best friend test. And just when i was about to deliver it i realised. These girls are close to a wall, perfect to lock in. So i said: "hold on", i took the spot against the wall and pulled the girls in so the group was kind of close again. And i ran the best friend test. They were interested and my cold reads that followed were correct. I succesfully locked in. I ran a few more attraction routines and one of the girls (my target) asked my name and also at one point tapped her hand on my shoulder as a response to one of my routines. Note that i sometimes used disqualifiers but i'm not sure that i did in this set. (i definitely forgot it a couple of times)

    That's when i started to qualify her, and she took the bait nicely. Then one of her orbiter friends started talking to her. Now the beauty of being locked in is, that it doesn't make the situation awkward. If you're not locked in and you lose attention from the group for just a short time, you're pretty much blown out of the set. Now i wasn't, i started talking to her friend (obstacle) who was pretty cold at first but now she started to open up too, even smiling while she looked pretty sad before. At that point the target started talking to me again. Good, good. I qualified some more and she hooked nicely so i just made some fluff talk about what i do and what she does. At some point she asks how old I am. I told her the truth, 25. This was a mistake cause the girls were only just 18 and at that point i could tell my target thought the age difference was too much. I ran some more attraction qualification and comfort after that and went for the number, but she wouldn't give it because of the age difference (or so she said). She said: "buy ask my friends, maybe they will!" on which i replied "No i'm only interested in you" (Though the obstacle was equally hot actually HB 8's) But that didn't help and at that point i decided to eject

    After that i did one more set in another venue, nothing worth mentioning there except that some AMOG cockblock tried to blow me out, but i stood my ground and he ended up qualifying himself to me and befriending me.

    On the "make up opener": I used it pretty much all the time until now but i'm gonna stop using it, 16 out of 20 don't hear me properly when i do (they hear the rest most of the time so i could maybe still be louder but it's also the opener) The part they don't hear is the word make-up. So i'm just gonna start using another opener. (first time i used another opener the set went pretty good, might be coincidence but still) As a sidenote, i'm from Belgium so i have to translate everything to dutch and that might have consequences for the opener.

    That was the whole night, i'm not super happy about it but i'm not bummed out either. Here is why:

    Negatives:
    -No real result like last time, no nr close or better
    -Most sets didn't stick long, i did 10 sets and i'm home alot earlier
    -I didn't display enough willingness to walk away i think. Last weekend I opened a girl to ask where the bathrooms were. After her answer i started walking away immediatley and she started the conversation again. Because i wasn't trying to pick her up i was displaying all the good things, i need to emulate this in my approaches.

    Positives:
    -I went out and reached my goal of approaching 10 sets
    -I opened sets over the shoulder most of the time
    -Although i did drink a bit i feel like my AA is decreasing.
    -I remembered to lock in when possible during transitioning.
    -I (most of the time) talked to the whole group and men first and took care of possible cock blocks
    -One set went pretty well and i got some IOI's from the girls
    -Despite this night wasn't very good i still enjoyed myself

    One more thing: the guy who aksed if i had coke on me, opened me again to ask the same question. He also asked if i was on speed, maybe my energy level was too high?

    That's it for tonight's fieldreport. I might have the opportunity to do another one this week. Though it didn't go as good as i would have wanted: You learn the most with bad sets and skill improvement comes with peaks and plateaus!

    retoke out!
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    Hey guys,
    This week i was supposed to go sarging again and do atleast 10 sets, this week was mad busy though and i wasn't able to go sarging at all. Went out with friends 3 times this week and there's always much beer involved and from sarging drunk you learn not alot so i don't count any sets i do then ( i did a few)

    However i don't want to let you guys, and more importantly myself, down so i will make up for it next week and either sarge 2 nights or do 20 sets on one night. I also am going to a bootcamp in the near future so that should be quite a few sets as well + some sticking points i probably don't realise myself that i need to work on + tons of valuable information and a mindset that it's all actually possible. I know it is possible and i really believe in it logically but sometimes i think my subconsciousness still has doubts. But once you see it for real and you're dealing with the real thing that will be shattered.

