Going back to university in my 30's

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    Quote Originally Posted by new2town
    These two statements sound contradictory.. They'll be open-minded to who steps to them congruently, and that's usually the trait of someone who doesn't care what anyone else thinks.
    Good point about these being contradictory - I didn't even realize it. I'm probably overanalyzing this situation. It would probably be better to just sarge away and if some fraction isn't interested, so what.

    Being congruent isn't a problem for me when dealing with university HB's. I have a lot of experience relating to a younger crowd. My sister and some other relatives who I'm close to are noticeably younger.

    And I stopped caring what anyone else thought years ago. Long story short, I had to.



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    Quote Originally Posted by 0210 View Post
    It would probably be better to just sarge away and if some fraction isn't interested, so what.


    It is a numbers game.. The more you approach the more you'll get to the young HB's who want some more mature dude to show them the ropes.. rudimentary math. meekly approaching some girl here and there because someone might notice, what is that going to do?

    I used to care what other people thought prior to my self-evolution these last 2 years.. What the girl would think of my approach if she didn't like me.. how many other people would think I'm lame etc.. who'd be talking to who about my missed attempt.. Fast forward to now, where I literally approach every chick I'm interested in - outcome-independently.. when you have that freedom, you finally feel like a man..

    But again, this is all inner game.. If your secure with yourself 100%, and you believe that other people are lucky to be around you 100%, the world is your playground and you'll do what you want.. It's when you have the reservations that other people's thoughts even matter. I understand that your a respectful dude, it's just not about the HB's I gather from your posts but you want respect from your community.. But they should respect you for who you are not what you are doing if they don't their not worth it.. and it's your natural right as a biological male to chase the tail you want, repressing that will only lead to pent-up inner aggression and eventually psychological/physical problems

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    Congratulations on unlearning to care what other people think. It's not easy, is it?

    It's partly respect - I'm not trying to creep out anyone out. But the more I think about it, the more I realize that's unlikely. Especially using your tricks on calibrating to the HB's interest level.

    Now that I think about it - suppose I hit on some HB who isn't interested because of my age. Then she turns around and tells five of her friends. It doesn't really change the situation because the ones who are OK with the age difference aren't going to care. Right?

    About the social circle, that's a good way of looking at it. If they're not OK with me hitting on whoever, they're not worth it. If it comes to that, there are better social circles...

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    yes 0210, imagine yourself at the University or in real life, automatically and without hesitation, freely taking the shot at any girl you see fit.. any young HB.. you don't have to be drawing attention to yourself or emberassing yourself at all.. just calmly asking which was the Library is, or who the professor is of that class, and just by their response ascertaining whether she's down to be gamed or not.. Let's just say for argument sakes, I'll play the extreme devil's advocate and say 1/10 of young HB's really get off from older cats (which is not the case at all, the majority do if your sh1t is correct), and your approaching 30 a week of whichever one's you want.. you may even be going to the jucos, lol, to increase these numbers. The young cats don't care and still want to be your friend because you radiate a confidence that people just want to be around.. In fact when you get to this level of game you understand how miniscule gaming chicks really is, it's just natural and a part of male biological existence and these silly pretentious questions disappear.. Now apply this to every aspect of your life, automatically talking to whichever chick you like.. Outcome-independent because your so secure with yourself of how they'd be lucky to be with you, rejection becomes meaningless.. This freedom is a 40 million dollar gift, it's peace of mind, peace of soul, no pent up garbage whatsoever.. You need to fix that inner game, you can make the reality you want (hypnosis, fantasy becomes reality, instruct and build your subconscious). This is alpha.. 250 years from now nobody is going to care how much you got rejected, just how much of your DNA has been passed down.. When your truly living, your only living for you, life is like a video game and you do whatever you want.. not one ounce of your actions/reactions from what others could possibly say.. and people only want to be around you and this confidence more than the cat who meekly tries to acquiese to society's bullsh1t. This should be your University experience, but you need to structure it in your mind.

