Discuss Hobbies that enhance the PUA aura at the Culture and Lifestyle within the The Attraction Forums. Dating Advice.; I play guitar and have been on at least one record. Working on a couple ...
I play guitar and have been on at least one record. Working on a couple more band projects. I kid you not, you don't even have to know how to play well, just be confident. Don't turn your back to the crowd and be all emo, put your crotch in their face, play like you'd fuck. I bend notes, I intentionally miss rhythms, I'm always unpredictable and the crowd is always in for a surprise. I got more "play" after shows than I ever had in my life.
Other great hobbies:
Cooking. Baking. Women love to eat good food. I'm currently in culinary school and I keep pictures of the desserts on my phone. I'm currently working on making it a Digital Photo routine and it's definately DHV. I show a pic of one of my mousse cakes coated in chocolate and caramel and, unless the woman is fucking lame, the women "ooooh" and "ahhhhh" over it. If the girl says "I don't like chocolate", it's an opportunity to neg. "Really? God, I bet you hate sex, too." I want to learn the art of Italian food, though, as it just seems more meant for sharing than "modern" French-based cuisine. A big, steaming pile of freshly made/cooked pasta, olive oil, some tomato base with roasted eggplant, garlic, and fresh herbs... and a big hunk of freshly baked ciabatta or pan siciliano... fresh Parmigianno Reggiano, grated. A bottle of good wine. Candles and softer music. Follow it up with a lighter dessert, maybe a chocolate mousse in a glass (parfait) or maybe on a tuile cup with some sugar decorations... Yeah, if you played all your A1-C3 right, you're heading straight to S3.
Other hobbies I enjoy:
Listening to music:wish I could do this more. I've put away the iPod so I can talk to girls during the commute. The iPod, I've found, is bad for my social life as I can just get lost in the music. As for recommendations, I like Style's recommendation for Cesaria Evora for make-out music. I've been picking up older "Easy Listening" stuff from the likes of Sinatra, Dean Martin, Bing Crosby. Early James Brown is great for "gettin' down", as is Otis Redding. I must hang my head in shame for not having any Isaac Hayes or Barry White. And then, there's a huge world of "newer" stuff that's great to listen to in a zillion genres. I tend to stay away from black/death metal because it's just too... Could you really fuck to Cannibal Corpse? Although, I have had sex to Ministry's "A Mind is a Terrible Thing to Taste" once.
Reading good books: history/philosophy, interesting fiction like Bukowski, Palahnuik, Vonnegut, etc. I'd stay away from things like "Da Vinci Code" just because it's... too pop?
Riding bike: Exercise, people watch, etc. I sold my car so it's my main form of transportation except for the bus.
Dancing: Girls love to dance. Most guys don't. If you're the smooth guy on the dance floor, guess who they're going to dance with? Some people don't like the dance floor, and that's fine. It works for me, as it gets my energy up and puts me in the mood to talk. I want to learn Salsa and Swing so I have real dance moves, and not my borderline retard "raver" style.
Going out: This can be a hobby in itself. Finding great places to hang out, small little art galleries, places to sit and watch the sun set or stargaze at night.
Things I wouldn't recommend mentioning to girls until you've closed:
Comic Book collection
World of Warcraft addiction
I generally try new things that I don't think will be "congruent" with my current image and sometimes I surprise myself and enjoy it. So don't dismiss, say, dancing, until you've done it for a few months.
Good luck everyone!
EDIT: other hobbies I'd love to get into but currently cannot due to money, time, or availability:
Woodworking (you know, if you can build shit like furniture, you are also able to fix shit around the house. Women love that, too).
Glass Blowing (studio glass art)
Organic Gardening (I guess I *could* start up an herb garden for my kitchen)
Someone mentioned martial arts earlier, which is fun for me (I played judo for quite a few years), but not exactly something I like to bring up unless someone else brings it up. To me, it just sounds a lot like "Yeah, I'm a tough guy, LOVE ME" (try-hard). Good god, just don't do "katas" for a girl to impress her, eh? Capoeira is a style I want to learn, simply because it looks great when you do it right, builds your body in a great way, and teaches things like rhythm which is important when you dance... and fuck.
Last edited by CharlieAngel; 05-16-2006 at 06:34 PM.
Djing is the shit. At a gig the whole room reacts to you, it's similar to playing in a band in that respect. It's a very hip hobbie.