    There was one time when i was out with my friends when i was trying to find the toilet, i didn't know the place and for some reason my friends were far away at the time. I thought in myself "damn where is the toilet? I better go back and ask my friends.." And then i was like OK stop.. we are trying to adopt this lifestyle and then you would go to your friends to ask for it??? Just open a damn set nearby, easier and faster. It's even a functional opener ffs, no risk at all. I just didn't think of it immediatley. But i corrected myself and "opened" a set to ask it. In my non PUA aware days i would have gone all the way back to my friends and asked for it. Even now i wanted to do it until i stopped myself, i need opening to become a habit i need to really start to internalise it. The only way i can do that is by doing it often on a regular basis. And that's what i'm going to do.

    Also i am still opening my one set per day in day game, i have moved on from just asking the time to asking "I have a very important question for you do you happen to know the time?" It is getting easier and easier, and at least half of the time i get laughs from the girls. Another week and i'll get used to that and i can start to add a transition or use a more risky opener than a functional one.

    That's it for this weeks update, i am quite satisfied with daygame and changing my beliefs concerning daygame. I didn't like it at all in the beginning but now i'm actually starting to like it even though i'm just opening with a functional opener but i see some potential there. It will also help me be more confident in my night game sarge nights.
    Bad point is that i didn't do my 10 night game sets this week, but i will make up for it.

    Retoke out!
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    Tonight i'm going out solo sarging again, I made a few tweaks to my routines and my goal is to approach 15 sets, since i didn't do any last week. I'd go for 20 but that is probably unrealistic since i have a time contraint.
    Today in my daygame set opener i approached a sitting 2 set HB7 HB9, i saw them from far so it was violation of the 3 second rule and i noticed it. I was nervous. I've been doing this for 2 weeks now and most of the time it's a piece of cake, now i was nervous and tripped over my words.

    Field report of tonight follows later
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    This is yesterday's field report

    Overall most sets opened pretty good apart from 2 or so. One set in particular went pretty good. It was a 5 set with one guy in it if i remember correctly. I was locked in against bar pretty quickly and there was one HB 8 and one HB 9 close to me so they could hear me very well.
    The HB 8 laughed and was the most into me so she became my target. However it was not long until I got cockblocked by a friend of hers, she dragged her off to someplace else. Because I didn't manage to engage the cockblock and/or the whole group, i only managed to keep her and her HB9 friend "busy". The main cause for this is that it was quite a large set and the venue is pretty loud. But still i could have told her to introduce me to her friends or something.

    A 3 set is managable in that noise, 5 set is just too much for my current skillset i feel. The HB 9 stayed in the set so i started running attraction on her but she stayed cold as an ice queen. Not sure if i ejected after that or that the whole group left. Doesn't really matter either.

    One set in particular was pretty funny, a 3 set, HB8 HB7 and a HB6. I opened, transitioned, it hooked and ran some attraction material.
    They were all listening and laughing so i thought it was going pretty good (and it probably was at that point). Then i ran the stripper routine. How my parents wanted to call me "Amber" if i was a girl and that i think it's a name for strippers. Then the HB 8 says to me "you obviously don't know what her name is then" pointing to the HB 6. I said "Amber huh?" and i laughed. She said "Yeah you can leave now, bye bye". I just stood there for another while genuinly laughing. THen she was like "byyeeee" and waved. I said with a big smile "alright you girls have a good night" and went on. Just these situations alone are all worth it

    When i went to the toilet some guy was standing next to me at the urinals and asked me if i was drinking a coke; i said "yeah, i usually drink beers though".
    He said: "yeah, btw you don't look gay" (I used the do i look gay opener all the time since my makup opener is not very understandable in loud music, field tested)
    I was like: "oh you were in one of the groups I approached?"
    He: "No but i overhead you talking (at least i was loud enough ), that's a good
    opening line you use btw, most guys just talk boring shit"
    I had to ask: "You're familiar with the community?"
    He: "Community of picking up women? yeah i know of it but i go natural mostly"
    He also said it's a numbers game and if lucky one in 10 gets you
    something. (It is a numbers game but not so much if you get somewhat good)
    That's when i realised he knows community exists but probably doesn't practise it like it's supposed to be used and he's not very good.
    So i didn't inquire any further.