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    Quote Originally Posted by new2town View Post
    yes 0210, imagine yourself at the University or in real life, automatically and without hesitation, freely taking the shot at any girl you see fit.. any young HB.. you don't have to be drawing attention to yourself or emberassing yourself at all.. just calmly asking which was the Library is, or who the professor is of that class, and just by their response ascertaining whether she's down to be gamed or not.. Let's just say for argument sakes, I'll play the extreme devil's advocate and say 1/10 of young HB's really get off from older cats (which is not the case at all, the majority do if your sh1t is correct), and your approaching 30 a week of whichever one's you want.. you may even be going to the jucos, lol, to increase these numbers. The young cats don't care and still want to be your friend because you radiate a confidence that people just want to be around.. In fact when you get to this level of game you understand how miniscule gaming chicks really is, it's just natural and a part of male biological existence and these silly pretentious questions disappear.. Now apply this to every aspect of your life, automatically talking to whichever chick you like.. Outcome-independent because your so secure with yourself of how they'd be lucky to be with you, rejection becomes meaningless.. This freedom is a 40 million dollar gift, it's peace of mind, peace of soul, no pent up garbage whatsoever.. You need to fix that inner game, you can make the reality you want (hypnosis, fantasy becomes reality, instruct and build your subconscious). This is alpha.. 250 years from now nobody is going to care how much you got rejected, just how much of your DNA has been passed down.. When your truly living, your only living for you, life is like a video game and you do whatever you want.. not one ounce of your actions/reactions from what others could possibly say.. and people only want to be around you and this confidence more than the cat who meekly tries to acquiese to society's bullsh1t. This should be your University experience, but you need to structure it in your mind.
    BECAUSE I am considering going back to school, I would be curious to see how the experience works out for you. Has anyone published a "How To" Guide for older guys on college campuses ?

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    new2town, I love the visualizations you describe. I'm trying to internalize it and actualize it, realizing that it won't happen overnight.

    Spearman, if there's any material specific to non-traditional students in a university setting, I'm not aware of it. There's a lot of material out there specifically for university students. I haven't read any of it, having decided to focus on Magic Bullets and the basics for now. So I don't know whether or not this material works for non-traditional students.

    In researching going back to school, I've asked several traditional-aged students whether they thought someone who was somewhat older would fit in on campus. Nobody thought it would be a problem.

    For those of you who've had success sarging at universities in your 30's and 40's: Does this work better at some universities or types of universities than others? (If it works better at some types of schools, these schools might be a better bet for us.)

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    i was in grad school twice -- once in my late 20s and once in my mid-30s.

    I didn't know doodley-squat about game, and my own feeling is not to try to view the world in terms of "game" or "non-game" types of anything, including schools. I went to a HUGE university but in a small program and it was great for meeting women.

    I also went to a fairly small university with a large program in my field, and it was just fine, too.

    Even when I was going out off-campus, being a "student" had its own kind of status and was a conversation-starter.

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    Yo man, I am almost 30 years old and I am still going to school. I realize that I have been more mature to people. Many people think that I am early 20's who is so impressivly acting like 30 years old. They still call me young gentleman. Anyway, I am at school to study certain subjects and earn a diploma. I am not there just to look for girls. I have seen some girls expressed their interest, but I don't like them come to me. That would distract my focus in school.

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    By the way, the benefict of going back to school is that you really feel your life is completely fresh to start. That is how I feel everytime I go back to school after a long vacation.

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    When your game is tight you'll take what you want and not give a damn.. but until then, you'll always want a populated school so you have plenty to game and can remain inconspicuous.. If your trying to mix in with the crowd (i.e. more re-entries - mature students), urban schools are the best.. urban, commuter Universities and urban jucos have a cross-sector of the population.. and I would suggest nights as well.. during the day the mature folks work. But again, get your game to the point where it's meaningless.

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