Once you know how to mix and rock a party you can get into the competition style stuff like scratching and juggling. Both are challenging, but addictive. Once you get some stunts down you can show off.
my hobbies are a manifistation of my work. My job is high pressure, to no-ones fault by own due to my elegance in opening buying channels. the need for me to escape my brain, the daily grind and stress that pumps through my body whilst in the office, is essential. I enjoy such activites as sky-diving (9,500ft) is a real rush. i play rugby for the fear factor. I suppose i like to hurt people in a round about way. I enjoy driving, i take my car onto race curcuits around the UAE, usually to the A1 GP track here in dubai to curb my temptation of racing round the streets. I have also been into bikes for the last 3 years. slowly working my way up from a aprila 125 to a suzzuki gsxr600. Due to the traffic in Dubai, and poor quality of driving displayed by the majority i only take me bike out late at night. usually between the hours of 12-3am. Obviously this isnt something i do everyday, but i again enjoy blasting down the straights at 250kmh and getting my knee down round roundabouts. Everything i'v mentioned above gives me a rush, the andorphins in my body release my brain from the concious and i'm free for the second i hit terminal velocity in a dive, come out the bend perfect and hit the straight on the A1 GP track, get on one wheel through the traffic on my bike or engage hard in the scrum at rugby. It all makes me feel free and alive for just that second. I work hard and play hard. There are times i like to get deep, alone and analyse where im going, what im doing. I enjoy trips to the beach by myself, it gives me the oppertunity to read the paper, catch up on my tan and give my brain a rest. My favoirate place to go to relax is in the desert. I take the 4x4 out every so often into the desert, if you go far enough east between ras-al-kaihma and ajman you can get out of the car and eperiance total silence. No traffic, people talking shouting, no nothing. It even feels alot quiter if you talk to yourself when your in total silence. The stars in the UAE are amazing too, because of all the lights in dubai you dont see stars unless you go far enough out, laying on the bonnet of the car in total silence looking at billions of stars, all bright like the north star is amazing. Its soon puts everything back into perspective. I dont think any of my hobbies give me a PUA aura, girls whom know i skydive think im crazy! I think its more of a DHLV as you dice with death. I know a few girls iv been with have tried to change me and stop me from doing things as skydiving. But seriously sex is good, but nothing in comparason to falling to earth at 180kmh!
So thats more you now know about me!
I think anything that you can convey with passion is good (maybe unless it's archaeology, think Ross Gellar!). Here are mine, asterisk being those getting the best reactions when I talk about them.
- Languages *: I now speak several and it DHV. Of course, never brag about it.
- Working out *: Avoiding meat-head talk
- Graphology *
- Web design/Internet
- Stock market*: Shows you can handle money
- International real estate*
- Volunteering*: I happened to volunteer before joining the community, so I discovered that it has its benefits when it comes to sarging as well !
I noticed the benefit of hobbies on girls in high school about 6 years ago, and since then I tried to get add a new hobby that interested me every 2-4 months. My hobbies right now are:
Languages (this is the most recent one, im learning polish and spanish right now)
dancing (this i originally started for women because 99% of women love to dance, but after i got into it I realized I love this stuff as well)
Movies (Im a movie buff so any movie that gives an amazing perspective on something I gotta see it) (i have around 132 dvd's on my wall, I make sure its one of the first things a woman sees when she comes into the apartment)
and im going to go into hand writing analysis and swimming
I think thats it...
Yeah another reason i keep so many hobbies is because I found that when I didn't have anything new to do I would go into sets of depression and end up on anti depressants for a few months. i got tired of this and realized I can keep outta the depression if im always busy. Another great thing about having all the different hobbies is slowly showing them to women who you feel are good enough to keep around. If I find a women of exceptional quality who I would like to keep around i will show her a new one of my hobbies every week, (by accident of course )
I agree with loads of this stuff. personally i do hobbies because i love them rather than pickup but the satisfaction gained from doing these things is amazing when you finally pull something off and definitely worth it
- Contact Juggling
- I'm starting cha cha, and gonna try salsa i think
- Working out
- Psychology (Which I love)
- Wing Chun
- I'm also starting music making. Get some good kit and make some awesome stuff up. When a chick ask you what your listening to "Oh i ain't decided what I'll call i yet"
Hobbies that guys have (friends, exes, etc) that I think are sexy:
Bike racing - motorcycle. Just having a motorcycle is sexy
Carpentry, etc. I like it when they can fix stuff
Reading - da vinci isn't too pop, sometimes it's good to have some knowledge on something that everyone knows about. If you go too intellectual some people won't be able to relate.
Working out - shows that you take care of yourself but don't talk about the details unless you've got a good knowledge base. I don't really like it when I know more about it than the guy does
Golf - it's just a man thing. Gets the man out of the house a lot so you can have some space
Drawing/Photography - caricatures would be great if you had a date over. Think Vanilla Sky w/Tom Cruise and Penelope Cruz
Continuing education - I like it when a guy is always moving towards goals and learning something new.
EDIT: Trivia! Sometimes a really cool uncommon fact that works into the conversation is neat. Like why is there a star on the male outhouse door and a moon on the women's? And why do we only see moons most of the time?
Last edited by imonfire; 06-01-2006 at 05:51 PM.
Surfing, its a must the water is too warm here and is awesome fun.
Capoeira, the music the moves the game you play with fellow capoeristas in the roda, just gives you plenty of energia Axe!!!