    Another set i remember opened pretty good, it was a 3 set, 2 HB7's at most and 1 guy. After a while it went stale i didn't manage to get attraction
    and i saw the girl saying something to the guy in his ear. The guy responded with "Well at least he has the guts, most guys don't". He was obviously referring to my approach. Of course this was my signal to eject . Even though i got "rejected" in a sense (i don't really look at it in this way anymore) it was nice because the guy
    acknowleged my effort. This also might mean that i show too much interest too early, else the girl wouldn't be saying this. Or is just the cold approach alone enough for her to say this??? No idea.

    One of the last set i did was a drunk HB 6's 2 set. They were touching me all the time but they were really drunk, i locked in against the wall and another HB 9 girl i opened earlier saw me and she looked my way and then said something to her male friend, while i was getting massive IOI's from the drunk girls. They weren't hot and too drunk and got very easily distracted so i let them go.

    After like 5 sets i had the feeling that the place was sarged out. I saw sets i wanted to open and i got closer and then "oh shit, i already did this set" and other time it was like "crap, the girl in that set looks alot like one of the girls in my previous sets but i'm not sure if it's her"
    It became difficult for me to approach more and i wanted to bail but decided to open a few more sets, there should be new girls coming in regularly.
    After that i opened 3 more sets, so 8 in total. Not good enough, normally i do 10, and this time i wanted to do 15 cause i didn't sarge last week.
    I didn't bounce to another place cause else it would become too late.

    I noticed i really wanted to open sets cause standing there alone at the bar is more awkward for me than to be in a set. I can feel my value just slipping through my fingers standing there, and my mood. This shows again the importance of opening right away and always to try to be in set even with guys, which i did a few times when i wanted to shortset or when i didn't see any suitable sets nearby right away.

    Finally there was a weird two set HB8 and HB7, they seemed pretty into it/me. I don't remember the exact thing i said at the time but they suddenly turned their backs on me, i was even locked in against the bar. I probably did something wrong there i don't know of, or it was fake interest and my IOI detections sucks balls lol.

    The things i did good were:

    -i shortsetted more and i could feel that it helped cause the sets after the short setting a nearby set opened alot better.
    -I also opened over the shoulder more like previous times and even body rocked out sometimes but i still need work on that.
    - i also felt like i had really good attraction in the set i got cockblocked. Come to think of it, this always seems to happend to me when a set goes good and i get attraction. As soon as i notice attraction (or even earlier) i should disarm any potential cockblocks.
    -I KINO'd when opening and/or transitioning in a few sets, not in all but i remember a few.

    The things i did not do good were
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    -i don't remember coming in with a smile, i might have done it once or twice but i never deliberatly did it.
    - i didn't open enough sets (i felt that the room was sarged out but this is not an excuse)
    -I forgot to use a disqualifier several times and i waited for a reaction from the girls which is bad.

    All in all it was not a super bad night, but it could have been better.
    So that's it for this field report
    retoke out!
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    It's been a while since i posted on here. It's been quite busy concerning both pick up and other things in my life. Two weekends ago i attended a bootcamp in London. This was really useful especially to fix the bodylanguage i wasn't even aware of. And i also discovered direct game seems to work alot better for me. And had more success in the bootcamp then i had on these field reports so far So most of my old routine stack i will abandon, i'll probably weave in a routine or two but untill my new routine stack is ready and i got some improvising skills I will not use many "routines" except opener and transitioning. I'll trying to come up with alot of teasing/banter/framing on the spot.

    Also, outside the bootcamp i had never done any direct opener before, and i did a shitload on the bootcamp and now my AA is almost zero. (I opened a lot of crazy sets) And it's a lot more fun too.

    I'm going on the first proper sarge night after the bootcamp tonight. I'm still going to drink a bit of alcohol before i go out so i don't get house anxiety and just stay inside as going out solo still isn't 100% evident.

    I'm also still doing my at least 1 per day, day game approach, i added touch to the "i have a very important question for you, do you happen to know what time it is?" (or a variation of that depending where i am) and open girls walking towards me, stopping them by slightly touching them, but even this is getting kind of boring. I might add a transition to that soon or just go direct as well and then transition.

    That's it, tonight's field report will follow soon.
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    Normally i would have posted this tomorrow but I'm already back from my night out "sarging" The thing i feared came true. It's a monday night and there was nothing much to see in town. There was one party and i went in. Now i know this place has a dancefloor area with really loud music where it is really hard to game. But it also has a place with a 2nd bar where it's ok noise wise.

