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ok,so after spending six months reading ebooks ...
my first four approaches and first four rejections
ok,so after spending six months reading ebooks and watching videos i finally decided to start my game...white shiny shirt,cool jeans,one bracelate and one canned opener r my weapons...
so in the evening at a busy street i did these approches,
(this conversation happend in hindi language (india),sorry for poor translation,english is my third language)
me: hey,i am writing an online dating article and for that i need some female opinions...dont worry,i will only take 10 seconds, (my body language was good,i spoke confidently and with high energy)
hb7(may be 18 yrs old):no plz(she just kept walking,walking and walking...)
this was my first rejection.....
me:hey,i am writing an online dating article and for that i need some female opinions...
hb8(may be 22)she just kept walking, i hate girls in india)
this was my second rejection.....
me:hey,i am writing an online dating article and for that i need some female opinions...dont worry,i will only take 10 seconds.when a guy sends you a frndship request....(she cut my point)
hb7(may be 18-20:i know u guys very well,i know ur mentality,just get lost..
(i think she is psychic.she knew my intentions)
anyway,this was my third rejection.....
i was so frustated i went home and rested for half an hour .... but then i woke up and decided to try one more time with anything that comes to my mind....
(in a shopping mall)
men my god.....(pause).....i forgot my opener.
hb7(may be 20)just smiled)
me:u know,u r very cute,i want to have a coffee with u (i know i am acting like afc , but hey i am a confident afc.)
hb7:sorry i cant.
me:this is not fare(smiling),u pretty girls first attack on us guys with ur looks then when we ask u out,u just rejects me...i have waited for this moment for 20 yrs and now u r not playing ur role very well...
hb7:sorry but i am with my dad.
this was my fourth rejection....
by the way guys,how is my new opener
me:shit (or oh my god) ..... i forgot my opener.
lessons learned today:u can learn much about pickup by spending 1 hour in field rather than wasting six months studying pickup.
second lesson:indian girls are bitches.
third lesson:fear evaporates after every approach.....
fourth lesson:tomorrow is a new day...i.e. new begining...
bye guys,have fun.
From my own opinion, false time constraint should be way quicker. Such as:
"Here, real real quick ."
Good thing you started approaching, you just started learning and it's long and painful road, but reward in the end is great.
Remember: Impossible is nothing!
you shouldn't complain to the girl if rejected, it is a major DLV and to be honest they usually couldn't care less. from what I read in your thing she was nice about it.
Originally Posted by prajaktmeshram
The opener u used, Kinda sounds like a survey nobody likes those.
about forgetting:I sent myself text message to my cell phone with openers in the message; I leave in the inbox and refer back to it when u draw a blank.
As far her knowing your intentions, don't worry women are not phsycic but you be checking her out before approaching her without knowing it, this gives away your real intentions or just maked them feel weird.
Switch the opener to "I need a real quick female opinion for a project i'm doing." dont ever say "Don't worry" or anything that would conotate that they would have something to be fearful of....
Try and change your opener / make it a bit more congruent and / or interesting. The girls are seeing your intentions with that opener and they are getting creeped out.
Start all over dude. That opener is pretty much garbage. Like dude said earlier, no one likes surveys. Find something else to get their attention with. "Projects" sound like school work to me.
One very important thing that I've read about whilst looking at body language is that women are incredibly intuitive, which may sound obvious, but it's essential to bear in mind on the approach. It sounds to me that you approach women with a big grin on your face that says "I want to get in your knickers". You have to really believe that you're not interested. Say to yourself before: "What would my body language be like if I were approaching an old lady with this same question?" And try to imitate that. Women will subconsciously read your intentions so you have to adapt them accordingly.
I would personally avoid the dating survey as it is quite robotic and also by using 'dating', it is easily interpreted as sleezy. Maybe try something very natural like directions to get her to stop and follow with an opener...
Good luck man!
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