Rock Climbing, great for strength and its more challenging than weight lifting gives me more to think about, what holds to use etc. Still lift every now and then.
I've had a million and one, hobbies over the years. So,basically, I know alot about a little, but I can find I can find a common ground with most. Some stuff, desreves just a mention...others can be money in the bank. Women are more observant than men; they will notice how many times u say u go to the gym or berate them with anything repeatedly.I throw stuff out there and see if she has a glimmer of intrestrest...
-traveling- Some how it'll comeout that I backpacked across europe for a summer. They're eyes seem to glaze over with attraction/envy. Millions of ?'s will come...where did u go? what did u do? where was your favorite place? When you've been to the same place and u can compare notes...its almost like you've been there together.Impressed as they are, I tell them of the trip around the world I'm planning. I throw in "if u play your cards right, maybe you can come."
-dancing- only if you're really good or at the least waty better then them.
-reading- I do better with more intelligent girls b/c I've read a few books. Which most guys they meet aparently don't do, Its like intelectual peacocking, if u will.
I want to go own, but too much to drink...
Man, I feel left out of this.
-Cooking and music are tied for top spot these days. Cooking is what I do for a living, and I'm not ashamed to say that I am DAMN good at it. Women adore this ability when they discover you have it, and telling them you're a chef is an instant DHV in these food-aware days we live in. Also, I'm now the drummer in a band which receives a great deal of local acclaim, and we're sounding better now than they ever have in their career. I've been drumming for like fourteen years now, and while I'm not a god, I can definitely hold my own in a chops-contest (even though I don't view a good musician as someone who needs to flaunt his technical ability). Both of these skills were majority-self-taught. <-- This in itself is yet another way to stand out from the crowd: When you teach yourself something for the sake of learning it/because you have passion for it/were inspired to do so/for personal betterment, you automatically separate yourself from the pack. Drumming is something I'm highly passionate about, yet only another musician would ever understand why I took up the craft - you can't explain it to a woman or man why you've sacrificed time and effort into maintaining a skillset which has no "profit-potential". The point behind me taking up drumming isn't something I can point to and show a person the "why", it's completely intangible, as is the benefit I receive from drumming.
-Making stained glass. Expensive art form, but so much fun, and decidedly non-standard.
-Urban exploration. Here's a site that describes this growing phenomenon. I love the thrill of finding a random abandoned building and rooting through it to find it's secrets.
-Hand in hand with the above, I don't mind a little senseless vandalism every now and again. (Nothing vicious mind you; just taking the hood ornaments off of cars, random acts of defacement that generate more of a "For fuck's sake!!" response in the "victim" than any monetary drain) Chaos must balance order.
-Art museums. I got out of participating in the art world long ago when the pretension of it damn near drove me mad, but I still enjoy going to museums to see and experience the things being made. I have a hearty distrust and disgust with all things postmodern, but occasional glimpses of forethought can be seen in a precious few pieces.
-Writing. I can whittle off essays about philosophical problems, environmental concerns and possible solutions, diagnostic descriptions of societal decay and what to do about it, spiritual tracts, etc. but I receive the most joy out of writing fiction. I don't have a lot of work to my name (most being under pseudonyms), but this is simply due to me reawakening my childhood love for this activity as of last year. It had lain dormant for years until someone asked me to write something innocuous for them, which stirred the slumbering beast.
-Biking. Specifically, bicycling. I love the feel of the wind in my face, and I'm petrified of motorbikes (even though my oldest brother had many in his time, you'd think i'd be desensitized to the experience; then again, I have him to thank for me still being unable to watch horror movies to this very day. Christ, I'm still afraid of the dark, mainly due to an overactive imagination; however, I wouldn't give up this imagination for the world.). Also, I walk almost every day for an hour.
-I'm looking into dance lessons. A friend of mine drags me out to go dancing with her all the time, but I haven't the foggiest as to how to move properly. If I'm drunk enough, I stop caring about what I look like, but this also leads to me stepping on people, crashing into tables, etc. So, we wanted to go take lessons together so that we could just waltz onto any dance floor and out of nowhere take command of it. (She makes an awesome pivot, and this would only catapult our successes. She loves picking women up just as much as I do.)
Right now, that sums it up. Being interesting is much more fun than being boring. I leave that to the other 3 billion losers out there. When being interesting becomes the norm, I'm going to turn into the single most boring piece of crap a woman has ever seen. "I'm a fucking bum. I sit at home eating bon-bons, watching the Young and the Restless, and collect welfare checks. I lead a charmed life." No word of a lie, this has worked for a friend of mine.
Sidenote: .....yes, I actually sporadically keep up on what's going on in Young and the Restless. Blame my mother for that. Grow up with a mother who's watched that show for 25 years, and you can't even help yourself. Oddly enough, girls flip the fuck out when they hear you keep tabs on the show. They LOVE it. Go figure.
Last edited by Oneiricon; 06-08-2006 at 11:33 AM.