    When i arrived the more quiet place was almost empty, with the exception of a few sets at the bar and a few passing people. So i opened a two set seated at the bar HB6 HB7. I went direct as i always do now and said "You are absolutely adorable, i just had to come say hello. I'm retoke" and shake her hand and asked for her name. She was into it right away cause she said "You are cute too". Then i let her introduce me to her friend. They were both very friendly and were into it, especially my target was smiling all the time and laughing. My transition was: "You should look less intimidating if you want more cute boys to come talk to you". Added some kino to it, but as they were seated i had to lock in, luckily i saw an empty stool next to them so i sat myself there, it was close to the obstacle so she wouldn't feel left out, perfect. They both loved it so far. I continued with some playful teases like "You have nice eyes.. can i touch them??" Again laughing and playing along, "NOooo my lenses would get messed up" etc etc mixed with some normal conversation. I remembered something from the bootcamp about leaving and going back in again, so at one point i went away to the noizy part, and opened my 2nd set.

    I went direct on a HB 8 or something. Wasn't really into it, also didn't understand part of what i said, introduced me to her so called friend but turned out they didn't know eachother Needless to say the set didn't last long. I didn't really mind this at all, the thing i disliked was that the place was so loud and even there weren't that many sets.

    Next set i did was a HB9, went direct again. She seemed a bit timid and shy, she had a slight smile on her face but she was somewhat uncomfortable, after my transition she said that she had a boyfriend. This is what i believe to be another great advantage of direct game. You weed out the ones with bf's (or the ones who are not into you and pretend to have bf's) early on and don't waste time on them. I know this can be turned around if they pretend to do it, but my skill level isn't good enough yet for me to waste my time with that.

    I ordered a water and looked around a bit, i could have opened 2 sets more or so in that loud area but i didn't because it was so damn loud, but i should have, opening is better than not opening, even if you get blown out hard. (unless maybe it's so hard that your social proof will decrease so much the whole room will blow out) But this wasn't an issue cause there weren't many sets left to do anyway. At that point i decided to go back to my first set the HB6 and HB7, i stood beside them while ordering a drink and reopened with "It's Lotte(her name) right?" Locked back into my stool and ran the best friends test, and embedded some callback humour in case i managed to get a number. She was still into it and i made her qualify to me which worked pretty good. I wanted to look for other places to sarge so i said i had to go but that we should continue this convo some other time and said she should give her nr. That's where she said she had a bf and couldn't do it. She even said: "it's true, it's no line to get rid of you" and i believe her, else she would have said it way sooner, and i could tell she was into it.

    That's when i left the place and looked for other target rich place but i didn't find any others. So i opened a pathetic 3 sets tonight. I kind of feared this since it's a monday night, even in a student city like this it's not ideal on monday night

    Anyway i'm glad i went out, i had a free evening anyway and any practise is welcome. I will go out again this week for sure to get to atleast 10 sets this week, and hopefully more. I guess i can aim for 15 since i already did 3.

    Retoke, out!
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    Retoke- "...Untill my friend who was with me (he was a social outcast in school a few yeas agi so i considered him to be even less good with girls as me) said i should kill her. And so i did, it was the first time i kissed a girl, even though i was very drunk, i remember it like yesterday (i guess it's true that you don't forget your first kiss)."


    LMFAOROFL .... OMFG you do NOT know just how you made my day LMFAO. I was in tears laughing my ass off as i read this part. I dont really know in what context you are using "kill her" but I take it you just misprinted "kiss her" but it was funny as fuck. lmao.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tachi View Post
    Retoke- "...Untill my friend who was with me (he was a social outcast in school a few yeas agi so i considered him to be even less good with girls as me) said i should kill her. And so i did, it was the first time i kissed a girl, even though i was very drunk, i remember it like yesterday (i guess it's true that you don't forget your first kiss)."


    LMFAOROFL .... OMFG you do NOT know just how you made my day LMFAO. I was in tears laughing my ass off as i read this part. I dont really know in what context you are using "kill her" but I take it you just misprinted "kiss her" but it was funny as fuck. lmao.
    Yeah that was a typo, i laughed myself when i reread it
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    Wednesday night

    Here's wednesday's field report. It's a 2 week easter holiday over here and that means most of the college students are back to their hometowns and there are no typical student parties going on during. I managed to find a party to go to though. I knew the crowd would probably be mostly highschool students but legal age is 16 here anyway so i figured what the hell, why not?

    I always seem to get "house anxiety" when i plan to go out solo to practise. It's this weird feeling and kind of a mood killer. It's like my emotional brain is telling me "you shouldn't be doing this" and all my earlier motivation and energy seems to slip away and doubt fills my mind. Of course I know my emotional brain is bullshitting me and I do it anyway, i let that brain be in charge way too long already. Once i'm in the venue it gets better already and after a few sets that feeling is gone, but gets replaced by another feeling. When i'm walking around alone or just standing somewhere I get the
    feeling everybody is watching and i get uneasy. I know my value is dropping but it isn't always easy to find a set right away to open. And circling the place too many times isn't very good either . There were enough sets to open, that wasn't the issue this time but everytime i come out of set i seem to need some time to sort of "cool off" (i don't have a better description for it) before i go into the next set. I'm not really nervous approaching the set but i seem to need a very small break inbetween sets. I don't know if others recognise this and i don't know where it comes from, maybe it's AA coming in another form? Having those small breaks makes me stand there alone or walk
    around alone, I usually order a drink (water) or go to the toilet. But i obviously can't do that after every set. Maybe next time i should force myself to open at least 3 sets or more in a row without taking a break and see what effect that has.

    As for how the sets went: some sets didn't open at all, some opened but didn't show much interest and were pretty boring. This one 2 set I opened were responding (but minimally) and their body language was so closed. They were both standing there with their arms crossed. I decided to make a cold
    read out of it: "You guys seem to have closed personalities, you're both standing in the exact same way arms crossed". At that point they lit up for a moment and said "OMG that's true we learned that in school!". And immediatly they both uncrossed their arms at the same time. That was pretty funny to see. At that point i asked them what they did in school but they were highschool girls so it wasn't much of a convo. I think at that point or not much after it died and I ejected.

    Then there were sets that opened really well. I had the impression that the hotter sets opened the best (note that i was going direct all the time). I let the target introduce me to her friends and made sure i talked to them as well, but i wasn't able to hold the sets attention. As soon as i run out of things to say (even if only 5 seconds of silence) the set closes down and i get shut out. If i run out of things to say i usually ask a qualifying question (the panic button) but that only keeps it going for a very short time and afterwards i'm stuck with the same problem. That's why locking in is important and i know i didn't do it in this one set and that's why it went stale. But halfway in i rememberd it and locked in but the convo already died, it was too late and it seemed a bit off. Her purse was behind my back so she pretended to have to get something out of her purse (or it's very bad timing) and i was forced back into my old position. Most of the time it was hard to really lock in, the venue is one big hall with very few possibilities to lock in.

    Most of the times i forgot to really pay attention to the fundamentals: body language, smiling, being loud enough. Half way through i realised this but then next set i forgot about it all over again. Next time i'm gonna focus solely on that and don't worry about continuing the convo yet.

    One thing i did do good was KINO, but still maybe not enough. It's kind of starting to become automatic but i still feel i should turn it up a notch.

    I realise that i might not have been fully congruent with the place since it was packed with highschool students and they flock together in their school groups and the mentality is usually alot less openminded than college students and "working people". And alot of people there know eachother (even if they are in different groups) cause they go to the same school. So that also adds up to them seeing me as a bit of an outsider i guess.

    I opened between 10 and 15 sets so in terms of numbers i reached my goal but apart from that the evening wasn't that good. Today i'm planning to go out again and hit some bars. I prefer the big parties cause it seems easier to open (but harder to lock in) but this might just be a limiting belief so i'm gonna see how it goes tomorrow. Saturday i'm going to a big dance event, i won't be able to open a shitload of sets cause i'm going with friends (which is a shame cause it's an event with around 22000 people so running out of sets is impossible ) but i certainly will open a few.

    In my daily day game approach i now added a transitioning. So i'm opening with a functional opener and then transition and it seems to go pretty good. Next step will be staying in set longer and adding some attraction material.
    For everyone who has will be given more, and he will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what he has will be taken from him.
    Matthew 25:29

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